Immature, pointless encounter... venting

[ddlovexx]

So, I've been doing great for the most part. I think about him sometimes and get sad but I don't have any urge whatsoever to speak to or see him. (For those of you who don't know my story... guy turned into a douche, we broke up, he got a new gf right away... who was obviously there and I didn't know.)

 

I was at work and when I got out and looked at my phone I saw:

Him: Would you just ****ing stop? Ur like a 3 year old.

(I was going to ignore him but I had to know what he was talking about as I had not spoken to him or anyone or done anything.)

Me: What in the world are you talking about?

Him: Stop ****in friend requesting her

Me: Uhm... I've had both of you blocked since the day I found out. Why the hell would I want to friend request her? I have better things to do. Idgaf about either of you. Wow so you're new gf is lying to you already? You're perfect for each other.

Him: And stop talking to my friends.

Me: I haven't even spoken to anyone since the day I found out and I don't even have any of "your friends" numbers anymore. **** OFF I don't want to talk to you.

Him: Keep doing **** watch i'm gonna get really mad

Me: hahah Am I supposed to be afraid? LEAVE ME ALONE.

Him: I'm just sayin... try me.. watch

Me: What part of I want nothing to do with you don't you understand. GO AWAY.

 

He never responded. Now, I just want to say that I have probably never been this mean to anyone before but this was what I felt. How dare he even text me... I want nothing to do with either of them and blocked both of them two weeks ago. This made me mad for a second and then I laughed. For him to be such a douche and mean to me? If anyone should be angry it should be ME. HE's the douche. HE had a girl the whole time. HE left without warning. HE wanted nothing to do with me. He's 24 going on 17.

 

I don't expect to ever hear from him again and I'm fine with it. I know we're going to wind up going to the same places and it'll be awkward because he won't even say hi, but I guess I shouldn't want to interact with him anyway.

 

I also find myself wondering if he ever thinks of me (probably not) or if he will down the road. It's as if the past year and our love together vanished into thin air. Like will he realize how terrible he's been or will he forever hate me and be cruel when he thinks of me, though I've done NOTHING at all to him. I don't know. But I'm living... without the person I thought I couldn't live without. Every day is getting easier.

Edited May 30, 2013 by ddlovexx

[maturityassets]

Not really sure if it matters if they ever stop being mad at you. You didn't do anything wrong that's the point. Even if you talked to mutual friends about it all, to see a neutral view point, you think that matters? He sounds really selfish. He is more worried about his own image and clearly he is infatuated with this new girl so much that he would believe her over the person he spent a year with. Some people do end up realizing I suppose that what they did is wrong and usually takes in the form of them wanting to move on as well. My ex clearly forgave me by friend requesting me 2 weeks after she was mad that I had talked to our mutual friend about what she did. I ignored it. I don't see the point of having the ex in our lives right after a break up. If it was a good relationship maybe you guys can be cordial months down the road. Other than that you'll learn from this relationship and it will probably narrow your preferences down to someone that is right for you. Take the high road, let them believe what they want, there views are just as biased as anybody else s on this planet

[latergater]

So, I've been doing great for the most part. I think about him sometimes and get sad but I don't have any urge whatsoever to speak to or see him. (For those of you who don't know my story... guy turned into a douche, we broke up, he got a new gf right away... who was obviously there and I didn't know.)

 

I was at work and when I got out and looked at my phone I saw:

Him: Would you just ****ing stop? Ur like a 3 year old.

(I was going to ignore him but I had to know what he was talking about as I had not spoken to him or anyone or done anything.)

Me: What in the world are you talking about?

Him: Stop ****in friend requesting her

Me: Uhm... I've had both of you blocked since the day I found out. Why the hell would I want to friend request her? I have better things to do. Idgaf about either of you. Wow so you're new gf is lying to you already? You're perfect for each other.

Him: And stop talking to my friends.

Me: I haven't even spoken to anyone since the day I found out and I don't even have any of "your friends" numbers anymore. **** OFF I don't want to talk to you.

Him: Keep doing **** watch i'm gonna get really mad

Me: hahah Am I supposed to be afraid? LEAVE ME ALONE.

Him: I'm just sayin... try me.. watch

Me: What part of I want nothing to do with you don't you understand. GO AWAY.

 

He never responded. Now, I just want to say that I have probably never been this mean to anyone before but this was what I felt. How dare he even text me... I want nothing to do with either of them and blocked both of them two weeks ago. This made me mad for a second and then I laughed. For him to be such a douche and mean to me? If anyone should be angry it should be ME. HE's the douche. HE had a girl the whole time. HE left without warning. HE wanted nothing to do with me. He's 24 going on 17.

 

I don't expect to ever hear from him again and I'm fine with it. I know we're going to wind up going to the same places and it'll be awkward because he won't even say hi, but I guess I shouldn't want to interact with him anyway.

 

I also find myself wondering if he ever thinks of me (probably not) or if he will down the road. It's as if the past year and our love together vanished into thin air. Like will he realize how terrible he's been or will he forever hate me and be cruel when he thinks of me, though I've done NOTHING at all to him. I don't know. But I'm living... without the person I thought I couldn't live without. Every day is getting easier.

 

I think he contacted you. Deliberately. This was some crazy ass reason for him to reach out - he made it up or something so he had a reason to send you a message, pretending he was heated about something you had done. Trust me.

[avelonia2013]

That's awful..what douche! Block him if you can or delete any communications before you read them.

[Leigh 87]

Your ex sounds like a very mean person....

 

I could never talk like that to a guy I once cared about and had a relationship with:sick:

 

You have to focus on two facts:

 

- Your a nice person who does not treat people like they are worthless

 

- he is a nasty person who is treating you, a person he was once close to, like you meant nothing to him.

 

You need to make yourself concerning yourself with people who are mean to others.

 

Focus on the fact that you're a good person who has a lot to offer the right man.

 

It is NOT HEALTHY to focus on people who are toxic and negative, who treat people who they were once close to with this much contempt.

[BustedUpInside]

Geez, that must have been like a Twilight Zone moment. Why would he even text you about that stuff anyway?

 

Normally, I would advocate No Contact and just ignoring him, but in this case, I am actually sort of with you on your responses. He was obviously laboring under some pretty intense delusions so you needed to clear it up.

 

Good for you for sticking up for yourself.

 

Oh, and what a douche!

[Treasa]

Wow, what a loser. I don't blame you for your answers.

 

Alternates:

 

"Haha, pretty funny. Like I care that much about either of you." *block*

 

"This is ddlovexx's BF. Leave my girl alone or I'll come to your house and beat you like the pussy you are, mother****er!" *block*

 

Probably, though, I'd just ignore him and laugh it off and block him.

[mammasita]

I would have just completely ignored him and not given him the satisfaction of even a mean reply.

[fancy feast]

Tough guy alert!

 

Just ignore it from now on. If he does this again, just kick back and enjoy the show.

[esteem-jam]

You should investigate the key element (friend request?) instead of proving to each other how you dont care.

 

Maybe your facebook was open and somebody like your brother or work mates invited her? Maybe you showed up in her "suggested known people" and she interpreted it as your action?

[ddlovexx]

I have completely blocked the girl so she couldn't find my name on FB even if she wanted to, that's how I know it's a lie.

 

I tried to block him but blocking a number doesn't block them from imessaging you.

 

I don't plan on talking to him and NC is easy for me considering what he did and who he now is, I just felt the need to put him in his place there because I hadn't done that. If he reaches out again I won't bother, it's not worth it.

 

Thanks for the support guys.