Azwsu8177 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 This guy I work with I was attracted to right away, but I was married and he met my husband. We split up (100% no contact) shortly after. I had already talked to this guy a little before on IM (just casual chit chat) and he brought up my husband (your husband is big, did he play sports?)... which I though was a good sign, I.e. he's wondering why I'm talking to him so much when I'm married. Well we have a LOT of long IM conversations (always initiates by me but definitely not one sided, he always responds right away and we have great 'talks'). Finally I tell him my husband moved out a month ago, and around the same time I ask him if he's married. He says no, not married and doesn't elaborate... we continue long conversations (again always initiated by me). He is a business analyst, like nerdy really quiet type of guy, not exactly a shy guy but I couldn't see him asking me out even if I was sure he did like me. Well he's never told me he had a girlfriend, even though he has a picture of a girl (we have similar features, of course I think I'm prettier but we may be about the same) so finally in one conversations where he's telling me about his plans and his brothers girlfriend (who was in a movie so he sends me her pic) I go 'that looks like the girl on your desk'... to which he pauses and finally says 'I guess me and my brother have similar tastes'... Still not EVER admitting 'I have a GF'. Sometimes I swear he shows shy guy signs of liking me, *always* quick to come by, show me a picture of his kids (if I ask), help me with any work problem etc. I SWEAR I feel chemistry but then I wonder am I making this up in MY head? I know he has a GF, and I'm always the one initiating discussions (except he'll say hi or whatever)... But he seems to purposefully avoid admitting the GF issue and is responsive when we talk on IM or in person. What the heck? Does he like me or not? I've read shy guy tips and in some way I feel like that applies to him, but I'm sick of always initiating contact and just wish he wouldn't be so coy about his GF because that makes me think he likes me and that's why he doesn't want to tell me. Please help, how would you interpret this???
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 How would I interpret this? That you are relentlessly chasing a guy who has absolutely zero interest in dating you. Of course he's not adding fuel to the fire (unwanted fire from his perspective) by discussing his romantic life with you. Plus he has to work with you and try to maintain some semblance of pleasantness in the work environment. Please go find someone else...or better yet, work on divorcing your husband.
Esoteric Elf Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Some guys may never have had girlfriends...difficult to understand perhaps. I am not saying that he is one, but I myself have plenty of pictures of this one girl floating around; I am not her boyfriend, nor have I ever had a girlfriend, but I have sent her flowers anonymously. Same with my red-headed brother, though he says he keeps pictures of a girl he knows more out of a defensive maneuver (potential ostracism if single perpetually among male company) in his wallet. This dude may be little different.
weedsandposies Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Did I miss the part where you actually ASKED him if he has GF?
MomsSpaghetti Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Well we have a LOT of long IM conversations On AOL 3.0? Or have you bought the new version, 4.0, yet?
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