BLS Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Was in a 2.5 year relationship. Broke up 2 months ago (by her). NC for 1.5 months (except seeing her in school which i can't help). She had been talking about getting a tattoo ever since the BU. Today I finally saw it. It went through me like a hot poker. I never liked the idea of her getting one and seeing it threw me over the edge into a borderline anxiety attack/fit of rage. It is simply something written across her ribs. Why am I so angry over this? I have been feeling better and this took me right back to how I felt a month ago. Please help
BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 You tell me, why are you so angry? Possible reasons: - you are mad that your opinion doesn't count anymore in her decisions -you are mad because you think she got the tattoo to spite you -you are mad because people think it looks good, and you secretly hoped it would look terrible and she would have to acknowledge that you were right -you are mad because it is just one more thing that cements how different you guys are and therefore the breakup was the correct thing to happen -you are mad because it makes her look cool, and you want her to look like the biggest loser in the world. Do any of these sound right? If not, I am out of ideas but maybe thinking about it will help you find the source of your anger. Once you figure it out, then you can work through it because it is definitely not going to do you any good to just hold onto it. 1
Chi townD Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It shouldn't bother you. You should be like, "Well, if she wants to mark up her body permanantly, that's her decision." And then, move on. NEXT!!! 1
Author BLS Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 You tell me, why are you so angry? Possible reasons: - you are mad that your opinion doesn't count anymore in her decisions -you are mad because you think she got the tattoo to spite you -you are mad because people think it looks good, and you secretly hoped it would look terrible and she would have to acknowledge that you were right -you are mad because it is just one more thing that cements how different you guys are and therefore the breakup was the correct thing to happen -you are mad because it makes her look cool, and you want her to look like the biggest loser in the world. Do any of these sound right? If not, I am out of ideas but maybe thinking about it will help you find the source of your anger. Once you figure it out, then you can work through it because it is definitely not going to do you any good to just hold onto it. All of these things are certainly contributing factors to my feelings. Its another sign of her moving on. In general I have felt much better, but this tattoo thing just made me nauseous.
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