Phantom888 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Before our 1st date, we called each other by our names. After the great date, she started calling me "sweetie" and I started calling her "baby"....it was very natural, and felt really good. I'm gonna take a wild guess that women only use terms of endearment on people they really like. Right? I know she likes me...why am I so nervous? oh because I really like her. ARGH!
BreakOnThrough Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Jeez, surprised you even got into a relationship in the first place is you have to ask! JK.. Of course she like you!! Why the worry? Relax, enjoy the ride... 1
CherryT Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Some girls do call everyone "hun or sweetie" etc. But you can probably tell who those girls are right in the beginning and you should probably feel a distinction when she calls you that versus the sweet girl at the cash register. I don't give pet names to anyone else but my boyfriend. 1
Treasa Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I tend to call almost everyone I'm ok with "hon" or "sweetie" or "love." Unless I dislike them, then I don't even talk to them, much less call them anything. If I call someone "baby" or "sexy" though, that's different. 1
Author Phantom888 Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Ah...but the thing is, she didn't start calling me sweetie until after the 1st date, and I get the sense she feels comfortable with me. UPDATE: Just got a sweet email from her. She states, "I can't wait to be in your arms again." Ok...confirmed. Feeling is mutual. 2
ThomasD Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 You have to do a little reading-between-the-lines based on the context, and the personality, to determine the underlying significance. I was never comfortable with the standard endearing nicknames like "honey", "baby", etc - which bothered my wife a little. I have a few rather unique pet-names for her. I tolerate "dear" and "hubby", but when I hear "lover" I know it's close to time for, well, some lovin'.
Keenly Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I don't really know if these are black and white rules. This girl I'm talking to right now.... we just sort of fell into our labels. She started calling me babe and I started calling her kitten. Idk how this started or where it came from, but it seems to make us both happy.
BluEyeL Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 You're so smitten! Please don't start to sound like our friend Iamaga (where is this going, where is this going) 1
pteromom Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 UPDATE: Just got a sweet email from her. She states, "I can't wait to be in your arms again." Ok...confirmed. Feeling is mutual. That's sweet. Yep, she liiiiiiiiiikes you. Communicate! Never guess what she's feeling or thinking... that's a bad road to go down. Congrats on a great start to a hopefully great relationship. 3
todreaminblue Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Before our 1st date, we called each other by our names. After the great date, she started calling me "sweetie" and I started calling her "baby"....it was very natural, and felt really good. I'm gonna take a wild guess that women only use terms of endearment on people they really like. Right? I know she likes me...why am I so nervous? oh because I really like her. ARGH! I know quite a few people who use the terms hun, babe, darl sweetie.......i dont.......i have never actually called anyone darling......and when guys say hey baby...my normal reaction is to go im not your baby......my ex actually asked me what i would prefer he use and what i didnt like to be called......he was a bit careful with me.......i told him what ever he wanted to ....i like debs though....smilin.......and he used to sometimes used to say here kitty kitty.....that would make me laugh....in public i am not a fan of pet names......they to me ....are sweet in private....so yes if i call someone baby...it isnt on display.......but i am weird so......most women i have found dont mind what you call them as long as it is said with love...so do what comes naturally for you and for her to call you...i think names like poopy or diddums though ought to be outlawed.......;0)..again...shudder...just a personal preference and opinion of mine.........deb
Negative Nancy Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I tend to call almost everyone I'm ok with "hon" or "sweetie" or "love." :laugh: How annoying. Thank God I will never run into you.
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Negative Nancy, that was so hilarious! You never fail to disappoint. Different strokes for different folks. Wow! I hadn't realized that some folks started using pet names as early as the first or second date. Interesting. I've never had the urge to use pet names until I was actually in a relationship. Then I tend to use pet names that are highly specific to the person...a mannerism, a trait, an inside joke between us. I also tend to use my own version of their name as opposed to the standard abbreviation of their name or the version used by everyone else. We'll have our own shorthand and language, but I don't think I've used the standards...babe, hon, sweetie, etc. They don't have much meaning for me. Not sure why. Very interesting thread! 2
Author Phantom888 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 You're so smitten! Please don't start to sound like our friend Iamaga (where is this going, where is this going) What happened to Iamaga? Please no tragedies!
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 As anxious as ever despite things going as well as they possibly could! 1
veggirl Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Eh if a guy was calling me sweetie or baby after the FIRST DATE, I'd a) be kinda creeped out and b) assume he calls EVERY girl he goes on a date with that. It wouldn't feel special at all, and I wouldn't read into it in a "he likes me" way that early at all. 1
Eclypse Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 She started calling me Pooh Bear a little while in because I was big and cuddly. That's when I knew it was true love 1
Author Phantom888 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Eh if a guy was calling me sweetie or baby after the FIRST DATE, I'd a) be kinda creeped out and b) assume he calls EVERY girl he goes on a date with that. It wouldn't feel special at all, and I wouldn't read into it in a "he likes me" way that early at all. But doesn't it depend on the chemistry and the date? Also doesn't it depend on the individual? Let's assume you know for sure he's not a player, and he's a father of little kids. There's no way you would feel creeped out or assume he calls every girl that. IMHO.
veggirl Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 But doesn't it depend on the chemistry and the date? Also doesn't it depend on the individual? Let's assume you know for sure he's not a player, and he's a father of little kids. There's no way you would feel creeped out or assume he calls every girl that. IMHO. No matter the amount of chemistry, I don't feel comfortable calling a guy babe or honey or whatever--or being called those--after a first date. To me those are intimate nicknames. I'm also one of those people who doesn't re-use nicknames. My first serious bf was "honey"--never used it (regularly) on a guy after that. Current bf is "babe"--never used it regularly on a guy before him.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 My guy called me pet names early on, within a couple dates... first it was darling... then babe... then Tam. Now they are all interchangeable as he called me by my real name I call him honey now and then - purely by accident as I feel that way about him. It slips out and still surprises me!
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