myname8 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 So there is this guy; I am going to provide the background story for you all. We have known each other since middle school. I actually had a crush on him; I would bother him and call him names like every other young girl with a crush. Unfortunately, when middle school was over he had to move. A year after (2009) we graduated high school (2008) I crossed paths with him. I was at Hollister with my best friend when suddenly I hear my name. This guy came up to me and said “hey! It’s me john, how are you?” I honestly couldn’t remember him, he had changed. He looked amazing! Gorgeous body, gorgeous face, I was mesmerized. Finally, I came to my senses and initiated a conversation with him. We exchanged numbers and a week later he invited me to dinner. We talked and caught up since we last saw each other. We went out for dinner two more times and I went over his house to watch movies about three times. When we were at his house he would hug me and cuddle with me but he never kissed me or initiated anything sexual. I saw it as him being respectful. The only thing I dislike was that we barely text, he wouldn’t commence contact as much. So then things got a bit complicated, he got busy with school and well I started a relationship with someone else. It’s been three years since we last saw each other until about four months ago that I saw him at a restaurant. I was with one my close guy friends who is close to him (I was not aware of that). I told my friend “hey, what’s up with john? Is he still single?” and my friends said “He is single but don’t go for it, all he does is get with girls and then tell them that he is busy with school and doesn’t talk to them anymore and I don’t want that for you”. So I let it go. About three weeks ago we were talking thru facebook . Then about a week ago I left to spend the weekend at this resort. I posted pictures in facebook and he text me saying “You go to the diplomat and not invite me”. I told him “how am I supposed to know if you wanted to come.” He told me if I wanted to hang out that day to let him know but I ended up hanging out with some other friends instead. So about two days ago I text him and we agreed on having some drinks tomorrow Friday. I am a little nervous because I like him but I can’t figure him out. I don’t know if what my friend said is true or not. I mean if he wanted just sex from me he could have done it, he had many opportunities. Also, I am a bit scared about how to act and what to talk about tomorrow. What do you guys think? I want to send him the sign that I like him but I also want to see what he wants.
Author myname8 Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I guess my biggest concern is that since he looks so good now, that he takes that to his advantage. I feel unconfident with myself when I am around him.
Author myname8 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 I doubt he. He is a good looking guy and out mutual friend has told me about him and other girls. You think he is just shy, scared or something?
Author myname8 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 I saw him last night. We went to watch the basketball game with our mutual friends. We talked for a bit but we were all into the game so not much conversation was done. After the game we said bye to each other but i wanted to hang out with him. I text him on my way home and he told me to go over but by the time he answered I was already home. We decided to just wait until tonight that we go for drinks. I just can't figure him out.
daisybuchanan55 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Don't take this wrong way but it is SO obvious from you post/both your behavior that you are SOOOO young. Nothing wrong with that, you just are! We were all there. That being said, I used to have a crush on a guy just like this, and trust me, it's not worth your time. Guys like this love attention from girls and my guess is that he likes hanging out with you because you're guaranteed to make him feel awesome about himself. I'm sure he also finds you attractive and enjoys your company, but guys like this crave attention from ALL pretty girls. They get off on being charming and knowing that girls want them. Like you, I never did anything sexual with this guy for FOUR YEARS. I thought the same way you did--that if "all he wanted was sex" he would've done it. WRONG! He was having sex with plenty of other girls and wasn't even all that into me! I made the mistake of hanging around all of college until we eventually hooked up the last week senior year...followed by him telling me to "please be quiet" leaving his apartment because his roommates might see/hear me and "tell his girlfriend." I was such a fool!!! Don't fall into this trap! My advice is to completely stop initiating contact with him and let him step up to the plate. Then you'll know how serious he is about hanging out with you, making plans, and perhaps dating you. If you initiate things like drinks/hanging out/ask his friends about him, he will know he's got you wrapped around his finger and you'll never get what you want out of him. So, go for drinks, have fun, but after that, drop it. If he wants to see you he will. But let HIM make the plans, and for God's sake stop asking mutual friends about him. I guarantee they will tell him!
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