maturityassets Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 So I've been in NC with the ex almost a month. We broke up almost 2 months ago, but I has to see her to pick up my stuff which included a pair of concert tickets to my favorite band and she gave me both tickets since the concert was my birthday present (they were expensive as well $150 each). She still decided to give them to me because she said I deserved them regardless that she broke up with me. Long story short we had to go NC after I picked up the tickets because she started to become really selfish and vindictive against some of things I did like talk to our friend about some of the things she did. We ended having our closure on the day of NC and all. She doens't seem mad anymore because she friend requested me on FB 2 weeks after we last talk but I ignored it at least for now. But right now I'm just so tempted to text her to say thank you for the tickets and that the concert was awesome. I think doing this though has me have certain expectations that she will say how much she misses me but in reality that isn't likely to be said. So should I break this NC out of the politeness of my heart to say thank you or is it not worth it as it is more than likely to cause me heartbreak? So confused
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Oh sorry, was that a little obnoxious? Do not break contact. It sounds like you're doing well. Move on. 3
BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I don't think you should thank her. Normally, it would be proper etiquette to thank someone for a gift, but I don't think you are ready if she doesn't give you the response you are hoping for. That would be the only reason to thank her, right? To see what response she would give.... any response at all will derail your progress. It would be an absolute shame to see all your hard work getting better go away. To have to start over when you are nearly back to normal might bring its own devastation. There is no reason to make an absolute final decision today. If you want, you could still thank her in a couple weeks or even months. Why don't you just see how you feel then. If you still want to send thanks, then maybe you could do it then. 2
Chi townD Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Dude, I'm pretty sure you already thanked her when she handed you the tickets stating that you should still go. Stay NC. 4
Author maturityassets Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I don't think you should thank her. Normally, it would be proper etiquette to thank someone for a gift, but I don't think you are ready if she doesn't give you the response you are hoping for. That would be the only reason to thank her, right? To see what response she would give.... any response at all will derail your progress. It would be an absolute shame to see all your hard work getting better go away. To have to start over when you are nearly back to normal might bring its own devastation. There is no reason to make an absolute final decision today. If you want, you could still thank her in a couple weeks or even months. Why don't you just see how you feel then. If you still want to send thanks, then maybe you could do it then. Yeah I would say me seeing her reaction would mainly be the reason to thank her, and therefore it wouldn't be a proper or sincere thank you. I know she probably knows the concert was last night even though she forgets things a lot (terrible memory) but her sister liked my status on FB, and they always talk before bed (which my status simply said seeing Fall out boy and going to save Rock N Roll with my best friend AJ; I didn't post anything directed toward her). I guess if she really was interested to see my response to her she would have texted herself to see how it went. 1
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