Ok Good Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) So I met this great guy OLD and we had 3 solid (and wonderful dates) then he tells me that though he would like to still "enjoy my company" all he can offer is "friendship at this time... (thankfully we had not had sex...) So I thanked him for the good times we had and what a great person he is, but that I was looking for something more meaningful and because I was smittened with him friendship would not be a good situation for me. So I wished him all the best and went no contact (didn't tell him about NC just did it). (He responded by saying he'll say hello every once in awhile, >though I don't know why he said that...) That was about a week ago, since then I deleted all our emails and text messages, removed him from my contacts, threw away his sweet gifts to me, and am one final step away from deleting his vm messages... The reason for the NC was because I fell hard for the great potential he had (when you're lonely, dreams & fantasies are hard to let go of!) --I had to purge myself Really feeling alittle better every day... So this really great thing happened to me yesterday (which he would know the history of) and I really wanted to text him my news...ha! but I don't have his phone number! This thwarted my secret wish that when he heard from me he would reconsider his decision to friend-zone me and want me for a real partner! So I texted the info to a friend instead, clearly not the same, but possibly saved me from further heartache. I still hold on slightly to the idea that he might show back up (I think anyone doing NC has that wish somewhere) but I'm hoping that idea fades with time too... I'm adding this post for those who may have just met someone great and they are rejected by them...somehow when it's super early in the relationship (and you are smittened) the rejection can be really hard because your head is just full of the "dream relationship" and that can be a super hard loss... Wish me strength and a good outcome with the next great guy! Edited May 30, 2013 by Ok Good 4
Author Ok Good Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Ok so I thougt I had thrown his number away but I found it Help! I so want to text him my news (and feed the fantasy that it will renew interest in me). I keep trying to remind myself that HE probably is not that interested and where will the texting go anyway (hopefully he asks me out!)--what is the chance of that (after being friend-zoned)??? I don't know what to do...or I do and don't like the answer, ah this sucks!!
worldgonewrong Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 That was just about a week ago? That's it? I think you need to take a deep breath and not obsess so much.
Treasa Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 So this really great thing happened to me yesterday (which he would know the history of) and I really wanted to text him my news...ha! but I don't have his phone number! This thwarted my secret wish that when he heard from me he would reconsider his decision to friend-zone me and want me for a real partner! So I texted the info to a friend instead, clearly not the same, but possibly saved me from further heartache. I still hold on slightly to the idea that he might show back up (I think anyone doing NC has that wish somewhere) but I'm hoping that idea fades with time too... You're right. It's not the same. Your friend, unlike someone who is behaving his best on the first couple of dates, actually gives a **** about you and is truly happy for you, even if the reaction isn't as exuberant. 1
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