jnel921 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 if he has cheated more than once and broken NC I think you may have to consider divorce. Saying sorry doesn't help him. You have to ask what was his real intention when he reached out? To see if the OW was available for A number 3? You don't sound happy and you have put up with more than you need to.
Author katielee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Jnel- she called him because I had looked at her LinkedIn page to see if she was still employed in the same place. He returned her call. I get the phone call. But he didn't tell me about it, I found out on the phone bill. Trust down to zero again!!
Author katielee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 You understand one affair because you had ONE affair. Keeping score is convenient for the sake of argument. Nope - I never throw that in his face. I just don't understand how someone could do it again after seeing the devastation the first one caused.
BeholdtheMan Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 My husband had two short affairs where I caught him. Three months apart. Maybe he was acting out because I had an affair first. I don't know. Does the reason really matter.Well, I can guarantee you that your earlier affair is almost definitely the reason he's cheating on you with no regard for you It sounds like your marriage is over. You destroyed his trust and now he couldn't care less about keeping your trust. I think you should both move on.
Author katielee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 Well, I can guarantee you that your earlier affair is almost definitely the reason he's cheating on you with no regard for you It sounds like your marriage is over. You destroyed his trust and now he couldn't care less about keeping your trust. I think you should both move on. I reallly don't think he "set out" to cheat on me. It was his poor coping skills from dealing with it all. I hold him totally responsible. and I hold myself responsible for my own cheating. I could go back and say he wasn't emotionally available during our marriage or something like that but no, it was all on me... !00%! We've been working on it for over a year. He does care about me trusting him, once he was done acting out. He's very sorry for what he did and knows it was wrong. thing is, it did smash the trust into a million little pieces....
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