Sympathy Sex : NEVER!!!

[Woohoo]

From my perspective this had nothing much to do with you at all, you can't sweep under the rug the loss of a parent.

 

I think you're giving yourself a bit too much credit and taking this as an ego stroke, when psychologically/emotionally, I think she was just trying to distract herself and was expressing herself in a self-destructive way, not knowing how to cope with with her situation and being in an extremely emotionally vulnerable situation...acting out in a way she may have not otherwise.

 

I don't know how you can just chalk this up to "sympathy sex", the poor girl would have probably cling to just about anyone in this situation that was there to give her some attention.

 

Then you back off and pound your chest to how into you she is and how she is obsessed and this is such a lesson as to why you shouldn't have sex with such unattractive and desperate women. One because you like the attention and two because you think you are awesome enough to be the giver now instead of the beggar.

 

Look, if you are truly experienced or have the benefit of attracting desirable women then you would merely understand that women are women and this can happen with anyone, in fact the most insecure and clingy women can be the most desirable and attractive, and you should already be aware of that. So being "surprised" that this fugly got swept off her feet supposedly because you are so hot is a bit of a douche move if you ask me, sure some women feel that way about certain men, but look at the overall state of women and their self-esteem...it's not exactly "spectacular" so it's really not that big of a flag to wave, there are millions upon millions of men who can do the exact same thing as you any day of the week, if not 10x "better" - relatively speaking.

 

So have some pride, and sympathy...I know this is you showboating and a facade, I know deep down you likely feel bad for this girl but you're probably too afraid to get on her level because of your own insecurity with being weak and vulnerable and having to settle for crumbs, I'm sure it makes you feel good to be in a position of "power", but power...however miniscule, comes with responsibility and you should expect more from yourself...you shouldn't have treated her or made her sound like some needy rat, when the girl just lost her damn parent, you have no idea what she's dealing with or what she is going through, and neither do I...but I can imagine what she may be dealing with alone.

 

Totally agree with you.

 

I am very honest. I admit to things most people do not.

 

I am quite aware she is having a tough time. I also know that I posted this here for MY benefit, not hers. I'm here to let off steam and reread what I say, so that I can better understand what I am feeling. I made her sound like a needy rat because that is what I feel she is in my life. Lesson learned and yes, I do agree with you.

[Forever Learning]

Totally agree with you.

 

I am very honest. I admit to things most people do not.

 

I am quite aware she is having a tough time. I also know that I posted this here for MY benefit, not hers. I'm here to let off steam and reread what I say, so that I can better understand what I am feeling. I made her sound like a needy rat because that is what I feel she is in my life. Lesson learned and yes, I do agree with you.

 

Don't sweat it Woohoo! This is what Love Shack is for, a little bragging, a little goofing, a little of whatever floats your boat. No harm no foul. I think you rock! I don't think you are a bad guy at all.

 

You did your best with the whole situation as it unfolded into a whacked out deal for you (one night stand aftermath with an unstable person). This chick did not act appropriately whatsoever, and you got burned with a stalker situation from a one night stand. That sucks. Stay no contact and carry on. I feel bad this chick had a death in the family, but you had no way of knowing that (if it's even true at all, she might be lying for whatever dysfunctional reason).

 

Honestly, it's usually chicks who have guys stalking them, more often than not. At least that's been my experience when trying to break it off with a guy when thing's don't work out.

 

You are not a bad dude, you didn't aim to hurt anyone's feelings, as I see it. I guess it is a lesson learned, many one night stands can be bad news, unfortunately. But some are good fun. It's always a roll of the dice, isn't it? And anytime you come on here (Love Shack), you risk someone throwing stones and misinterpreting your intentions. Par for the course.

 

And yes, if a chick (or guy) seems unstable - avoid like the plague! That goes for any situation in life. Those folks are always bad news. Anyhow, I say rock on with your bad self, hunny bun!

Edited June 4, 2013 by Forever Learning

[veggirl]

Drama Rama. Yikes. But really this girl is not a player lol. If she was, OP would be chasing her not the other way around. That's laughable to call her a player.