MadTheReaper Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Hello everyone. My girlfriend broke up with me when she lost attraction because I was indecisive, didn't take any initiative, was hypo-tonic and kind of clingy and maybe even boring. She did not give me clearly the reasons but it has been almost 3 months since then and I can now see it all clearly. Since then I've worked a lot on myself. Fixed all these mistakes. We started talking a little at school, keeping it light and fun. Schools are coming to an end and I'll see her only 1-2 times if I am lucky. I told her I would text her to help me with a music project I am working on. Can attraction be re-build through texting? I want to show all these things I've done and she will see how awesome I am..how can I do that without bragging? Should I keep conversations short?
JadedRomantic Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 If you truly have changed, and do realize what you did 'wrong' in the relationship and truly understand why you needed to change ... then you don't need to worry about how to act. Act naturally. However, attraction is attraction and whether it's thru text, in person, or just in the memory, if it's there, it's there. if it's not, it's not. I say go ahead and still keep in contact with her if you feel like it, but make sure it's limited. I would say give her the space she seems to be asking for (since she said you were clingy and boring), and if she sees you having a good time and doing you and everytime you guys talk or see each other, she can't obiviously see that you are trying to get with her and are still head over heels for her, then it may peak her interest more and interest can then turn into attraction. But you never know. I'm going through a break up myself right now and it's ok to hold on to hope, but don't put your life on hold for it and don't try to change you or your actions to try and play to what you think the other person wants.
Author MadTheReaper Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 She only said I had to take initiative..the others I realized myself after the breakup.. I agree, never change for someone else. I only improve for myself. Thanks for the tips, I hope your case works out fine!
totallylost5040 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Jade has it right. Don't give up hope, but you can't put your life on hold. Keep moving, she will see that and it will help you in the long run. I'm going through the SAME thing now. It's very LITTLE contact and I mean little, like once in like two weeks. I'm keeping to myself and working on myself. I got a promotion, planning vacations and just kicking it with friends and having fun... once you are able to do that without worrying about getting her back, she'll see that. She wont' wanna get back with you if you are a shell of your former self.
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