Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) This is a sensitive topic for a number of reasons, for both sexes. Losing your hair can be absolutely devastating for a lot of people. For those who do not have any hair loss: imagine each of your toes slowly falling off one by one until you are left with nothing but stumps at the end of your feet. That is what it feels like. You are essentially powerless to stop genetics if you were meant to be bald. Sure, you can fight it. I have been. Rogaine and Spiro and all sorts of medicinal shampoos...and while it has worked a bit, there is no denying that I will probably be pretty damn close to bald by the time I am 30 (22 now.) That is, unless a cure is discovered before then (which is not out of the realm of possibility anymore.) I have very bad genes on my paternal side when it comes to this, unfortunately. The point I am trying to make is this: going bald before you can find a partner to settle down with is one of the most challenging things about getting older. Those of you with full heads of hair have no idea what it feels like to see people three times your age with the same amount of hair as you. I am not that bad yet, but some of my friends who are have said that it makes it about ten times harder to meet women at bars and clubs. It is such a superficial environment and you basically stand out like a sore thumb. I cannot even imagine what it must be like for women that are losing their hair...I would not even step foot in those places. Another thing: I hate how it is politically incorrect to insult fat people, disabled people or racial differences, but apparently bald or balding people are fair game for insults. Edited May 30, 2013 by Suave 1
carhill Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I've been to enough funerals of guys with full heads of hair who were younger than me to be appreciative of what nature and my parents have given me. IME, the twenties were the toughest, but that's pretty general anyway. With billions of people on the planet, and hundreds of millions of males with MPB, it's inevitable that they won't be overlooked simply due to lack of scalp hair. Small consolation at your age, but that's how it generally goes. Good luck.
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Suave, seriously... Sometimes when I meet a guy who's got a full head of hair, and he's in his late 30's, I get a little sad. I think to myself, "He's never going to start losing it, I'm never going to be able to convince him to shave it. Sad." Trust me, PLENTY of women LOVE a bald head. So long as you don't do the pretend-it's-not-thinning and comb-over or spikey thing, you'll be jussssst fine insofar as your hair is concerned. Promise. 1
Author Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I could probably pull it off alright...but it's just the fact that it's so early that gets to me. Like I could handle it fine after 30, but 22 is just plain unfortunate. Not many girls in my age bracket are down for full on bald guys. Having said that, I always have appealed more to older women anyways
happykat Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I also love a bald guy (with a goatee that is).. sexy! It's not about the hair..It's about the confidence. 1
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I could probably pull it off alright...but it's just the fact that it's so early that gets to me. Like I could handle it fine after 30, but 22 is just plain unfortunate. Not many girls in my age bracket are down for full on bald guys. Having said that, I always have appealed more to older women anyways Both of my high school boyfriends intentionally bic'd their heads. I think if you do it intentionally NOW, the ladies will flock... I mean, FFS. It just SCREAMS testosterone!
Author Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I actually buzzed it down to a 2 on the top, 1 on the sides last year and I loved it. Not sure about going the whole way...maybe if I get too drunk at a party someone will do it for me I will probably buck up and do it if it gets any worse over the next year or so. I have a pretty good physique so maybe it won't look so bad. 1
skydiveaddict Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Losing your hair can be absolutely devastating for a lot of people. Is transplant an option for you?
Author Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I believe you have to be 25, which I am not yet. Plus, it has the potential to look terrible if your hair loss is very aggressive and you could end up with weird patches everywhere after a while. It's a possibility down the road. But I think they will have better alternatives in the future.
Lobouspo Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Don't give up here Suave.....With stem cell research a cure could be around the corner. Have you tried Propecia? To effectively fight MPB you really need a systemic DHT inhibitor. Also see if your doctor will prescribe Avodart off label. More potent than propecia as it inhibits both types of DHT production. As a topical agent Google Polysorbate 80 and hair loss. Dirt cheap stuff that will not irritate the scalp like minoxidil. 1
Author Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Don't give up here Suave.....With stem cell research a cure could be around the corner. Have you tried Propecia? To effectively fight MPB you really need a systemic DHT inhibitor. Also see if your doctor will prescribe Avodart off label. More potent than propecia as it inhibits both types of DHT production. As a topical agent Google Polysorbate 80 and hair loss. Dirt cheap stuff that will not irritate the scalp like minoxidil. I have not tried Propecia because I am terrified of the potential side effects. Hair is one thing...your junk not working is another. As a last resort, maybe I will. The topical Spiro I am using now is a DHT inhibitor. I'm going to try it in combination with Minox for a while to see if it slows things down or even halts them indefinitely. If not, I will explore other options. I know a cure isn't far off...but will we ever see it marketed anytime soon? I have my doubts. Pharmaceutical companies make millions and millions off of hair loss products. If there is a cure, it will be a yearly injection type thing to make you keep having to pay for the rest of your life. Having said that, I would gladly do it.
fiftyofsomethin Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I would consider yourself lucky. I am 18 and I'm already noticing my hairline receding. Genes can be a damned ******* sometimes. Count your blessings. I have already changed my hairstyle to slightly accomodate for it.
salparadise Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Listen to what Star Gazer is saying. It's absolutely true. There are LOTS of women who are actually turned on by it! And there are huge numbers of women who don't give damn one way or the other. Who want's a woman that's preoccupied with something that superficial anyway? One key to happiness in this life is accepting what is. You will have to either accept it or fight it. Accepting it frees you forever. Fighting it is a constant battle and lock you into the mindset of being insecure that there's something wrong with you, that you have to try very hard to be who you're not. I accepted and I'm glad I did. I have a friend who did transplants, and while it may have been the right choice for him, I don't envy that look one tiny bit. He just looks like a guy who spent a lot of money trying to cover up an insecurity. It was a little disconcerting for me at first, which is where you're at, because my long blond hair got so much attention from young ladies back in the college days. But once I accepted it, no more anxiety. I'd suggest that you consider shaving it now to get used to the idea and look, knowing that you can grow it back. Making the attitude adjustment voluntarily may make it easier. After awhile it's just another physical characteristic like blue eyes vs. brown. 2
MomsSpaghetti Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Hit it with a preemptive strike: buzz your head now and stop taking hair loss products. A buzzed head that loses one short hair at a time is a smooth transition into the full cue ball (which might not be inevitable, by the way. Don't put too much stock in your paternal ancestors). If you try to "fight" it, you're gonna have a miserable life of counting hairs on your pillow and other obsessiveness, shelling out money, experiencing side effects, taking pictures of your hairline so you can look next month and see if it's the same, etc. 4
MomsSpaghetti Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 By the way, if you want to see how crazy guys become when they try to "fight" their hair loss, I encourage you to visit any of the big hair loss forums on the internet. Here's the type of threads you see daily on those sites: I have reached NW3. Beginning of the end. Must Battle Now. - Bald Truth Talk - Hair Loss, Hair Transplant and Hair Restoration Community
GorillaTheater Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Getting to the point where I'm starting to consider shaving my head. I've had a pretty good run, so I'm not upset about it, but for the fact that I'm pretty sure I have an ugly skull. Way too many dents, knicks and scars.
spiderowl Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I could probably pull it off alright...but it's just the fact that it's so early that gets to me. Like I could handle it fine after 30, but 22 is just plain unfortunate. Not many girls in my age bracket are down for full on bald guys. Having said that, I always have appealed more to older women anyways It must be difficult for a young guy and you have my sympathy. I'm only joining in here because I was suffering hair loss (I'm female). I saw my doc, had blood test and found zinc deficiency. A course of zinc tablets has stopped my hair falling out. Your hair loss may be genetic and absolutely nothing to do with zinc, but might be worth getting a blood test, just in case.
Thumb410 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I'm in the same spot...I'm 28, and my hairline has definitely been receding backward over the past 2 years and the hair on top is definitely thinning out (I've also slowly been turning gray since my college years; my dad was gray by 30 so genetically I am kind of screwed on that front)...it used to bother me a lot when I first noticed it, but gradually I'm getting used to it...you are who you are!
hppr Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Hit it with a preemptive strike: buzz your head now and stop taking hair loss products. A buzzed head that loses one short hair at a time is a smooth transition into the full cue ball (which might not be inevitable, by the way. Don't put too much stock in your paternal ancestors). If you try to "fight" it, you're gonna have a miserable life of counting hairs on your pillow and other obsessiveness, shelling out money, experiencing side effects, taking pictures of your hairline so you can look next month and see if it's the same, etc. This! Shave your noggin trust me the chicks dig it! I had a receding hairline and was trying everything to hide it, as soon as I buzzed my head really close I got tons more looks. People think I'm a lot younger than I am as well, even at 31 I still get people asking me what college I plan on going to or what I plan on doing when I graduate. As in, they think I'm 20 or something. Hell one guy was telling me about his daughter graduating high school and then asked me when I graduated. When I told him his jaw hit the floor because he thought I was just out of high school. 1
youngnlove89 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 My boyfriend has a receding hair line and his hair at the top is thinning. He shaves it short. AND I LOVE IT. To quote, from this site below: Why I Love Bald Men "We all know that baldness is caused by an extra dose of testosterone, the manly hormone. So bald men are, literally, more manly than your average fully haired model. Tough guy wannabes know this. This is why they shave their heads, to imitate their more manly brothers. Close cropped, shiny topped, horseshoe-headed or all gone, your bald man means business. He’s aerodynamic, low maintenance, good for up to thirty feet underwater, and comes with a lifetime guarantee. And he’s just the right kind of manly. He’s a shovel-the-snow-and-change-the-carburetor (does one do this? I don’t know. That’s why I have a bald man. Or failing that, a bald mechanic) kind of man. He’s a baseball-watching, able do long division in his head kind of manly. He’s a treat you like gold but stand his ground kind of manly. You can’t push a bald man around. Unless he lets you He’s aerodynamic, low maintenance, good for up to thirty feet underwater, and comes with a lifetime guarantee. Bald men are that rare and coveted type of hot guy–the one that don’t even know he’s hot. Whatever else he’s got–the legs, the body, the blue eyes for days, it’ll all be topped off with an irresistibly self deprecating grin. Yum. To attract the attention of a bald man, one must be very straightforward. As much as you flirt with him, he will be completely oblivious to the fact that you are interested. You may need to hit him over the head with a blunt object and and place a large “Property of…” stamp on his behind, in order to stake out your territory. If you don’t, someone else will. Not that he’s not confident, he is. He’s not arrogant, and he doesn’t assume, but he knows his worth. And he knows yours. Some people say that bald men try harder; I say they don’t even have to try."
Kristine Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Try taking the supplement biotin 10,000 mgs. because I hear it helps hair grow. I started taking it myself about 2 weeks ago, maybe in a few more weeks I'll see baby hairs like my mom's good friend sees.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 For men, the most successful and long term treatment for genetic male pattern baldness is the drug finasteride. It does have some potential sides that are worth considering. You can always talk to your doctor about it.
ChessPieceFace Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Shaving your head is the best option if you would look good that way. I miss my hair but I am lucky to have a nice looking skull.
Demosa Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Another thing: I hate how it is politically incorrect to insult fat people, disabled people or racial differences, but apparently bald or balding people are fair game for insults. I think overweight people get their share of insults, regardless of if its political correct or not. I also don't think I have ever considered insulting anyone as particular political correct. As others have said, I do not find bald men a turn off, far from it! It can be quite sexy! I'd shave it all off!
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