mikeyhikey Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Hi guys okay so about a month almost 2 months ago me and my ex got into an argument so I ignored her for about a week and then we were talking again trying to fix things,but then 4 days that before we were gonna hang out and fix things she lied to me and hanged out with another guy(her ex she dated for 2 years but she broke up with him cause she said she was bored of him) so i cussed her out for lying and calling her stuff cause i felt betrayed. then she called me the next night and i got really clingy and begged for her to forgive me and give me another chance but she said no and said that he could make her happy in ways that I can't when she said the same thing about me and her past relationships. How I was her first love & the reason why she lost her virginity to me. she was telling me how she doesn't like me anymore but she cried at the end and said she just wants to be happy and is scared to break up with me in person since we told each other its not a break up unless we do it in person,but every time we argued she thinks its a breakup when its not so in her mind its the 3rd time.SO then she made up 2 more lies saying she has a midterm at school when she literally told me her schedule so I know it I just didn't want to say anything. she says I'm abusive by cussing at her during arguments when she literally does the same and I told her from the start of the relationship to not to make me serious about most of the things I say but she keeps taking it serious and tries to change me. she even gets upset from me not texting her sentences everytime and wants me to reply within seconds or minutes when she takes her time to reply to me. We dated for a year and to me it was great but she only looks at the negative parts of the relationships and how she says I make her cry too much when from the start I don't even mean everything I say she took it seriously after the 3rd month. so yeah after a week she started dating her ex again which is also my next door neighbor and she goes there almost everyday. I dont know if its a rebound or not but im on week 3 of NC. every time i see her she doesn't look happy around him like she's forcing herself but i dont know I just smile every time cause I have self confidence and she talks behind my back about how sad I am still not over her after A WEEK only after the break up and laughs at me when I literally gave her my heart and make her laugh every time I'm with her but college separates us since we go to different schools so we see each other on weekends and sometimes on weekdays. She claims that she's so much better with me out of her life she told her friends that and I heard it. She is the insecure, shy in front of others, takes advantage of me whenever she can, and been in A LOT of relationships and says she got bored of all of them. I've been in a few, funny, and open minded about a lot of things like she said I can't talk to other girls so i don't but she literally talks to other guys when we're not together and i really don't care since i trusted her. I'm much better now, but I'm really confused about her and I care cause I don't want her to be playing with herself.
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 1. paragraphs are your friend. 2. how old are you two?
Author mikeyhikey Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 also her birthday is coming up should I break NC and text her happy birthday and continue back to NC or not?
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 also her birthday is coming up should I break NC and text her happy birthday and continue back to NC or not? Hell no you don't contact her. No contact means NO CONTACT. Take care of yourself. 1
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Yeah... I kind of figured. I sounds like my first relationship when I was 15/16. Push and pull, push and pull. I'm 36 now. Much much wiser. Look, it hurts now. You miss this person. Trust me though, now is a good time to walk away, take care of you. Figure out what you want in the next relationship. It's cliché, and at your age, you don't want to hear this.... but you're so young with your entire life ahead of you!!! Each relationship in your life will get better. Hold on to that. Work on you and becoming the person you want to be. 1
Author mikeyhikey Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Yeah... I kind of figured. I sounds like my first relationship when I was 15/16. Push and pull, push and pull. I'm 36 now. Much much wiser. Look, it hurts now. You miss this person. Trust me though, now is a good time to walk away, take care of you. Figure out what you want in the next relationship. It's cliché, and at your age, you don't want to hear this.... but you're so young with your entire life ahead of you!!! Each relationship in your life will get better. Hold on to that. Work on you and becoming the person you want to be. I know I am but you know she was my first love I've never felt so in love before lol. The way we bonded was something we've never experienced before for both of us.
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I know I am but you know she was my first love I've never felt so in love before lol. The way we bonded was something we've never experienced before for both of us. Yes yes, I know. You won't want to hear this either... But you will say that after every break up in your life. It's just the reality. Hard to believe right now. I remember my first heart break. Holy cow, my world ended. So f'ing dramatic too. Appropriately so.
Author mikeyhikey Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Yes yes, I know. You won't want to hear this either... But you will say that after every break up in your life. It's just the reality. Hard to believe right now. I remember my first heart break. Holy cow, my world ended. So f'ing dramatic too. Appropriately so. Not really I've been in 3 other relationships I really didn't feel so down from them I got over it in a day or two and this one I'm still feeling it after I workout or play games.
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Not really I've been in 3 other relationships I really didn't feel so down from them I got over it in a day or two and this one I'm still feeling it after I workout or play games. Check back with me in 5 or 10 years. You can't see it now. You aren't supposed to see it now. Just trust me. 1
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