Eggplant Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 How often does the cheating husband end up alone? Divorced from his wife, and the OW won't have him either?
18Years2Late Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 How often does the cheating husband end up alone? Divorced from his wife, and the OW won't have him either? I'm not sure of the stats but I know I donated an extra one to that count...:bunny: 7
jnel921 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) It does. This just happened to my XH. He remarried a few years after we divorced. I thought she was great for him. In the end I found out from her that he had cheated at least 3 times. The last woman he was in an A with lived across the country and for whatever reasons was depositing cash to his bank account. This is how she found out. After some investigating she confronted him and he denied it. They were in MC and he told her that he didn't love her and said his issues with her Eldest son was to blame. He soon after left her and went to go live with his sister and within a week filed for divorce. His W was devastated as he did not want to do anything to make it work. She even attempted to change things in her life to see if that would make a difference. She sent her son away, lost weight and even moved into a condo that they had discussed for years about buying and he did not budge or care. I told her that I understood as he did the same exact thing to me. He also left her at a time where she found out she had stage 1 breast cancer and needed radiation. When I threw him out our son was 1 years old and I was 3 months pregnant he didn't care about my well being. During that time he started living with his sister his OW was flying over here to come see him and spend time with him. One time when he came to pick up our kids she was with him. I did not go out to meet her. I was disgusted that he was doing this and flaunting it in front of the kids. The OW tried to buy her way into my kids hearts but they were hurt that the stepmom they knew for over 10 years was no longer in their life. Since their dad was not honest and do not explain this relationship to them they were upset over this as well. Long story short his W found ways to get back at him and in the process he has lost his job, gotten arrested and they are now embroiled in a legal battle. I personally feel that she set him up as she was hurt by his lies and betrayal. Their case is next month and if he wins he will get his job back. In the meantime he has struggled with child support and his XW told the OW that he was sleeping with her as well even after they split. His XW called her boss and sent faxes to her job and finally the OW threatened legal action if she continued to harass her at work. The OW I believe was under the impression they were apart a lot longer than my XH told her. I assume the lies caught up with him as her trips here to see him and the cash flow stopped after she had had enough. So not only does he not have his W but the OW dumped him as well. He is alone and broke. However he does not feel broken or acknowledge his part in hurting all of the people involved. I try not to have too many conversations with him because my kids are old enough to deal with him on their own. The last conversation that I regretfully had with him he decided to go way back and tell me how he has only loved one woman in his life and how he only wants to be with this one woman... Needless to say I cut that conversation off and told him that I needed to get off the phone and attend to my H. Edited May 30, 2013 by jnel921
Ninja'sHusband Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) Reverse the genders and you can have another one. Happens often when the AP is married I think. She should have known better than to cheat with an MM. Makes it that much worse. His BW knows thanks to me. I have a strong suspicion she's hooked up with one of her school mates though (someone she met post affair) Edited May 30, 2013 by Ninja'sHusband
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