dizy Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I don't really know what to say except that i am f*cking stupid. I confessed to a colleague and he told me that he has a gf. I should have done much more research. But I couldn't know that because there was nothing on his fb and he never talks about private things. I have to work with him tomorrow. I don't know what to say except that I am the most stupid person on this planet. I just don't know why does it work with all my friends. They seem to be happy and in a couple, but I am making stupid mistakes like this? Maybe because I am not emotionally mature enough? I really don't know. Any input would be great. And NO I will never ask a colleague out ever again.
Tinie Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Don't beat yourself up. How were you supposed to know? So you made a mistake. So what. Life goes on. Nobody died. Go into work tmr, head held high, and act like all is forgotten and you don't care.
Eggplant Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 What do you mean 'confessed'? You told the colleague you had a crush on him? That's not stupid -- it's no big deal.
Author dizy Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Thanks for the replies. Yeah I told him that I like him. I am just really frustrated. I mean, he wasn't showing interest so I wanted to get closure by telling him that I like him, but clearly it was a bad idea. I am just really angry and hurt and I know I have no one to blame except myself. We see each other everyday at work. How awkward will that be? I thought that I didn't want anyone in my life because my parents had a such bad relationship but I realize how desperate I seem to be. It's killing me.
Eggplant Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It's killing me.You are way overreacting. This is nothing. You should have forgotten it already.
prettycutesoul Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Oh haha, don't worry about it. I had a colleague confess to me once and i was with my bf of 8 yrs back then. I was obviously stunned for a while. Told him I had a bf. I did go home and tell my bf, we laughed it off. next day it was slightly awkward yes, but after 2-3 days honestly it was like nothing ever happened. IN fact a month or two after that we joke about it (not so inappropriately more like haha, funny). Don't beat yourself up. Laugh it off like oops! my bad. 1
Tinie Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 What Eggplant said. I can understand, I've also taken initiative before. And got rejected in return. I told a friend of mine I liked him. I was worried about awkwardness when I saw him next, but it really is such a trivial thing, if you pretend like it never happened, the awkwardness is suppressed. You did not look desperate. I think you'd need to be confident and sure of yourself to say such a thing. My friend, when he rejected me, did it nicely, and told me he was impressed that I had enough guts to tell him about my feelings since he was never able to do that with girls he liked (he's one of those very shy guys). Life goes on. Let it go.
Author dizy Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Thanks everyone! I really hope I can gain some emotional maturity sometimes 1
CherryT Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Dizy, I think it was incredibly brave of you. A lot of people don't have the confidence to get a feeling and inquire about it. You saw something you liked and you were curious to see if there was an opportunity for you to get to know him better. Unfortunately, that can't happen, but you wanted to know. Like Prettycutesoul said, you should go to work tomorrow with your head held high.
CherryT Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Oh, and I approached my boyfriend first and we were complete strangers. Within an hr we had already planned to visit each other. Since that day, we've never stopped talking. We've been inseparable since and we're currently going back and forth about 2-3 times a month in our LDR. We'll be closing the distance soon. It could've gone either way... don't let this one experience stop you from being confident and going after what you want.
prettycutesoul Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Oh, and I approached my boyfriend first and we were complete strangers. Within an hr we had already planned to visit each other. Since that day, we've never stopped talking. We've been inseparable since and we're currently going back and forth about 2-3 times a month in our LDR. We'll be closing the distance soon. It could've gone either way... don't let this one experience stop you from being confident and going after what you want. haha that's kinda cool. I wish I could do that. Yeah Dizy, I mean it's admirable, I personally can't go up to someone and tell them I like them. I'm chicken that way and sometimes it's a crap shoot. and sometimes like CherryT you hit jackpot. I need to tell someone I like them one day and see how that goes haha.
Author dizy Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 well, when you get rejected, it becomes so much less "admirable"... Rejection just sucks, BIG TIME. I feel for guys now. Society puts so much pressure on them to make the first move, and I dont mind taking initiative because people express love in different ways. Shy guys can be wonderful bf and husbands. But man.... this time I screw up.
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