BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I have decided that today is the day that I am going to try to make some changes. I want to start working out more, change my hair, do some spring cleaning, and read more books. I also think that it might be time for me to at least try to go on a few dates. See if I have anything to offer anyone anymore. I am having some trouble finding good sites. I am just not sure what I want or if the guys I would be interested in would be interested in me. Do you guys know of any good sites that are free (at least to start) Also, what do you think about dating when you are not quite sure that you're ready. I think I am ready, but I am not sure if I am just lonely for romantic attention. 1
Hockeyguy19 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I have decided that today is the day that I am going to try to make some changes. I want to start working out more, change my hair, do some spring cleaning, and read more books. I also think that it might be time for me to at least try to go on a few dates. See if I have anything to offer anyone anymore. I am having some trouble finding good sites. I am just not sure what I want or if the guys I would be interested in would be interested in me. Do you guys know of any good sites that are free (at least to start) Also, what do you think about dating when you are not quite sure that you're ready. I think I am ready, but I am not sure if I am just lonely for romantic attention. Plenty of fish?
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Good for you! I've tried most of them. OKCupid is my favorite. You weed through some ummm, poor quality, but at least there's enough quantity to make it worth your while. I tried PlentyofFish one night and never again. Match was a waste of money.
KPChick000 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It's like you read my mind! I was just planning on posting a similar question about dating. I feel kinda ready but at the same time I don't (I did just have a setback with that fb thing). I met a guy this past weekend, who is a friend of a friend. It was good to flirt a little, feel wanted, find another guy attractive, etc. And it was nice to know I could be physical (no sex) with someone else after three years. But I'll be honest, after making out for a while, I started to zone out, and at one point thought about my ex (I know...is that terrible?). That's when I knew I wasn't ready to go further than making out. I've been asking myself, do I want to hang out with him again? And the answer is, yes. But I am not sure what the motivation is behind that answer, whether I want to know more about him and hang out again, or if I just want to get over the breakup hump. It's possibly both. My friends are telling me to go for it. One casual date will not kill anyone. So, a long-winded way to your question: I don't think it hurts to try to go on a casual date or two. If you feel terrible afterwards, then you can always stop. There is no pressure to continue. A free dating site? I think okcupid is free- I've heard both good and bad things about it. 2
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Excellent for you! I know exactly how you feel, but I'm not ready to try (yet)
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I haven't really done anything yet, just made a few profiles. It's weird, but I actually wish there was some way I could just meet someone on here who lives close to me. It would be nice because they would already know a lot about me and I wouldn't have to explain my background I think that is what I dread the most. Just getting to know someone all over again and having to worry if they like me, if I am good looking enough, just putting the time and anxiety in to starting a relationship. Blergh.... maybe I am not ready, but I am still going to try for just a little while longer. 1
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Sometimes just the banter/flirting online can be a pick-me-up. Baby steps. I have spoken with a few guys on okcupid, and even went out with one a few weeks back that was a GREAT first date after my breakup. I haven't been on there in the past week or so. It's there when I want it. All the other stuff you're doing is good too. I lapsed on gym and a few other things. Been hiding a little. But like you, about to reset myself. Up, down, and all around. 2
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 OH! I meant to say... funny about the hair. The week after our breakup a couple months ago, I cut bangs. I'd been debating it for awhile, so it was an easy decision. Everybody seems to love it, and I've loved calling it my "breakup haircut." Then last weekend, I did lighter and more highlights than I have in almost two years. I had been trending towards my natural hair color with much more subtle highlights the past year. I hope that bastard sees me around with my "blonde" hair since he used to comment on my older pics to the point I think he might have wanted to see it person. And no, that's not why I did it. But will serve him right! Isn't it funny how we ladies mess with our hair after breakups? 1
Hockeyguy19 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I haven't really done anything yet, just made a few profiles. It's weird, but I actually wish there was some way I could just meet someone on here who lives close to me. It would be nice because they would already know a lot about me and I wouldn't have to explain my background I think that is what I dread the most. Just getting to know someone all over again and having to worry if they like me, if I am good looking enough, just putting the time and anxiety in to starting a relationship. Blergh.... maybe I am not ready, but I am still going to try for just a little while longer. We should have a love shack dating site 2
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 We should have a love shack dating site I would seriously love that. You can really get to know someone by how they cope with a break up and move on. I have never really cared about looks or money, but a good personality lasts forever. It is painfully obvious to me who on this site would be a potentially good match and who would be an absolute nightmare to date. 1
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I would seriously love that. You can really get to know someone by how they cope with a break up and move on. I have never really cared about looks or money, but a good personality lasts forever. It is painfully obvious to me who on this site would be a potentially good match and who would be an absolute nightmare to date. I might have just choked on my laughter. I would date you in a heartbeat!
Hockeyguy19 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I would seriously love that. You can really get to know someone by how they cope with a break up and move on. I have never really cared about looks or money, but a good personality lasts forever. It is painfully obvious to me who on this site would be a potentially good match and who would be an absolute nightmare to date. Agreed on all points! Now we have to figure out a way to do this 2
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I might have just choked on my laughter. I would date you in a heartbeat! It would be like dating a mirror. You would probably want to murder me inside of two weeks. What we really need is to go on mutual matchmaking hunts. Obviously, we would probably like the same guys so it is a good thing that we are in separate cities!
aisuru Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It would be like dating a mirror. You would probably want to murder me inside of two weeks. What we really need is to go on mutual matchmaking hunts. Obviously, we would probably like the same guys so it is a good thing that we are in separate cities! You like quiet confident Japanese men too!? :love:
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 You like quiet confident Japanese men too!? :love: I don't know any, but probably. I only have a few things that I really need and that is smart, funny (actually funny, not just says he is funny all the time), non-judgmental, and the taller the better. Also, I am going to go out on a limb, and say that he should probably not look or sound a lot like my ex. At least right now
KPChick000 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I don't know if I'd date someone from LS. If it doesn't work out, I want to be able to bitch about it here openly. 2
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I don't know if I'd date someone from LS. If it doesn't work out, I want to be able to bitch about it here openly. I hadn't even thought about that! You are so right! It would be awful to come here to complain and see the ex already on here doing the same thing. It would be worse if he got more comments and likes too! 4
SuperGeek Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Goto to some meetups in your area. That is much better than a dating site... well at least for guys. I HATE dating sites because it's constant rejection. 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I would seriously love that. You can really get to know someone by how they cope with a break up and move on. I have never really cared about looks or money, but a good personality lasts forever. It is painfully obvious to me who on this site would be a potentially good match and who would be an absolute nightmare to date. Lol how in the heck did I miss THIS conversation?? Amazing how I thought the same thing- we're all here because of the same reason, and we have begun to know each other, and each others stories. Yep, I definately don't wanna have to explain any of this to the next person I date! Haha! Oh well, if anyone creates a dating section, sigh me up!
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Lol how in the heck did I miss THIS conversation?? Amazing how I thought the same thing- we're all here because of the same reason, and we have begun to know each other, and each others stories. Yep, I definately don't wanna have to explain any of this to the next person I date! Haha! Oh well, if anyone creates a dating section, sigh me up! I signed up for some dating sites and have been weeding through all the dudes on these sites. I am not saying that I am too good for any of these guys, but the incompatibilities are ridiculous. Seriously, if LS had a dating section, I would be there in a heartbeat. Just think, you could move back and forth. Date someone, dump them, move to this section, complain for awhile, and then go back to the dating section. Awesome 2
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I hadn't even thought about that! You are so right! It would be awful to come here to complain and see the ex already on here doing the same thing. It would be worse if he got more comments and likes too! Hahaha yep. I didn't think of that either. Oh well:laugh:
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Hahaha yep. I didn't think of that either. Oh well:laugh: I know, it still seems like it would be worth it right. I think that a lot of us on here are like that. We just want that comfortable feeling back. The one where you are allowed to be yourself and don't have to put on the "dating face" for the first few months. Maybe I am projecting, but I know that what I really miss is just the easygoing nature of already being in an established relationship 1
LostGirl11 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I need to get my hair done too, I've been neglecting it since the break up. I just have no desire to look pretty anymore. I have nobody to look pretty for. Anyway, try Oasis, it's free! 2
Author BustedUpInside Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 These dating sites are a little bit scary. I am not too sure about them yet. I always like to meet people more organically, but I think this is a good baby step. Maybe I will just wait for school to start back up before getting serious about finding somebody. 1
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