I'msolost Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 I have been broken up with me ex for 3 months now. We dated for 2.5 years. She is 22 and I am 24. She broke up with me because she wanted to explore her options, otherwise date another guy. Anyways, We haven't seen each other within the past 3 months. We live in separate towns, but I travel a lot for work so I do end up in the same town as her at times. She called me a month ago and told me that every song reminds her of me. She wondered if they reminded me of her. I didn't really give her much chance to talk, instead said that I had to go. I have been to her town a couple more times and she usually gives me a text saying "heard you were in town," and last weekend she called me cause she found out I was in town. Well I answered the phone and she said that she expected to leave me a voicemail and was surprised I answered. We talked for about a half an hour. It seemed she just wanted to see what is new in my life. She asked a lot about my family and told me a lot about hers. Then when we were ending the conversation, she told me to give her a call sometime. She also told me that I probably won't call because I never do anymore. I am just confused as to why she might want me to call her or communicate with her anymore. She really did break my heart and I am trying to get over her, but I still do love her. I would just like some advice as to what you might think she is thinking. Do you think she wants me back? Is she just lonely? I am clueless. Please help.
Jilly10340 Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 She wants you back. I did the same exact thing with my ex. I always made up some excuse to call him starting about two months after we broke up. If every song she hears reminds her of you, then she definately still has feelings for you. Again, the same thing with my ex. Every song I heard reminded me of him. I think that some people you just don't get over. No matter how much time goes by, there are still feelings there. Could you guys possibly get back together? Why did you break up? Do you want to try things again? If you think that the situation is just impossible for you guys to be together again, just try it. My ex and I decided to try things again even though all the odds are against us with the family and friends disapproving and stuff but to hell with them. It just depends on how much you're willing to try and how much you love each other. If you do decide to give her another chance, just take things slow.
Green_and_White Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 You can read my posts by searching for my name. I am in the same boat as you. It has only been 3 weeks since a "break" that she wanted and almost 3 weeks since she broke up with me. We dated for almost 2 years and had a really, really good relationship. things got a little stale this summer when we both graduated from college and moved back home. I with my parents and her in an apartment with her sister. She broke up with me because she never really been single (which is true) and she says she loves me and see's herself marrying me, she says she just cant be with me now. That was three weeks ago and I dont know if it has changed at all. We have spoken about once a week thus far and I talked to her last night and we only talked about small stuff (catching up). Girls at that age, not saying all of them, are on a rollcoaster (mine will be 22 in a few days) because they see themsevles as young but at the same time are older (college graduate). So all I can do is be me and wait till maybe she misses me enough to give me a second chance. As for you situation, it really sounds like she wants to get back toegher. Just be the person you were when you first started dating. When I think about getting back together with my ex even if it was 3 months later, I think it wouldnt be too hard to start over again. Sometimes people make mistakes and if she is willing to accept that maybe she did, give it a chance. My girl broke my heart but if she wanted to get back together because she really did love me and not because she is a little lonely, then I would take her back right away. Ask what her intentions are.
I'msolost Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Thanks for the responses. We actually broke up for the same reasons last summer too, but got back together in the fall. She broke that one off too. I just feel like I can't take the roller coaster ride of knowing if she wants to be together or not. When the summer comes, she gets so different. I do still love her, but think it is almost impossible to trust her 100% anymore. I have been playing the no contact since we broke up 3 months ago. I have never tried to communicate with her, she always did first. Do you think if I never call her or never try to get in touch with her, that she will stop all together. Or should I wait for her to make a move on me, since she was the one that broke it off and she really did break my heart? If she really wanted me back, then she will have to earn me back, I just don't think she would put her pride on the line. Man this sucks!
Hendrix Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 yes it does suck... theres different emotions goin on too.. oine min u will hate her for what she done the next u will miss her alot! im feeling that way now... kinda similer situation.. its crappy alright... my gf broke up with me twice then wanted to get back after alota ****... but she broke up again... so im not so sure this time i never trusted her as much though.. but its just whatever happens... everything happens for a reason remember..... it jus sucks being alone...
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