jnel921 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 (edited) I just keep hoping that he will have that "aha!" moment and realize the effect of what he has done. He tells me that in so many words that the cheating was no big deal. Will he ever understand? Cheating is a big deal. So sorry you are hurting. It is tough when your spouse is in the military. My H used to beans I feel this is where that behavior was learned. Your H wants to sweep this under the rug and unfortunetly you can't allow him to do this. The dirt underneath will become so huge eventually you will trip and fall. You probably should have left when you found out so that your H could feel the full impact of your feelings about this. I think confronting him and staying but allowing him to ignore or dismiss what happened will not help your M. It doesn't help that you are very angry. The anger will never allow yo to heal properly. Your actions are not punishing him. They may in fact give him another reason to go out there and cheat again since he feels it's no big deal. Like I said it is a big deal as he is with women who have had mutiple partners who puts yo at risk for serious STDs. Is that what you want? Your kids deserve to see you happy. Even if this means that you are by yourself. Edited June 3, 2013 by jnel921 1
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