Is it a good idea to go after women that show no interest at all toward you?

[Necris]

I thought about this question after looking at the "Why are guys so attracted to girls that ignore them?" thread. So I was wondering is it really worth it to actually try to pursue women who show no interest toward you?

 

Now sometimes we have little choice in the matter like myself, as all women I meet show zero interest towards me. Though I also noticed naturally I'm always rejected as well. So not much comes out of this.

 

But what of other guys what have your experiences been?

[Phantom888]

Do not go after women who show no interest. It's a waste of time, and it hurts. Try to figure out why women don't seem to like you? A lot of women look past appearance, so it doesn't really matter if you are ugly or fat. Do you have a bad personality? Are you mean? Do you smell bad? Are you broke? Do you lack self confidence? Are you petty (cheap)? I can list a whole bunch of turn-offs, but not everyone is perfect. Try to self-reflect and see what kind of woman would uncover the finer qualities within you. Then go after those women.

[phineas]

Personally I go after women that interest me.

 

A woman not showing interest doesn't mean she isn't interested.

If she's above average in looks she is used to the man she is interested in initiating.

Why? Because ALL men initiate with her.

 

Plus some women fear rejection more than a man and consider even flirting putting themselves out there.

[Necris]

Do not go after women who show no interest. It's a waste of time, and it hurts. Try to figure out why women don't seem to like you? A lot of women look past appearance, so it doesn't really matter if you are ugly or fat. Do you have a bad personality? Are you mean? Do you smell bad? Are you broke? Do you lack self confidence? Are you petty (cheap)? I can list a whole bunch of turn-offs, but not everyone is perfect. Try to self-reflect and see what kind of woman would uncover the finer qualities within you. Then go after those women.

 

Yeah personally seems like a waste of time to me approaching women who show no interest at all. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me but I can't really think of any kind of woman who would just want to be with me.

 

Personally I go after women that interest me.

 

A woman not showing interest doesn't mean she isn't interested.

If she's above average in looks she is used to the man she is interested in initiating.

Why? Because ALL men initiate with her.

 

Plus some women fear rejection more than a man and consider even flirting putting themselves out there.

 

I don't know, for most guys i know not showing interest means not interested.

And in my personal experience I'm always rejected.

[Tinie]

100% in agreement with what phineas said. Just because a girl is not being blatantly obvious about her feelings, it doesn't mean she's not interested. She's probably waiting for you to make a move.

[aisuru]

Personally I go after women that interest me.

 

A woman not showing interest doesn't mean she isn't interested.

If she's above average in looks she is used to the man she is interested in initiating.

Why? Because ALL men initiate with her.

 

Plus some women fear rejection more than a man and consider even flirting putting themselves out there.

 

The two men who have done this to me were my two best relationships. Though I'll be honest, one of them I probably shouldn't have allowed to pursue me into a relationship at that time in my life. It still wasn't about my having no interest or attraction in him though. I was attracted and interested.

 

Considering the relationships I've fought to be in or pursued aggressively were my worst, I no longer pursue. I don't initiate contact. I don't call/text first. I want to be with a man who wants to be with me. If I'm not interested, I'll be direct and let them know.

[Suave]

Generally, I tend not to. However, I like the odd challenge. Sometimes I will just to see if I can.

[Necris]

100% in agreement with what phineas said. Just because a girl is not being blatantly obvious about her feelings, it doesn't mean she's not interested. She's probably waiting for you to make a move.

 

I try to think like this but 10 times out of 10 (literally 100% of the time) this just isn't the case, she really just isn't interested at all.

[phineas]

Yeah personally seems like a waste of time to me approaching women who show no interest at all. I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me but I can't really think of any kind of woman who would just want to be with me.

 

 

 

I don't know, for most guys i know not showing interest means not interested.

And in my personal experience I'm always rejected.

 

Yep. That was me. Always rejected. However, I was divorced, overweight & kind of needy. I took a break from women for about a yr, got in better shape & hooked up a few times and that was only because those women were bold and approached me. But, all they wanted was to hook up.

 

I'm still getting over the former fatty mentality. It just takes practice. Go for hotter women. I apparently was aiming too low.

 

also, women can smell desperation.

 

 

The two men who have done this to me were my two best relationships. Though I'll be honest, one of them I probably shouldn't have allowed to pursue me into a relationship at that time in my life. It still wasn't about my having no interest or attraction in him though. I was attracted and interested.

 

Considering the relationships I've fought to be in or pursued aggressively were my worst, I no longer pursue. I don't initiate contact. I don't call/text first. I want to be with a man who wants to be with me. If I'm not interested, I'll be direct and let them know.

 

Well, i'm a former fatty who hasn't yet accepted i'm fairly attractive. LOL!

and i've found myself out in group situations with female co-workers who are the types of women I always considered out of my league.

 

But, they usually wind up ignoring the other guys in the bar hitting on them and gravitate towards me.

 

I always assumed they were just being friendly because they don't flirt or show any romantic interest at all.

 

But now i'm thinking hmmm.....why the hell are they talking to me?

They aren't there with a guy, they aren't interested in the other guys hitting on them. DUH! LOL!

 

The only issue is I potentially have to see them at work. we don't work together but I do fix their computers so that could be awkward.

 

So for now i'm just slowly getting to know them better & going to try for some one-on-one hanging out & see if we are compatible.

[Maleficent]

I thought about this question after looking at the "Why are guys so attracted to girls that ignore them?" thread. So I was wondering is it really worth it to actually try to pursue women who show no interest toward you?

 

Now sometimes we have little choice in the matter like myself, as all women I meet show zero interest towards me. Though I also noticed naturally I'm always rejected as well. So not much comes out of this.

 

But what of other guys what have your experiences been?

 

If it's a good idea?

I don't know.

 

It would be a giant waste of time though...

[ltjg45]

I'll be careful though.

 

While males is the ones who normally go after the females, it can easily backfire and then you question yourself if this is even worth the effort. After all, most women do have high expectations from their partners and they don't settle for anything less.

 

I see a decent looking female, think to myself if I should bother, and then passed on it. Why bother? In the end, either I get rejected and I wasted more time for nothing if not get embarrassed or I get into a relationship with her and sees so many red flags around me that I'm ramming my head to a wall due to how stupid I am.

[hppr]

Honestly, I've rarely been able to turn a "NO" into a "YES". Really only a couple times and you have to be able to figure out when it's the "NO-YES" response.

 

Like, they tell you NO, but keep talking to you, being friendly, flirty, what have you.

 

Also like I told you in another thread if you are always shot down over and over and over...pics of what you look like and a short bio (what you do for a living, what you like, height/weight, where you live) would really really help...

[phineas]

Honestly, I've rarely been able to turn a "NO" into a "YES". Really only a couple times and you have to be able to figure out when it's the "NO-YES" response.

 

Like, they tell you NO, but keep talking to you, being friendly, flirty, what have you.

 

Also like I told you in another thread if you are always shot down over and over and over...pics of what you look like and a short bio (what you do for a living, what you like, height/weight, where you live) would really really help...

 

The way I do it, Is i mingle.

I work the room.

If their into me they can usually be found in my line of site alone or they come find me.

Then I make sure to get their number & if they don't want to cough up the digits I move on.

[ScreamingTrees]

Personally I go after women that interest me.

 

A woman not showing interest doesn't mean she isn't interested.

 

Just consider how attractive you objectively are, and that's all you need to know before giving it a shot. Those people will find out quick that there was no interest hidden beyond the surface of indifference.