Helsinkisyndrome Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I usually don't post things or really divulge much about my private life, but here we go... About 2 months ago, I ended a 2.5 year relationship and now I'm having serious doubts. We met and dated through my last year and a half in college. Im a year older than her and am currently applying to med schools around the country. She just graduated with her bachelors degree. We had a very tumultuous relationship because we both have incredibly strong personalities. When we were good, it was heaven. When it was bad, it was horrible. Here are a few reasons why I broke up with her: She was hypersensitive and used her feelings as a way to get me to always surrender and apologize even when I knew something wasn't my fault. I would apologize insincerely just to end fights. I resented her for making me drop a few friends she believed aren't great influences in my life....Feel stupid about that. And lastly, the intimacy and the effort and passion just became stale. I voiced my concerns and did try to spice things up but it just want the same as it used to be. Overall, I wasn't happy as an individual and people acknowledged how much I changed. I am aware of the"grass is greener on the other side syndrome" and I believe my break up wasnt to hook up with girls or to jump into another relationship...I just need time to myself to enjoy my time before I go to med school, because once I'm back in school, I won't have the opportunity to enjoy the craziness of my twenties. * on a side note, another reason I broke up was because I have no clue where I will end up going for school and a LDR in med school rarely lasts* We both have a lot of growing up to do and I really love her, but I made this decision with my head. Even though I just justified why I broke up, I'm doubting my decision and having mixed feelings. Should I be feeling this way? Do you think my decision was rational? She had asked me to take her back and had realized what she did wrong and views to fix them..but I'm just not convinced. Do you believe people can change so quickly? I just don't want to live my life and be complacent with someone and look back in a few years and regret not taking this opportunity in finding out who I am and what I want Thanks
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