lovesick99 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 hi my wife left about a week ago we got into an argument about something so stupid and she left and did not come home i later got a text saying we should separate,, i thought it was about the argument but has now turned into me striving to improve my life and support her and my son. i have always been afraid of being alone, and want her to come home she says she is staying away until i improve my life. she says she does not want to give up on us and she says she loves me but i am a very insecure person and worried she will not come back and meet someone else.
melodicintention Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 There's a big problem if she is texting you anything serious like she wants to seperate. That is inappropriate and should have been voiced to you in person. You don't give enough information to make much of a conclusion, but it appears you two definitely have communication issues. The best I can suggest right now is to get into some counselling, both your own personal counseling for your insecurity as well as marriage counselling. What does "improve your life" mean? If you have a substance abuse, gambling or other problem then you might need to address that before you can move forward.
LittleTiger Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) OP, this is your third thread on the same topic. It is really best to post once and if you want to bump your thread for more answers just repost in the same thread. EDIT: Sorry, this is the first thread that has been bumped to the top so there are just two. Still, it's much better to keep one topic in one thread to avoid confusion. my son is 5 and he is at home with me thats whyit is hard to find a job that only is 9-5:30 and no weekends i have to pick him up from daycare she lives close but not close enough to help out with him and her new job she sometimes works until 7:30 and she does not drive anyways.it gets frustrating she says she wants to make it work and does not want to give up on us. i talk to her everyday then some nights she supposed to call me and then she turns her phone off and does not answer me she finally called our son after 2 days. it feels that we are not that important to her.friday i talked to her because she is supposed to come over on saturday i called her at 9 and she said was going to call back in hour then she did not and then turned her phone off i know she did not want to talk to me because she was drinking.she is living with her cousin and her husband and it is not a good place all they want to do is drink.she has her own issues as well and our family doctor has also told her she needs counselling as well but she also has not got any. It seems to me that you both need some psychological help. Both individual counselling and marital counselling might be the way to go. Would your wife agree to marital counselling do you think? I hate to bring this up, but are you sure that she is not already seeing another man? From the post I have inserted here, it looks as though she hasn't just walked out on you, she has also walked out on your son. Unless she has always been an absent mother, this suggests that something new and exciting is capturing her attention. I would guess that she's having some kind of a mid-life crisis albeit perhaps an early one. How old are you both? You really need to talk to her to find out what is going on. Although your job situation may be part of the problem I think she is using it as an excuse to get out and have some fun by herself. Childcare should be the responsibility of both parents. If you don't currently work, how are you going to support your child without her help? Presumably she was the breadwinner in the family, so is she still providing financial support now that she has left? Edited June 2, 2013 by LittleTiger
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