Should I just walk away?

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I've been dating a guy for just over a month now. He's lovely- good looking, good personality, treats me well and we have scary amount of things in common. He's everything I've been looking for (as far as I can tell from knowing him for a month). Our dates have been great and lots of fun. I really like this guy (though I do have a fair amount of dating experience so made sure that I wasn't overly keen to scare him off).

 

There is one small complication- his dad is really sick. He spends a lot of his time with him and takes care of him (understandably). Of course this is not a problem in my eyes, I would do everything I could to be there for him.

 

However, we had our next date planned for this Monday just gone, but a few hours before we were about to meet, he text me to say that he needed to have a think about things because he wasn't sure he could commit to anything right now and he thought I was a lovely girl but didn't want to lead me on in the meantime.

I texted him back to say that it was ok, I understood that he had a lot going on in his life and not to worry.

 

I like to think I’m quite savvy when it comes to dating. But I’m also a pessimist. I’ve read that book, He’s Just Not That Into You, and found it extremely eye opening. So at the minute my mind is telling me that yes, he has a lot of complications in his life and he has to dedicate a lot of his time to those things, but that if I were the right girl for him and he liked me enough, it wouldn’t matter, he wouldn’t let me go. This makes me want to hold me head high and walk away and even though it might hurt a bit I’ll be fine. But, my heart is telling me that this guy is a keeper, he’s ideal for me and compared to other guys I’ve dated in the past, he outshines them all and I shouldn’t just leave it.

 

So now I don’t know whether to trust my heart or my head. If I go with my head am I making a big mistake? Or if I go with my heart is it a lost cause and what on earth do I say to him?!

 

Help!

[mortensorchid]

I think at this point you have to wait for him to make the next move. I have also read that HJNTIY book, and this is a sign quite honestly. If he really REALLY wanted to see you he would make the time despite the sick father and whatever else is going on. It's best if you try to be as active as possible and see others in the meantime, and if he doesn't come around then he's not going to. Next.