youngbutoldsoul Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Background: Bf of 2 years broke up with me because he was tired of our arguments several months after moving in together. He said he's fed up. He called it quits, I begged for almost a month, and later I find out a few weeks after our breakup he has an unofficial relationship (more of a fling) with someone who recently just had a breakup too. That slut does drugs, drinks, and my ex is extremely committed to helping the slut kick the drug habits because he's SO infactuated with this "hotter" person. Is this a rebound? Gigs? I mean, he was the sweetest and most genuine guy I've ever met and I'm shocked he's more concern for the well-being of a type of person he's always claimed to despise. He always brags about how hot that slut is..... I was his first love and he's always told his family and friends he's going to marry me after college because I'm marriage-material and he doesn't want to waste his time dating/having-flings like others
aisuru Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Does it really matter? What matters is putting yourself first and taking care of yourself. You deserve better. Forget about him (I know, easier said then done) and move on. You will be stronger for it. 1
SadHumiliated Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Background: Bf of 2 years broke up with me because he was tired of our arguments several months after moving in together. He said he's fed up. He called it quits, I begged for almost a month, and later I find out a few weeks after our breakup he has an unofficial relationship (more of a fling) with someone who recently just had a breakup too. That slut does drugs, drinks, and my ex is extremely committed to helping the slut kick the drug habits because he's SO infactuated with this "hotter" person. Is this a rebound? Gigs? I mean, he was the sweetest and most genuine guy I've ever met and I'm shocked he's more concern for the well-being of a type of person he's always claimed to despise. He always brags about how hot that slut is..... I was his first love and he's always told his family and friends he's going to marry me after college because I'm marriage-material and he doesn't want to waste his time dating/having-flings like others If she really is a drug user, then on some level she's emotionally unavailable. If your ex is getting with someone like that, then he is probably at this moment emotionally unavailable himself and not doing positive things to deal with his emotions concerning your break-up. He may have even gotten involved with this person to "save" them because he can't save himself right now. So he caught a fixer-upper instead. This will be a train-wreck and drama. Stay far far away. There is nothing wrong with you. It doesn't feel like it now, but you dodged a bullet. 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 Does it really matter? What matters is putting yourself first and taking care of yourself. You deserve better. Forget about him (I know, easier said then done) and move on. You will be stronger for it. Thank you, I truly realize that's what it boils down to. Its just bizarre how he could ditch someone who stuck with him/loved him dearly and begin a relationship with a drug addict
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 If she really is a drug user, then on some level she's emotionally unavailable. If your ex is getting with someone like that, then he is probably at this moment emotionally unavailable himself and not doing positive things to deal with his emotions concerning your break-up. He may have even gotten involved with this person to "save" them because he can't save himself right now. So he caught a fixer-upper instead. This will be a train-wreck and drama. Stay far far away. There is nothing wrong with you. It doesn't feel like it now, but you dodged a bullet. He claims to be happier than he's ever been in our "boring" long term relationship. Their relationship is progressing at an unusually fast rate.....having already moved in together...he ditched me after we earned our sweet apartment together with sweat and tears. A part of me feels relieved that this is good riddance but another part of me wishes I could zap away his infactuation that's blinding him....
SadHumiliated Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 He claims to be happier than he's ever been in our "boring" long term relationship. Their relationship is progressing at an unusually fast rate.....having already moved in together...he ditched me after we earned our sweet apartment together with sweat and tears. A part of me feels relieved that this is good riddance but another part of me wishes I could zap away his infactuation that's blinding him.... Exes usually don't tell each other how miserable they are Just like when you look at someone's Facebook page, you never really know what is going on behind the scenes. Just concentrate on making your life better and happy. No matter what he or she gets from that relationship, she is trapped by addiction. Pity her. 1
CptSaveAho Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 (edited) He claims to be happier than he's ever been in our "boring" long term relationship. Their relationship is progressing at an unusually fast rate.....having already moved in together...he ditched me after we earned our sweet apartment together with sweat and tears. A part of me feels relieved that this is good riddance but another part of me wishes I could zap away his infactuation that's blinding him.... Sounds like he's a loser to me I dont know about you but I don't date anyone that does drugs or dates people that do do drugs... nothing positive ever comes out of it People like him enjoy being miserable... drama / being in bad situations = love... probably some sick twisted way of projecting his own shortcomings and being a captain save a hoe himself. Doesnt want to look in the mirror and see that he's a loser so he tries to save someone else that is a loser to avoid facing his own problems or dealing with his own reality You are better off in the end... and yes its GIGS... and truth be told people in GIGS have no peace and no matter how much they convince you or the world, they are never happy... let them suffer and be miserable on their own... dont help them Edited May 29, 2013 by CptSaveAho
flitzanu Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 she's a slut bc she drinks, or she's a slut bc your ex is banging her?
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 she's a slut bc she drinks, or she's a slut bc your ex is banging her? Because my ex isn't the only one she's banging.
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