Derpderpleton Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Hey all, hopefully you guys remember my story. I don't feel like explaining all of that again. Anyways, here's a quick update on how I'm doing, I'm much better now. Just graduated from college recently, been working out, I've never felt more confident in myself. I've been having to work with her alot lately and we've been getting along pretty well. I've also made friends with some of my new female coworkers. I'm back to being my old self for the most part, making people laugh at work, and being genuinely happy. I don't miss her at all, the only thing that I miss is having someone to be with. She's been posting on social media lately about how she's "annoyed with her life". Although we 'talk' to eachother at work, we haven't texted in about 4 months. A couple of days ago my phone went off, I saw her name, not gonna lie, I was pretty surprised. The text said, "Hey can you do me a favor?". I waited like a half hour, but I replied (stupid..I know). All I said was "What's that?", she never replied back after that, it's been 2 days. What was the point of that? Is she trying to play mind games with me because she sees that I'm actually starting to be happy again? Maybe she legitimately needed help with something, but she could have atleast texted back and told me nevermind if the issue got resolved. This kind of set me back a little bit because my minds been racing thinking about what she could have wanted. Thanks for reading.
TaraMaiden Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 She obviously expected you to jump on the screen and hit reply immediately - making her wait a half hour, obviously miffed her. Cool. File it under "petulant childish" breadcrumbs. Forget it, you're fine. 2
BustedUpInside Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I agree. She was probably upset that she had to wait for your reply so she found someone else to help her and then never bothered to text you back. Ugghhh, I do not like when people completely disregard social etiquette. She asks you for a favor and then she dictates how quickly you should respond and then gets mad about it? Rude! Anyway, I am very happy to hear that you are doing so well. Good for you! It is nice to see someone having so much success after a break up. It bodes well for your future that you are able to handle turmoil and then turn it into a learning experience. Nice work! 3
Author Derpderpleton Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I'm still wondering what she could have wanted. It kind of pisses me off that she would do this out of nowhere, after everything she's put me through post BU. It's like, she sees that I'm doing well and doesn't like it. That's the vibe that I'm getting. I get it when I work with her too. I'm probably just over-analyzing this whole thing, though. Oh well. I can't let this consume my thoughts, I've done enough of that over these past few months. Thanks for the replies, btw!
Chi townD Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 You know what's cool about this website. You learned to recongize it as a breadcrumb. Most folks that are trying to heal would have not know what that was and be all over it like a dog on a bone. Good for you for hanging strong. 1
Author Derpderpleton Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) I wasn't even going to reply (now I wish I hadn't), but the weather was quite bad that night and I figured she might be stuck somewhere in this bad weather, so I thought that I had better reply just incase she needed a ride or something. It's funny how a couple of months ago I was wondering why I wasn't getting any breadcrumbs, and now that I finally got one I'm just like eh...whatever. This site has really worked wonders for me and I'm extremely grateful for all of the support that I've received. Edited May 30, 2013 by Derpderpleton 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I wasn't even going to reply (now I wish I hadn't), but the weather was quite bad that night and I figured she might be stuck somewhere in this bad weather, so I thought that I had better reply just incase she needed a ride or something. It's funny how a couple of months ago I was wondering why I wasn't getting any breadcrumbs, and now that I finally got one I'm just like eh...whatever. This site has really worked wonders for me and I'm extremely grateful for all of the support that I've received. That's kind of why I am sticking around on this site. I feel like I am pretty much back to normal. I still have bad days but I am pretty sure I can handle them on my own. Now it is just annoying others by constantly throwing my 2 cents in and checking in every now and then to make sure that what I am thinking or doing sounds pretty normal. Enough about me though, congratulations to you! You sound like you are really in a good spot and moving confidently into the future 1
Author Derpderpleton Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 That's kind of why I am sticking around on this site. I feel like I am pretty much back to normal. I still have bad days but I am pretty sure I can handle them on my own. Now it is just annoying others by constantly throwing my 2 cents in and checking in every now and then to make sure that what I am thinking or doing sounds pretty normal. Enough about me though, congratulations to you! You sound like you are really in a good spot and moving confidently into the future I still have my bad days too, it's normal. The only difference is now, like you said, I'm able to handle them. They used to be almost unbearable. When you realize that your 'bad days' aren't as bad anymore, that's when you know that the healing process is working. Glad to see that you're doing better!
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