Gsxrdavo Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I just recently broke up with my girlfriend whom I have been with for all most 5 years, about a year ago I moved out because of the way thing were, we broke up but got strait back to gether again as I cried and begged her. Things were ok but we slowly took each other for granted ( more me than her) now I didn't call her or text her for two weeks. I then asked her why she hadn't contacted me for that two weeks and is the relationship over ( this was all via text) she said that she thinks it would be a good thing to have a brake, I was not upset until she said this as I just expected her to always be there. She sends me a text saying that she still loves me but needs space to find out what she wants. I begged her cried and did every thing to get her back but she said she ant see me, this made it so hard I didn't know why. She told me she is not looking for someone, isn't with anyone, she promises this to me. After doing a bit of snooping I find out she is talking to a male friend on face book, there has been no love talk between them but she has been to his house and ha gone out to dine with him. She swears there is no one else. She says she resents me an needs time to heal. Is it possible there is nothing between them and they are just friends. How do I cope and let her have her time when I know she is talking to him and seeing him. She doesn't know I know about him, I do lover her and I have never felt this way bout anyone before that's why it so hard to let go. What do I do
melodicintention Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Although it's hard, you need to give her the space she asks for. If you don't, you will only increase her resentment and push her away. It's like the saying goes, if you want something set it free and if it's yours it will come back. There is no way to know what is going on with her and that guy. Snooping on facebook is not going to make you feel better because you cannot get an accurate picture of what is going on. You will make yourself crazy trying to decipher their messages and moves. When you do speak to her next, speak to her in person. Do not use texting to communicate serious things like this. You will likely get way off track using texting to converse about your relationship. Texting is only for sending short bits of information. You cannot convey emotion and are likely to come across wrong, or she might come across wrong as well, and further damage your communication and relationship through simple misunderstandings. Give her a few days. Then maybe call her and ask to meet in person in a neutral area like the park or a coffee shop to talk. Try not to think about this random dude she's talking to, if she says she's not involved and you trust her then don't worry about it. 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 There is no easy way to say this. In fact, it's so hard, even she can't tell you. It's over. Finished. She wouldn't even be thinking of seeing someone else, even on a casual, 'just a friend' basis, if this really was just break. She is seeing someone else, and I hate to tell you, but if not already, there will be more to this. You need to look at this in the cold grey light of day: she's broken up with you, but could not bring herself to say it. You found out about this guy, by snooping and frankly, spying . She wasn't going to tell you about him. She was going to let you realise, over time, that she had moved on. Well, she has. You need to be less dependent and clingy, because sure as eggs is eggs that's what has helped to kill it. Now, by detaching and moving away yourself, you will NOT bring her back - but it will help you ease and mend your heart. Read the No Contact guide in my signature. It's your lifeline to a successful move forward....
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