virgolove90 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I met this guy online, and we are having quite a good relationship for one month, until he decided to meet up and we did. It was a great date for me. He's been showing a lot of interest on me during the date. i mean he checked me out like most of the time, he would stare and looked at me in the car and when we are having lunch. he hugged my shoulder, took me for a shopping, and insist me to take more stuff as he is willing to pay though i resist. he even call me all kind of petnames in public, hold my hand, open the car door for me, and we end our date with a kiss, and not to forget he did get erected when i was with him in the car. however, he started to disappear after the date, i texted him twice, but no response it has been 3 days now. and honestly i'm hurting,but i stopped chasing him. I believe he has lost interest. He traveled back to his town yesterday..but i think it is impossible that he 's too busy because u can always tell when someone appear online on whatsapp. I don't know what to do.. and really want to regain his interest back without being too desperate.
wascal Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Hi there! Don't take this the wrong way. By the sounds of it, this guy was interested in you maybe for only looks? Maybe let it cool off for a few days. If he misses you, he will text you. Men have feelings too and they will text you if they want you. If he doesn't text, that is a sure sign he doesn't want to text you. Its that simple for me. They either want to or don't. They either text you or they don't. I am sure by the sounds of it you will find a better guy along the road and this guy will realize what he has missed out on. Don't sweat it. Don't think about it. Try distract yourself. 1
Author virgolove90 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 wascal, thanks for your reply, i'm just a lil bit confused. at such age(late 30's) he shouldnt act that way, somehow i agree with u, guys arent that complicated. it's either they want to text or don't. I'll keep myself busy, and start searching, but if he do come back how should i react?
wascal Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Ahh you got me there. Late 30s. I wonder.. Maybe he still feels young and feels like he can go around and date lots of women before he gets too old? Maybe he is a forever bachelor? Maybe he is just a jerk testing to see if you chase him. There are so many reasons men think they are " gods gift" Or maybe he just didn't like you and didn't have the heart to tell you? If he comes back. Well that is your choice. Is he worth it after he has been rude? If he apologizes and has a real excuse for why he hasn't been in touch then i would definitely give him one more chance to make it up to you.
melodicintention Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Who knows why he lost interest, it likely has nothing to do with you. He could be distracted by anything. Maybe he's sick. Maybe he got back with his ex. Maybe he got the clap or a flaming case of crabs and is dealing with that at the moment. And chasing a guy is NEVER a good idea at least until you get to a point where you know you've got his heart. Even then, you shouldn't chase a guy. If you chase, they run. How can a man chase you if you are chasing him? You'll bump heads lol. The thing is though, you are wrapped up in him liking you before you even know if he is worth liking. You don't know him very well it sounds like. Until you even know if a guy is worthy of getting hurt over, then blow then off when they suddenly appear to lose interest. It's simply not worth your time or emotions to worry about a guys that you don't even know is boyfriend material yet.
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