Author Star Gazer Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 because it seems to me he is a vortex of drama... with questionable mouth control. He doesn't seem discreet or kind. Your first interaction with him quickly went from a nice date getting to know each other to... something else. Please don't take this the wrong way.. but I'm concerned you are trying to 'prove' to him in some way that you aren't like 'Mike' says... but in reality.. guys like 'Mike' and maybe this guy Chris wreak havoc wherever they go. That's their job... your job is to avoid them. My advice is to back away from this one... You can be friendly and civil. I certainly do that myself. But please don't consider dating this guy. The third paragraph may be true. I'm not sure. However, I was also sad having not really heard from him when I posted this. I wanted to see him again, just to see him again, because I did enjoy our date and wanted to get to know him better, and that had nothing to do with Mike.
RedRobin Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 The third paragraph may be true. I'm not sure. However, I was also sad having not really heard from him when I posted this. I wanted to see him again, just to see him again, because I did enjoy our date and wanted to get to know him better, and that had nothing to do with Mike. Awww! I'm sorry... I understand...
Emilia Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 The third paragraph may be true. I'm not sure. However, I was also sad having not really heard from him when I posted this. I wanted to see him again, just to see him again, because I did enjoy our date and wanted to get to know him better, and that had nothing to do with Mike. You will know soon enough. I think a second date would put your mind at rest one way or another.
ReelAhdvice Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 *Names changed. I had a date the other night with Chris, a guy I know through mutual friends, one of whom is a coworker of his. At dinner, he asked me if I know anyone else he works with. I honestly said I didn't think so. Then he said, "Don't you know Mike Smith? I thought I remembered seeing pictures of you two on his Facebook a while back." I instantly rolled my eyes, remembering that they do indeed work for the same large company. This Mike guy is someone I knew briefly for a few months about 6 years ago, who was an attention seeking, just-divorced wannabe player, and tried to play my girlfriends and I against each other. He failed miserably, and in the process of him going down in flames, I made sure to give him a piece of my mind, and haven't seen or spoken to him since. I told Chris as much. In response, he seemed to agree with my assessment and said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but I thought you guys knew each other, so at work I went to his Facebook and asked him, 'Hey dude, what's the story with you and Star?' and his response was, 'F******cccckkkk dude, she's CRAZY! Stay away!" This is the third time in 6 years I've heard that this guy has said something derogatory about me. Trust me, I wasn't "crazy." I went off on him about as much as I did in the paragraph above. He wasn't worth my time, at all. I wasn't even interested, so much as offended at how he treated my friends (one in particular who was really hurt by him). But apparently, he's one of those guys who labels women who stand up for themselves as "cray cray." What should I do? Both with Mike, and the guys I date who tell me he's talking sh*t? Ignore him and move on.
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