IJustWantLove Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I believe men need women more than women need men. In Genesis, God saw that man was alone and it was not good. So He made for him a woman. There is nothing in Genesis that says woman being alone is not good. I've been thinking about this for some time now. There are two sides to the coin. I'm always much happier if I have a woman in my bed. Me, personally, I'm very affectionate. I sleep sounder and later when I've got a woman in my bed. The other side of the coin, I don't take care of myself as well when I've got a steady girl. My diet gets worse. My gym attendance gets more sporadic. I go longer between haircuts. And lastly, I start to focus more on guy type things, like the stock market, politics, sports and occasionally, video games. Take the girl away, and suddenly my diet is perfect, my gym attendance is awesome. Stock market & video games are nowhere on the radar screen. My social skills increase and my interest in guy things plummets. But when I'm single, and I'm doing all the things I'd prefer to do, like good diet & gym attendance, my happiness plummets. I'm always happy when I've got the girl. Any thoughts? Somehow, I think this is all symptomatic of the concept of guys need women but women don't needed men? It seems like women are perfectly fine without us. 1
Titania22 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I don't have any thoughts, but it does sound like an interesting topic idea. don't need men much, but I have offspring, it would probably be a different story if I were alone. I look forward to seeing other people opinions. 1
BluEyeL Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I want a man. Not sure if I need one. Make my own money, pay a mortgage, I have a kid, I'm kinda used to doing whatever I want and not compromising. But still want a man, preferably a good one, to be my friend, companion and lover. Emphasis on a good one, a bad relationship is worse than being single. At this point I'm pretty happy being single, life is good. Still would like some sex and companionship though. 2
USMCHokie Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Switch the genders in your first post and it still applies to many women. This is not a gender issue. It's a personal issue. 4
RogerWallace111 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 The "need" for affection, etc from the opposite sex has no real correlation with gender. For every needy man there is an equally needy woman. You may feel like you're only really content/happy with a woman in your life, and there definitely women who feel the same about men. If anything, just because women are generally more conditioned to think they need a man to get by, I'd call them the typically more needy sex. But again it's all case by case. I've got a different set of "guy things" but aside from that I'm there with you on all that sh*t. I thought my loneliness as of late was just a lingering symptom of the breakup I went through almost 8 months ago, but it's beyond that. It's just a general desire for female company/affection. Even my few inconsequential hookups, etc had me feeling a bit more "happy". And honestly not from sex as much as the simple comfort of waking up next to a woman. It can help ease your mind... 1
carhill Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Speaking strictly as romantic/sexual partners, I doubt there is a marked difference in the amount of 'need', although the specific needs may be particular to each gender. The potentially sucky part comes in when one is socialized more in the 'middle', so marked 'need' for opposite sex companionship, presuming hetero, isn't an overwhelming drive. Of course, for society to function, we all should desire some interaction with others and most of us do have such interactions. IME, perhaps reflective of another recently posted topic about men separating emotions from sex, I've never heard a man relate that 'I can't be alone' but have heard that statement from many women over the decades. The men might feel that, and feel impelled to seek out a companion and indeed gain that companion, but they don't communicate their 'need' openly, rather through their actions. My datapoint is that, other than the ten years I was married, I've lived alone my entire adult life and feel no overwhelming 'need' to alter that circumstance. I had long desired children and got married to facilitate that. Personally, having observed others, I think men who have a more visible and marked 'need' for companionship do better with women because, for most men and women, there is a desire to be needed/wanted. If someone can take or leave another, even if in a loving way, it doesn't have the same 'feel'. The need and want, OTOH, is clear and apparent. There is no ambiguity about that. 2
sayyes19 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I believe men need women more than women need men. In Genesis, God saw that man was alone and it was not good. So He made for him a woman. There is nothing in Genesis that says woman being alone is not good. I've been thinking about this for some time now. There are two sides to the coin. I'm always much happier if I have a woman in my bed. Me, personally, I'm very affectionate. I sleep sounder and later when I've got a woman in my bed. The other side of the coin, I don't take care of myself as well when I've got a steady girl. My diet gets worse. My gym attendance gets more sporadic. I go longer between haircuts. And lastly, I start to focus more on guy type things, like the stock market, politics, sports and occasionally, video games. Take the girl away, and suddenly my diet is perfect, my gym attendance is awesome. Stock market & video games are nowhere on the radar screen. My social skills increase and my interest in guy things plummets. But when I'm single, and I'm doing all the things I'd prefer to do, like good diet & gym attendance, my happiness plummets. I'm always happy when I've got the girl. Any thoughts? Somehow, I think this is all symptomatic of the concept of guys need women but women don't needed men? It seems like women are perfectly fine without us. Men probably need sex more and women need to feel protected biologically. 1
Pisces13 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I've been thinking about this for some time now. There are two sides to the coin. I'm always much happier if I have a woman in my bed. Me, personally, I'm very affectionate. I sleep sounder and later when I've got a woman in my bed. The other side of the coin, I don't take care of myself as well when I've got a steady girl. My diet gets worse. My gym attendance gets more sporadic. I go longer between haircuts. And lastly, I start to focus more on guy type things, like the stock market, politics, sports and occasionally, video games. Take the girl away, and suddenly my diet is perfect, my gym attendance is awesome. Stock market & video games are nowhere on the radar screen. My social skills increase and my interest in guy things plummets. But when I'm single, and I'm doing all the things I'd prefer to do, like good diet & gym attendance, my happiness plummets. I'm always happy when I've got the girl. I'm EXACTLY the same man. When I was with my ex I was addicted to playing Black Ops, we broke up almost 12 weeks ago now and my PS3 has sat in the cupboard ever since, haven't had a single urge to play it at all. That goes for stuff like the diet etc. as well, but that was the main example for me lol. 1
SimonSerenade Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Good topic and absolutely true, that's evolution for you, women have something inside them that makes them independent, wether there alone or with you, they'll more than likely be alright and get by, also as a guy who has a son and also spent the good part of a year and a half taking care of my ex girlfriends cousin, the independence weighed heavily in her favor, my son whines and cries and leeches the life right out of me but my exs lil cousin just wanted to be by herself and even helped out round the house!, if she fell over she'd get up, dust herself off and get on with it, I don't quite know how to put my finger on it but women are superior to men in so many ways..... 1
ptp Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I need women more than they seem to need me. So in my case, yes. 1
rabbledabble Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 There is no answer. It depends on the relationship. I think the gender of your partner is irrelevant. I think you both need each other in a functioning relationship.
todreaminblue Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Studies have shown Men apparently live longer in a relationship.....i think it is because the wife feeds them nutritious meals.....kidding..maybe not i think men dont worry so much about food when single....... dont know why this is.....in all honesty, i think its pretty equal on the needing thing...men need women and women need men...we need each other....not just happiness alone particularly....just because it feels right to share your life with another...even when they annoy the crap out of you....theres a balance there...that makes you remember why you are with them in the first place....one life, becomes part of anothers life......that...is a beautiful thing..good and bad, working it out together..............deb 2
Got it Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Studies have shown that men do better in relationships, live longer, than vice versa. I think that women tend to have a social network where they get their companionship, emotional nurturing, etc. from others as much as their significant partner so they can adjust better. I do not NEED a man, I want one but I am not dependent in any way on having one. He is the icing on my cake, not the cake. But I do feel it is a very individual issue/concern and not a true gender evaluation. 2
sweetkiwi Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I find myself to be a very giving affectionate person and when I can't do that with a man I am sexually attracted to I notice myself feeling unfulfilled. My diet suffers, my mood suffers, even my sex drive takes a hit, or becomes out of control. When I have that outlet I cook more, clean more, exercise more, laugh more, and am generally very happy. 2
hppr Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 People who are in relationships and have active social networks live longer than loners, and women live longer than men on average. So, both sexes 'benefit' from relationships in that way. As far as 'need' goes from what I see it is age dependent. Teens is just plain crazy time there is no figuring it out. 20s it seems like men chase women way more than vice-versa. When you get near 30, or slightly over 30, single women get desperate/jaded/impossible. Those who are single in their 40s/50s act like teenagers all over again. No idea what it's like for the single 60s/70s but I imagine it's ice scream, scrabble, and chasing the girlfriend around with your viagra prescription. 1
hppr Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I find myself to be a very giving affectionate person and when I can't do that with a man I am sexually attracted to I notice myself feeling unfulfilled. My diet suffers, my mood suffers, even my sex drive takes a hit, or becomes out of control. When I have that outlet I cook more, clean more, exercise more, laugh more, and am generally very happy. Same I think everyone is happier in a good relationship than without one at all. Human beings are social creatures, being alone isn't right. 1
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