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I was wondering if this happens a lot, as this happened to me recently.

 

Me and my AP's families were having a BBQ, when another "friend" of my AP saw us touching each others legs briefly under the table.

This "friend" then confronted my AP, my AP denied everything.

Then this "friend" started giving me exaggerated compliments and flirting with me in front of my AP whenever my H wasn't near. :sick:

Of course AP couldn't say or do anything as that would have incriminated him.

 

The idea that I got was:

 

1. Either this "friend" was trying to make my AP angry, or

2. He thinks because he saw us touching (each others legs) that I'm easy and that maybe he can get lucky with me (too).

 

The next day he told my AP's W about (only me) touching AP's leg - mini Dday for me :(.

 

Has anyone else had experience with this?

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1. Either this "friend" was trying to make my AP angry, or

 

Not at all.

2. He thinks because he saw us touching (each others legs) that I'm easy and that maybe he can get lucky with me (too).

Yep, bingo! He figured since you are cheating on your husband, maybe you'd also let something happen between you and him as well.

The next day he told my AP's W about (only me) touching AP's leg - mini Dday for me .

 

Does your husband know yet? You say mini DDay, but what happened?

 

Now that your AP's wife knows, there's a good chance she's going to tell your husband. Maybe it's time to come clean and let the chips fall where they're gonna fall. You and your AP can't keep on making total fools of your spouses, right under their noses! Having a BBQ together and letting your AP feel you up under the table is ballsy.

 

You and your AP have A LOT to lose, is it worth what you're doing behind your spouses backs? The fall out is going to be huge and even more so if you all have children.

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I agree with LG too. He didn't get what he wanted from you so he told to AP's W.. a jealous "friend"

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Does your husband know yet? You say mini DDay, but what happened?

 

Thank goodness no, he doesn't.

I should have said, I "almost" had a mini DDay. AP's W phoned me and said I was flirting with her husband, and that she, another woman and the "friend" saw me touching AP's leg.

I told her that I told her AP that his "friend" was flirting with me and he thought I was imagining it, so every time the "friend" flirted I squeezed AP's leg to get his attention on his "friend" flirting with me. She asked AP if this was so and he confirmed.

 

Also I think AP's W is lying about she seeing me touching his leg, she wanted us to sleep over, PLUS she's the type that would have taken me on right then and there.

 

Now that your AP's wife knows, there's a good chance she's going to tell your husband.

 

No she won't, she knows my H is the jealous type. I told her that I will tell my H about the flirting from the "friend" and that I squeezed her H's leg to show him and she said I shouldn't. I left it at that.

 

 

 

I agree with LG too. He didn't get what he wanted from you so he told to AP's W.. a jealous "friend"

 

I say mostly #2 with a little bit of #1. The friend probably thinks he can bed you but also somewhat enjoyed tormenting the the MM as well.

 

I think I agree with both statements above

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TrixLove, I vote #2. And what a yucky "friend".

 

Now I'm a bit worried about this "almost" mini d-day thing. You have basically gas-lighted the BW. (Anyone agree?) Someone told her something that you know is true. She called you (which I find admirable - she doesn't play around) and you made her think she is being silly. I wouldn't advise you to admit it now but damn! How is she going to feel when there is a real d-day? She will remember this incident and kick herself for not trusting herself.

 

Stop going to this woman's house. You and her WH can't keep your hands off each other in his marital home. What kind of man is he really? Doesn't this worry you?:eek:

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#2- in his mind you are easy-

Not the best compliment I think-

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OP wrote, "... PLUS she's the type that would have taken me on right then and there."

What do You think she is going to do when she Does find out.

Please don't say you don't think she ever will find out... it's a matter of time.

Here that? "tick tock, tick tock tick..."

 

She is going to Doubly want to "take you on" when she is told or finds the truth.

 

I'm not WAIT, yes I am, telling you this to scare you. Scare you into Running away from this A!

Dude. She CALLED you. And YOU LIED . Soooooo not good for you.

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Both. He know sees you as being "easy". You both put it out there by even engaging together in front of your spouses. yuck!!! Also, you rejected him so now he has the upper hand.

 

Why the heck would you even bring your families together, while sleeping with each other?

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Thank goodness no, he doesn't.

I should have said, I "almost" had a mini DDay. AP's W phoned me and said I was flirting with her husband, and that she, another woman and the "friend" saw me touching AP's leg.

I told her that I told her AP that his "friend" was flirting with me and he thought I was imagining it, so every time the "friend" flirted I squeezed AP's leg to get his attention on his "friend" flirting with me. She asked AP if this was so and he confirmed.

 

Also I think AP's W is lying about she seeing me touching his leg, she wanted us to sleep over, PLUS she's the type that would have taken me on right then and there.

 

 

 

No she won't, she knows my H is the jealous type. I told her that I will tell my H about the flirting from the "friend" and that I squeezed her H's leg to show him and she said I shouldn't. I left it at that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think I agree with both statements above

I cannot believe you would go this far to hide things. It is going to blow up...you have taken to many chances as it is.

 

If your husband is the "jealous" type, then why would you chance having an affair? It amazes me that people think having an affair because their spouse is abusive or jealous is the right thing. You are just setting yourself up for major blowup.

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The first image that came to mind when i read that was the George Costanza character from Pretty Woman...when he hits on Julia Roberts. Oh but she was a prostitute...never mind.

 

I'm guessing the reason you two met is because you are in the same social circle, I'm not sure why people are surprised that the families are in the same place. Most A's start when people know each other in a friendly context first.

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I also agree he thinks you gave the AP some so he may be able to get some also. This was brought to the wifes attention which will put her into full alert. She may be putting the pieces together. It seems you both are getting comfortable with the affair and taking chances.

One day you will get caught, are you going to chance that and continue on with your relationship.

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The first image that came to mind when i read that was the George Costanza character from Pretty Woman...when he hits on Julia Roberts. Oh but she was a prostitute...never mind.

 

I'm guessing the reason you two met is because you are in the same social circle, I'm not sure why people are surprised that the families are in the same place. Most A's start when people know each other in a friendly context first.

 

That's the first thought I had. That disgusting George in Pretty Woman.:sick:

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