kameron Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 (edited) So girlfriend of 2 years left me and I am devistated. I met her in psych tech school at first sight I knew she was the one for me. She was in a relationship with another guy for 3 years, she looked so unhappy so I pursued her I found out he treated her like crap so we started hanging out. We hung out for about 2 weeks she told her boyfriend we were hanging out and that I was just a friend from school, as we hung out more and more our bond grew stronger we were beginning to fall in love, she ended up leaving her boyfriend of 3 years for me due to her being unhappy. She said he was lazy never outgoing he got fat so she wasn't attracted to him anymore. Well the same night she left him she called me over to stay with her no we did not have sex. We continued to be boyfriend and girlfriend for 2 years from that day on. We got our own place and were so happy together she wanted to marry me we were so in love we did everything together. Well after about a year she became more distant not wanting to cuddle hardly told me she loved me anymore we started to argue about small things. I just looked past all this because we were happy most of the time. So just after 2 years of dating I come home from work one night and she tells me she doesnt love me anymore and that she misses her ex boyfriend she misses hanging out with him. And that the feelings for me have gone away. I was devastated. I packed all my stuff and left I gave her the place. I have done all the wrong things I have begged and begged for her back sent her long messages aand texts the longest I have gone no contact is 4 daya. I'm misserable she now stays in my old house with this guy she is so cold towards me I don't even think she thinks she did anything wrong. She said I was to controlling she never brought this up before maybe just once. She didn't even give me a chance. She told me she left him in such a bad way that she needs closure she wants to see if there is something still there and I guess there was because she says she is happy with him. I'm so confused we had so many good times together how can she forget all that. And all the gits I have bought her she wants to keep. There is even a specal blanked I got her and she sleeps with it every night y would she want to keep these things. I have just recently told her I want to start no contact so she can realize what she lost. A couple hours later she blocked me on fb Idk y we werent even friends. Please help I have no idea what to do I love this girl so much. Edited May 29, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs.
wascal Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Hi Cameron. Reading your story, it really hits home for me. I want to be honest with you so please dont get offended. This girl. (like myself) wanted attention, she wanted to feel special, she liked the way you made her feel, she was bored in her relationship. You brought her excitement. She left the guy for the excitement. I think she never stopped loving the guy she just didn't realize it because she was happy with you. The saying the grass is greener on the other side sort of thing. After a few months even years, it always becomes less exciting with people. So once the excitement left you and her in the relationship she realized that is all she was there for. I am really sorry to say all this to you. I am sorry you were used. I am positive she loves you, but maybe she just cant get the other guy out of her head, i also suspect he was there all along. Move on. You are the winner here. It may not feel like it right now.. But in a few months, this girl will get bored again and come crawling back to you. You need to have the balls to tell her you moved on. (i hope that you do find somebody a million times better, i am actually positive you will) 1
Chi townD Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Dude, you were the rebound guy and you got used. She always carried a torch for this guy and she threw you under the bus as aoon as this asshat started to sniff around again. So, leaves me to believe that she was cheating on you with this guy. I mean, look at the big picture! She got rid of you and moved this guy in immediately! There had to be something going on in order for this guy to come waltzing back into her life as if nothing ever happened! Now, she acts like you're the bad guy in all of this, that all this was your fault and YOU were the one that drove her Ex away from her in the first place. She has to demonize you in her head so she can deal with the guilt of playing you. Dude, this wasn't your fault. You got played. Time to heal and move on. I strongly reccommend in the future to NOT date girls freshly out of a relationship.
Author kameron Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 Thanks for the advice. It's a horrible feeling knowing I was just the rebound and was just being used. I truely thought we had something special. I saved this girl from a bad relationship, I gave her more love and attention than he ever could. I was a nice guy. The dude she is with no is nothing special I have no idea what she sees in him. He doesn't care about her like I did. My ex is so hurtful to me she told me she wished she never would have dated me that I was a mistake, then she says no I'm glad I dated you because I realized what i really had. How cruel is that. I have never even raised my voice to this girl. Treated her with nothing but love and respect. Do you guys honestly think she will realize what she lost or just continue to be happy with this guy. Oh and he works out of town Monday through Friday and only home on the weekedns.
Chi townD Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Doesn't really matter, dude. She made a choice and, unfortunately, it wasn't you. She said some pretty harsh and foul things to you. So, why the hell would you want to be with someone that thinks so lowly of you? On the flipside, there's a reason why our Ex's are our Ex's. She in the honeymoon phase of her old relationship and sooner or later, that's going to burn out and the little things that used to annoy the piss out of her about this guy is going to resurface. At that point, she may reach out to you. YOU NEED TO IGNORE HER! Remember, she made the choice to have you out of her life. Therefore, you give her exactly what she wants. She has NO REASON to contact the "biggest mistake of her life", right? Dude, I said this before, this wasn't your fault. You were used. Don't listen to a word she says about you. She's just trying to justify the break up in her head so she doesn't have to feel guilty about what she's done. Time to heal and move on, dude. She isn't worth your time.
Author kameron Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 You are absolutely right about everything. It's time to move on. Bad things happen to good people, it's the sad truth.
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