Gooly Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Sappy title, I know but I don't even know where to begin. My common law husband and I broke up last week and I am still in shock. I know I will get past this stage but I am so devastated over the ordeal. We had a wonder loving relationship for the last 3 1/2 years. 2 years ago I was working and was having some difficulties in my job and he suggested I quit. We did a lot of extended travelling so working would not have allowed us that luxury as he can get a month or so off at a time. About six months ago he thought it would be a good idea for me to get back to work. He didn't want me to take any job but find something I could do from home. That was limited. I was working on a few goals and decided to pursue them after our vacation. We spend 6 weeks in Mexico and for the last 2 his daughter and her family joined us. I knew once they arrived my trip would be over as I would have to focus on them. I was fine with that. However, after a week of their arrival he became distant. He would make plans with them and not include me or make plans but not tell me until they were ready to go. I was becoming very frustrated with his behaviour and told him so. First he was quite upset with me saying I was holding him back. All I asked was to include me when making those plans. It continued until I refused to go with them. At this point he was just angry. We had a huge fight about it and we both said things we didn't mean. Once we arrived home he became very sullen and didn't talk to me for two days. I tried to explain my position but he wasn't interested in hearing it. Later the next day he came home and said I was keeping him on a leash and he didn't want me asking where he was going or when will he be back anymore. I thought he was being unreasonable and tried to get him to discuss it. He didn't want to talk any further. I decided to go visit family for a week and try to do some soul searching. I was away 3 days when I noticed a post he made on facebook to a friend of his, saying I was his soon to be ex! I was shocked needless to say. I tried to contact him but he wouldn't respond to the phone, texts or emails. By now I was furious. Finally, he responded to my email by saying he was sorry that I found out that way and he didn't realize he was posting to fb but thought he was in a chat window. I guess the writing is on the wall on. End of story. The next day I was signing onto fb and because he used my computer while on vacation his account popped up. I didn't notice that it was his account. I wanted to send a nice little note to his daughter saying good bye and hope we could stay in touch with her and the kids. (which I consider my grand kids) I noticed the conversation in the open window and was a little confused by a past conversation I noticed. It was his account telling his daughter that we broke up. (this conversation took place prior to our actual breakup) She said I was two faced and jealous of her and her sister. Now I was really heartbroken. i sent him a message saying how mean and cruel I thought he was for the way he handled the situation. The next day I discovered he spoke to a friend of mine in the town I was visiting telling her that he was going to break up with me and asked her to convince me to stay there longer. He never did respond to that one. I was home 3 days and still he would not talk to me. He stayed at his daughters home. Well, this morning he walks in the house with this sour look on his face. I was cordial and he seemed to relax a little. Here comes the cruncher... he actually asked if he could stay her with me until he can find a place. I am heartbroken over this and don't know what to say. I love him very much but I have to stay strong for me. Anyone have any advice for me? Thank you all for listening! Gooly
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