Author weedsandposies Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 See that is just what you where regardless if they were married or not. The OW. And even if he contacts you through your business you CAN block him. I would suggest you do so. STOP sending her anything. As for calling her lazy, maybe you should apply that term to your husband too. He has chose to let all your little lies slide right by and not dig any further. If the affair was over two years ago, then why oh why have you even bothered sending her anything? She already knew about you and stopped after the your threats. ENOUGH ALREADY. Focus on your marriage. And remember that any damage you might be able to do to your ExMM, he can bestow upon you too. I didn't threaten her. The C&D was for OM. The A was 2 years ago but he has NOT stopped contacting me. I agree... ENOUGH ALREADY LOL He gets blocked as it happens but uses different numbers/emails to contact us.
ladydesigner Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 weedsandposies you interferred with someone elses life, knowingly or unknowingly, that BS has every right to be angry with you and her H. Just like you owe her nothing, she owes YOU nothing. This whole thread reeks of Narcissicm from you weedsandposies, it's as if you cannot put yourself in anyone elses' shoes or posses any empathy for both your BS and the BS of the xOM 2
eleanorrigby Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 How about acknowledgement? Or an apology? My email said her H has been harrassing me for 2 years and it needs to stop or we will file criminal charges. And she told me she doesn't have time for the drama, she is aware of some emails from months ago (didn't mention the texts I sent her), and to LEAVE HER HUSBAND ALONE! Hey, how about you handle YOUR problem by yourself? Your MM is stalking you? Handle your business and get a restraining order. You have a lot of nerve calling the BW lazy and a fool, what are you doing besides sending emails to the BW hoping she will fix YOUR problem? Whatever the MM is doing to you now is YOUR problem. Fix it. 6
ComingInHot Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Weeds wrote, "Next time it will be the police. I'm done with this drama." YEEEEEEEEAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! This is the BEST thing I have read in all of your Threads for the past what 2.. 3 years!!! I was getting REALLY Concerned you were feeding off all the drama which is Why you hadn't already told everyone the God's honest truth and immediately filed the RO. Way to go Weeds* 3
2sunny Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 The difference is H and I have a life. We have never contacted them, never discuss him/them. It's only when OM contacted me this last time that all the questions re-emerged in H head. It's annoying to say the least. You spend a ton of time wasting your thoughts on him, his wife and what you're NOT willing to change. You haven't been honest. You contradict yourself. Change your work email - if that's the only/ last way he's capable of contacting you! Easy solution! 1
2sunny Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I really don't want him in my life. Now you're lying to us. Last week you said you loved him - you planned to risk your marriage by meeting him. You keep talking out of both sides of your mouth. 4
2sunny Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 They were not married and I did not know she existed during the A. see post above for details. Please don't call me an OW. I will never be second best. But you're willing to make your husband "second best" by having your affair while you've been married. How is that fair to your H? Second best is good enough for hubby but not for you? You don't respect your H, why stay? 3
ComingInHot Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Weeds wrote, " Oh please. Just a few months ago I found inappropriate texts on H cell. I know what it feels like. Mistakes happen." No Wonder the side comments It makes sense that w/your H cheating on you possibly that you are putting your hurt and betrayal onto MM's W And MM. Now that you've decided No More drama and bocked Everything, I think it will allow you to take a closer look at your M & especially your H's innapropriate relationship w/mysterious OW & possible EA/PA. Are you Seriously okay?
eleanorrigby Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Since so many people were ignoring the fact that she did not in fact know he was married when they were involved, I think I'll mention it again because a lot of these comments are pretty harsh. Do you really think that women are supposed to somehow be psychic and know if the guy they are involved with is married? It doesn't matter at this point. The problem she's having is her problem to solve. Why is she wasting time on this lazy, foolish BW? Why not bypass her and go get the restraining order? 3
eleanorrigby Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I thought she said she hadn't wanted to cause them legal problems? Maybe i missed it, or am wrong but I thought that was her reason. Her next step if it continues should obviously be to an attorney. I agree. Instead of whining about how foolish and lazy someone else is, she should stop being foolish and lazy herself and get an attorney to stop the madness. 6
2sunny Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Since so many people were ignoring the fact that she did not in fact know he was married when they were involved, I think I'll mention it again because a lot of these comments are pretty harsh. Do you really think that women are supposed to somehow be psychic and know if the guy they are involved with is married? He wasn't married when they had the affair but SHE was married then. Does that make it better for her? 2
whichwayisup Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 How about acknowledgement? Or an apology? My email said her H has been harrassing me for 2 years and it needs to stop or we will file criminal charges. And she told me she doesn't have time for the drama, she is aware of some emails from months ago (didn't mention the texts I sent her), and to LEAVE HER HUSBAND ALONE! Who do you want the apology from? exMM or his wife? She owes you absolutely NOTHING. Just like your betrayed husband owes YOUR exMM absolutely nothing! Come on Weeds, you're twisting this. Since so many people were ignoring the fact that she did not in fact know he was married when they were involved, I think I'll mention it again because a lot of these comments are pretty harsh. Do you really think that women are supposed to somehow be psychic and know if the guy they are involved with is married? She continued on with the A once she found out he was married, so that negates the 'oh I didn't know he was married' line. 12
2sunny Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Your behavior was inappropriate - you are the one who should be apologizing. 4
twosadthings Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 You argue on your behalf that you didn't know he was married but you certainly knew you were married. Twosadthings 9
dreamingoftigers Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Who do you want the apology from? exMM or his wife? She owes you absolutely NOTHING. Just like your betrayed husband owes YOUR exMM absolutely nothing! Come on Weeds, you're twisting this. She continued on with the A once she found out he was married, so that negates the 'oh I didn't know he was married' line. For quite awhile too.... 3
PhoenixRise Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Since so many people were ignoring the fact that she did not in fact know he was married when they were involved, I think I'll mention it again because a lot of these comments are pretty harsh. Do you really think that women are supposed to somehow be psychic and know if the guy they are involved with is married? The reason the posts got harsher is because weedsndposies very early in the thread got insulting about the BS. She called her lazy for not knowing something that weedsandposies went out of her way to lie to her about. She called her lazy when we know this same BS sent email after email to weedsandposies trying to find the truth and W&P ignored her until one of the emails hinted at disclosure to W&P's husband at which point W&P gaslit the hell out of the BS and her own husband to kill the BS's credibility if disclosure to W&P husband ever happened. So after all that W&P is disdainful of BS because the initial response she thought came from BS (but now says it likely didnt) didn't go according to W&P's agenda. She admitted in this thread that part of the reason she hasn't taken the legal route is because she is afraid that will trigger her Hs discovery of the massive lies she has been telling him. She wants the BS to do the dirty work for her because the legal action she threatened will absolutely bite her in the butt if she actually ever follows through. 16
2sunny Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 After "threatening" to file the RO against your OM (now married) then not following through - sent him a clear message that you deliver empty threats. You've made yourself unbelievable by not following through. Your husbands non reaction - non concerning response - is something I'd be concerned about. He acts like he really doesn't care. No wonder you enjoy your OM emailing - it strokes your ego and makes you believe he's thinking about you/he cares enough to send a silly email. It takes very little effort to send an email. He likes it when he gets a reaction out of you - it strokes his ego. It's a sick and twisted game you two play. 5
findingnemo Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 2Sunny - I believe her H is not aware of the facts either. Him being unconcerned may be because he honestly thinks OM had a crush on his W and is just loony. In this saga, there are two BS' who are being gas-lighted (gaslit?). The APs are in a war of roses of sorts and the poor BS' are unaware that they are caught up in a dangerous game not of their making. If OM's BW is cold, it may be because when she was open to getting information Weeds ignored her. Weeds, take legal action. Let whatever happens happen. This is now a matter of your sanity at best, and life and death at worst. Hiding the truth from your BH is putting him and the rest of your family in danger if OM is indeed a boiler bunny kind of guy.
dreamingoftigers Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Irregardless of her own behavior, she shouldn't be harassed by this man. He needs to leave her alone. My eyes! My eyes! Loved the rest of your post though.
Author weedsandposies Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Hey, how about you handle YOUR problem by yourself? Your MM is stalking you? Handle your business and get a restraining order. You have a lot of nerve calling the BW lazy and a fool, what are you doing besides sending emails to the BW hoping she will fix YOUR problem? Whatever the MM is doing to you now is YOUR problem. Fix it. Well, after receiving those odd responses from her the only other thing I can do to stop him would be an RO. Honestly, I would much prefer to get to a place where his little breadcrumbs don't affect me. Because I have a feeling he'll be bothering me again in a few months. Now you're lying to us. Last week you said you loved him - you planned to risk your marriage by meeting him. You keep talking out of both sides of your mouth. Sunnyyyyyyyyyy why don't you teach me how to "unlove"... is that even possible? Weeds wrote, " Oh please. Just a few months ago I found inappropriate texts on H cell. I know what it feels like. Mistakes happen." No Wonder the side comments It makes sense that w/your H cheating on you possibly that you are putting your hurt and betrayal onto MM's W And MM. Now that you've decided No More drama and bocked Everything, I think it will allow you to take a closer look at your M & especially your H's innapropriate relationship w/mysterious OW & possible EA/PA. Are you Seriously okay? H sexting thing was Dec/Jan... it hurt but H is a flirt. Just didn't expect him to take it Weiner-style far. I'm ok and would never take my hurt on someone else. People have their own problems. But I will admit that around that time I questioned whether dumping OM was the right thing to do. At the very least H sexting helped alleviate some of my own guilt. It's like we're both on level ground now. Who do you want the apology from? exMM or his wife? She owes you absolutely NOTHING. Just like your betrayed husband owes YOUR exMM absolutely nothing! Come on Weeds, you're twisting this. She continued on with the A once she found out he was married, so that negates the 'oh I didn't know he was married' line. Not true. He didn't get married until months after it was over. And when I found out he was lying like this to everyone I started NC. This was 2 years ago.
Author weedsandposies Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Your behavior was inappropriate - you are the one who should be apologizing. For what? Actually, she knew he was dating. Many different "special" people. No one exclusive.
Author weedsandposies Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 (edited) The reason the posts got harsher is because weedsndposies very early in the thread got insulting about the BS. She called her lazy for not knowing something that weedsandposies went out of her way to lie to her about. She called her lazy when we know this same BS sent email after email to weedsandposies trying to find the truth and W&P ignored her until one of the emails hinted at disclosure to W&P's husband at which point W&P gaslit the hell out of the BS and her own husband to kill the BS's credibility if disclosure to W&P husband ever happened. So after all that W&P is disdainful of BS because the initial response she thought came from BS (but now says it likely didnt) didn't go according to W&P's agenda. She admitted in this thread that part of the reason she hasn't taken the legal route is because she is afraid that will trigger her Hs discovery of the massive lies she has been telling him. She wants the BS to do the dirty work for her because the legal action she threatened will absolutely bite her in the butt if she actually ever follows through. This is very accurate. Although reading it here makes me a bit ashamed. But I had to do anything to save my marriage. After "threatening" to file the RO against your OM (now married) then not following through - sent him a clear message that you deliver empty threats. You've made yourself unbelievable by not following through. Your husbands non reaction - non concerning response - is something I'd be concerned about. He acts like he really doesn't care. No wonder you enjoy your OM emailing - it strokes your ego and makes you believe he's thinking about you/he cares enough to send a silly email. It takes very little effort to send an email. He likes it when he gets a reaction out of you - it strokes his ego. It's a sick and twisted game you two play. If I file an RO I might as well file divorce papers at the same time. The entire AFFAIR was a silly stupid mistake. Edited May 30, 2013 by weedsandposies 1 1
underwater2010 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It will never happen. Can I ask how you are going to spin everything when your husband figures out that what you have told him is not the complete truth? 1
BetrayedH Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 It will never happen. W&P, do you intend to keep lying to your H until the grave? What kind of marriage is that? You've made a lot of messes. You've cleaned some of them up. It's time to clean this one up. Come clean with your H. Stop living this mess of a double-life and start living an honest and authentic one. This has got to be exhausting for you. Be done with it. Tell your H the truth, apologize, and otherwise face your consequences so that if nothing else, you can be free of lies, deception, and betrayal. 3
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