zcolman Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 My ex girlfriend of 8 months tells me she missed me for the first time in 6 months. We started talking again about one month ago. now we are slowing down communication to almost nothing. She states she is still dependent on me and still looks to me for attention. She says she needs to be a big girl and not depend on me so much. I am very confused on what this means..
Author zcolman Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 Let me confirm, we dated almost 3 years we have been broken up 8 months
TaraMaiden Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Welcome to the friend-zone. There are several sections to this zone: The first is "soft place to fall". This is an habitual lodge for you. When the schytt hits the fan for her, this is where she will expect to find you.... The second section is "Option not priority" She may be wooed, wined and dined by others, go on casual dates, but claim you are still number one. However, her actions will not match her words. Another section of this zone is one which may be used, but it's rarely visited - it's the "FWB Section". Speaks for itself.... When she says she is dependent on you, it may very well actually mean that what she's actually saying is - "I'd like the feeling to be mutual". If you go No Contact, then trust me..... She will become 'dependent' on you again. 3
Author zcolman Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 so your saying that if I go no contact that she will crave that dependance she has on me and it will bring us closer?
TaraMaiden Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Who cares?! You should go No Contact, period. It doesn't matter what she craves, or what she will do, think or say. But it's ok. Looking at your old threads, this push-pull rubbish is just going to go on and on... You will continue to ask empty questions, and diligently continue to ignore all advice.... you guys are made for each other.... come your 90's you'll still be asking "What does she mean when she....?" The only way to break this frankly dysfunctional cycle, is to quit responding. 1
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