BritRN Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I have been dating this guy for three months now and things are great, but there is one thing that is beginning to bug me........On two occasions now he has asked me why I do the things I do in a certain way,,,,,,,and I feel that this is a way of asking me to change because he feels it is odd. He says it is because he cares, but I think he is just picky and set in his ways........................What do I do about the comments when they happen, I tend to feel defensive, as I feel it is important to keep my individuality....I feel like I am being changed. Has this type of thing happened to any of you before.....When I was married it never happened like this, and certainlty not after three months......Any advice would be welcome.....
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Neeed mooooaaaaaarrr informationnnnn.... Can you be more specific as to the things he comments on?
Author BritRN Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 Stupid things like, I leave the water running while I brush my teeth, or I squeeze the toothpaste in the middle, bair in mind that it has only been three months since we started dating........and that we are in our 30's....
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 A tube of toothpaste is like a penis. It does not matter where you squeeze it, fergaudsakes. Just stand your ground. Tell him, this is me, this is how I do things, if you don't like it, then you can go find a girl who always squeezes your dick from the ball end and not all over.
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Gave it some more thought. Sounds like a controlling jackass. Thanks, thought is finished.
Author BritRN Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 I am not sure he is controlling, just too set in his ways.......I just need to tell him that, and he will have to be fine with it.....
Fayebelle Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Turning the water off when you brush you teeth a) is better for the environment (sorry the tree hugger in me had to say that ) and b) saves $ on electric Likewise- squeezing from the bottom of the toothpaste tends to stop leaking and allows you to push up more paste from the bottom. He may be a waste not want not type of person OR he may just be ultra thrifty (aka cheap) Just a thought.
tokyo Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I would simply tell you that you are wasting a lot of precious water, which seems to be better than asking someone why they do it. People just do things most of the time without thinking. If it bothers him he should say it directly. If it makes sense, you should stop doing it. Maybe he thinks he´s more polite by asking you instead of telling what you do is wrong, but I think these people always come across as being huge smart asses. I do know people who bugger me with their questions and I think it´s a huge turn off.
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Kooky? WHats your real name? Where do you stay? How old are you? What car do you drive?
SoleMate Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Next time he makes a running water/toothpaste kind of comment, how about you respond with "Thanks, I'll think about that. (pause) While we're talking, could I let you know that I find your close attention to and criticism of my daily grooming routines to be troubling and uncomfortable?" Heck, we all know about saving water and keeping toothpaste tubes nice and tidy. Those ARE good things and I'm 100% with your SO on that. What is less OK is his decision to tell you how to behave.
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 A frickin toothpaste tube is NOT an ornament. When you're done with it, it goes back in the cabinet, dammit. So what if it's all bumpy?
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