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She wants me to move out/not move in, but not break up and I don't know what to think

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Chi townD Established Member

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After my run, she let me know my paycheck arrived at her place (remember, I was SUPPOSED to move in..). I go over, she's a bit irritated I showed up unannounced. Umm, I'm your boyfriend, that shouldn't matter? What are you, cheating on me? anyhow... I'm supposed to trust her so I don't say anything.

 

Side note: her male roommate put in her a/c.. that pissed me off. I don't know why, but it did.

 

 

Refer back to my original post in this thread and read about what I said would happen if you showed up unannounced. She got mad and irritated by your presence. And all the while, chilling out with her MALE roommate. I think you busted up a nice quite evening together.

 

Dude, put the puzzle pieces together. And are you sure she took her BFF with her to that wedding? 100% sure.

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Refer back to my original post in this thread and read about what I said would happen if you showed up unannounced. She got mad and irritated by your presence. And all the while, chilling out with her MALE roommate. I think you busted up a nice quite evening together.

 

Dude, put the puzzle pieces together. And are you sure she took her BFF with her to that wedding? 100% sure.

 

well, we're fb friends still.. so i'm sure we'll find out.

 

plus I was there when she texted her bff about going. i know her bff. lol

 

plus, her male roommate is banging some girl from his work and seeing someone else.

 

my gf/ex gf can't or won't have sex with some sort of emotional attachment. that much I trust.

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well, we're fb friends still.. so i'm sure we'll find out.

 

plus I was there when she texted her bff about going. i know her bff. lol

 

plus, her male roommate is banging some girl from his work and seeing someone else.

 

my gf/ex gf can't or won't have sex with some sort of emotional attachment. that much I trust.

 

 

Just like you trusted her not to break your heart?

 

Look, it's just something to think about. Her action aren't making any sense and it's got my spidey senses tingling. Something isn't right and I think you're not getting the full story.

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Just like you trusted her not to break your heart?

 

Look, it's just something to think about. Her action aren't making any sense and it's got my spidey senses tingling. Something isn't right and I think you're not getting the full story.

 

Idk.. I still trust her.

 

she trusts me.

 

I asked her if it's someone else, she said no.

 

i think it's as is... the tension is high, she's evaluating where I fit into her life. she loves and cares for me. I think it's a 50/50 swing. I just need to give her space. If she says no, I say goodbye and move on.

 

I'm a med student - I can't deal with this bull****.

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well, we're fb friends still.. so i'm sure we'll find out.

 

plus I was there when she texted her bff about going. i know her bff. lol

 

plus, her male roommate is banging some girl from his work and seeing someone else.

 

my gf/ex gf can't or won't have sex with some sort of emotional attachment. that much I trust.

 

I agree with ChiTown that this sounds shady. They may not actually be sleeping together, but her irritated reaction when you came over unannounced and "interrupted" their time together is a red flag.

 

Proceed with caution, and keep your eyes wide open.

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I agree with ChiTown that this sounds shady. They may not actually be sleeping together, but her irritated reaction when you came over unannounced and "interrupted" their time together is a red flag.

 

Proceed with caution, and keep your eyes wide open.

 

i honestly don't know...

Minneloa Established Member

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i honestly don't know...

 

I know this must be tough, Dante, and I am not suggesting that you leap into immediate action, like confronting her or breaking up. But could you take a step back emotionally and try to just observe her actions? All of this is fresh and hurtful right now. I think it might be helpful for you to gather more information and then see how you feel.

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well, we're fb friends still.. so i'm sure we'll find out.

 

plus I was there when she texted her bff about going. i know her bff. lol

 

plus, her male roommate is banging some girl from his work and seeing someone else.

 

my gf/ex gf can't or won't have sex with some sort of emotional attachment. that much I trust.

 

rule #1 of breakups...everything you think you know about your ex gf's sexual behavior is entirely wrong. "she's not like that" is never accurate, and you'll soon start seeing it.

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So, this weekend she's at a wedding I was supposed to go to with her. I did not go with her b/c I was upset that she kicked me out and told me to give her space, so I wanted to know why she wanted me to go to the wedding then. It's not fair to put me through that. She said ok.. went without me. It was emotional for her, but she was glad she went alone. She needed the space.

 

Oh. right... we spoke briefly tonight on fb...

 

it was cordial, a bit distant, but we spoke. It's a start. I clearly have my work cut out for me... I have to make her fall in love with me again as I had when we first met.

 

it's really hard to assess the situation, but I think there's a small chance. I said I miss her.. I got a ":/" face and an "i do too"... and a bunch of I don't know's to moving forward. I guess more space/time and playing the thin line very cool. I need to show her I care, but with finesse. And hopefully we can move forward together.

 

Anyone have any ideas on how to convey the words of my heart into action?

 

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rule #1 of breakups...everything you think you know about your ex gf's sexual behavior is entirely wrong. "she's not like that" is never accurate, and you'll soon start seeing it.

 

she's the type that can only have sex with people she's emotionally attached to.. and even that is hard.

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she's the type that can only have sex with people she's emotionally attached to.. and even that is hard.

 

my exes fed me the same lines. i actually believed them.

 

just saying, be prepared to realize your "queen" may not be as prude as you believe.

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