hopefuldoubtful Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 The bomb dropped and the dust has settled. Finding out your partner has had an affair hurts more than just about anything. Our relationship has changed. I think hitting this low point together has allowed us to start over in a way; to rebuild. We share with each other now. We realize how precious we are in one another's life and we make the effort to be there. We schedule time for a date night, and we talk about what scares us, the mistakes we've made, our hopes and dreams for the future. I think he can finally be honest with me about anything, because there's not much you can say to scare someone away after they've stood by you after an affair. I can see the regret in his eyes still, he tells me how sorry he is and how he'd do anything to take it back. Thinking about it still stings. But in a way it made us see how much we wanted each other and how we needed to get things back on track. He tries every single day to be better. He hasn't run away from a question yet. He holds me when I need to cry about it, he grabs onto me so tight and promises it will all be okay. There are other demons he's been fighting and I can't say enough how proud I am of the progress he's made. I know that when you first find out, everything feels like it's falling apart. I wasn't sure that I'd be able to ever look at him again. But he's really shown me that he wants to fix the damage he's caused and I'm glad I've given him the chance. We're falling in love all over again. 3
NotCamelot Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 It is really great to hear a reconcilitory story like yours. I'm happy for you as well. 2
save150 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 The bomb dropped and the dust has settled. Finding out your partner has had an affair hurts more than just about anything. Our relationship has changed. I think hitting this low point together has allowed us to start over in a way; to rebuild. We share with each other now. We realize how precious we are in one another's life and we make the effort to be there. We schedule time for a date night, and we talk about what scares us, the mistakes we've made, our hopes and dreams for the future. I think he can finally be honest with me about anything, because there's not much you can say to scare someone away after they've stood by you after an affair. I can see the regret in his eyes still, he tells me how sorry he is and how he'd do anything to take it back. Thinking about it still stings. But in a way it made us see how much we wanted each other and how we needed to get things back on track. He tries every single day to be better. He hasn't run away from a question yet. He holds me when I need to cry about it, he grabs onto me so tight and promises it will all be okay. There are other demons he's been fighting and I can't say enough how proud I am of the progress he's made. I know that when you first find out, everything feels like it's falling apart. I wasn't sure that I'd be able to ever look at him again. But he's really shown me that he wants to fix the damage he's caused and I'm glad I've given him the chance. We're falling in love all over again. That is so great to read. I wish you more luck in the recovery. Mine...not so good. In fact, its failing. Reading this is sad - thinking about our attempts at Recovery. (I'm a BS.) But that's for another thread and time. But this? Fabulous!
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