Tallgirl91 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Hey so I'm a senior in high school and am graduating in 3 days. During school I played volleyball and eventually got a full ride to a division 1 school. I got a new coach this year and he really believed in me and was really supportive. This caused a lot of girls to think I was his favorite and it bothered one of my closest friend alot "Beth". Beth is obese... I'm not being mean but medically she is obese and because of this she doesn't move as fast on the court and didn't get much playing time as she did when she was slimmer. Beth was extremely bitter the whole time and I felt a lot of that projected on to me. She'd say things like " the coach is so obsessed with you " or " even when you make a mistake he still cheers for you" also she'd say " you're playing OKAY" when I would be the top scorer. When I got the scholarship she was like " did you just send highlights to make yourself look good? Or did you send actually game footage? What if you go there and completely suck?" And when I won the MVP award she maliciously said " do you feel special now?". I really have gotten bad vibes from her this year but the thing is she is so sneaky about it that the one time I confronted her she made me seem crazy. On top of that she is adamant about coming to down 6 hours to see me play and I think she just wants to be sneaky and see if I suck. I've already lost a lot of friends over time and I don't know if I should cut her off. Then again I'm no longer in high school so avoiding her would be obvious. What should I do?
CC12 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Yes, you should stop being friends with this person. She says ****ty things about you and tries to tear you down. It's okay if avoiding her is obvious. You don't have to be kind to people who are not kind to you. If you invited her to see you play 6 hours away, disinvite her. If you feel you need to give her a reason, tell her that her trash-talk interferes with your game, and you'd just rather not have her negativity there. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I am sorry that she treats you poorly.....have you ever spoken to her about how she makes you feel.....maybe if she actually realized that she made you feel less than good she would realize that she shouldnt.......i am being hope full i know......but have you talked to her....just read you confronted her once ....read back over it... would it be worth it do you think to try confronting her with blunt honesty again, standing firm and if she makes you feel crazy just tell her then that her friendship isnt good for you......because of her constant put downs......its her loss..... friends should be supportive and happy for you when you have good things happen for you its a time to celebrate with friends...i get excited for my friends....when they get windfalls, gain employment,get promoted or find happiness.....my heart lifts ...and we celebrate i dont understand what makes her feel good about putting you down.....friendship is about feeling good around someone because they want you to feel good and you want them to feel good....... kick ass with volleyball...i hope you have continued success with every endeavour including friendships old and new...........good luck.........deb 1
destroyed4sho Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 She is toxic and wants you to fail. She is also trying to use psychology to take hits at your self-esteem and make you doubt your abilities. What if you go there and completely suck?" She is toxic and you need to get rid of her even if you have no friends left for now. You are young and will get plenty of friends in the years to come, but this one needs to go. I find that whenever I get rid of toxic friends or feel friendless that is when I have space and time to make a whole new set of friends! Get rid of her NOW and new friends will come your way. 3
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