TheMink Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 My first girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago, we are both 17 and were in a relationship for 9 months. Basically her reasoning was because she fell out of love, and that she had no desire to be in a relationship with me. At first we tried being friends, which didn't really work out. Things got messy, I don't really want to get into any of the details but she's done some things that offended me and pushed me away, and we kind of had a falling out, and she's blocked me on FB, and I don't have her new phone number. So basically she's in control on whether we contact each other. I've been in NC for a little over two weeks now. Her parents were divorced, and as a child she was physically abused by her father, who was an alcoholic and a drug user. When she was 11, her father was involved in a road rage incident leading to him driving a car off the road leading to the death of the driver and injuring 3 passengers. He's currently serving a 14 year sentence in prison, and last year she got to see him in prison for the first time in 5 years. At around the same time, her father's girlfriend, tried to commit suicide in front of her. She suffers from depression, and has on and off anxiety attacks, and suffers from night terrors. I have feared for her own safety at times, I have seen where she has cut herself. I really am the first kind of person that has come into her life that has truly show that amount of care for her. Although her mother does care for her, when she tried to talk to her mum about her depression and anxiety she just brushed it off, and wouldn't take any action. And went to the point that my girlfriend asked me to talk to her mum about it for her, which I gladly agreed to do (of which I might add her mum made fun of me for doing so). My girlfriend hasn't really ever had a father figure in her life, and the one that she was starting to see as one (her mothers partner) died when she was 13. I've always been there for her, worried about her, cared for her, been a shoulder when she needed someone to talk to. I was basically her emotional crutch for the last 9 months. And I'm the only person that she's really been able to talk to about this stuff when she needs someone to talk to. Now what I'm asking is what do I do if in the small chance that she tries to contact me saying that she needs someone to talk to. I have been worried for her personal safety in the past, as I've seen cuts on her legs and she has eluded to thoughts of suicide. I don't know how I would react if she tried to contact me saying she needed someone to talk to. It's hard enough for me to deal with this heartbreak, and dealing with the emotional rollercoaster at the moment. I know that there is a very small chance of this happening because she has blocked me meaning that she doesn't want anything to do with me, and she says that I've turned into this disrespectful manipulative *******. Should I talk to her if she needs someone to talk to? Or do I remain in NC to make sure that I prioritise my well being over hers?
bwasroy Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 It all depends how well off you are and if you can emotionally withstand talking to her and listening to her but not caving or progressing backwards in terms of how you feel about her.
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