brendogs Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Hi there, my story is a bit similar to a few here but I'll just get an opinion before I make my actions. Point form relationship: -We're both same age (24) -6 year serious relationship -was planning on moving out together in the next few months -She suffered from depression -Marriage, kids, house etc. all were on the cards. -Extremely loyal relationship -Former best friends, and remained best friends throughout relationship -Previous 12 months I got lazy and complaicent and she ended it because she wasn't happy. -She just got a new dream job only a couple months ago so I think shes using it as a shining light moment to change everything in her life. -I just found out she got large tattoo's on her legs, started smoking again after 2 years of quitting and after 2 years of being vegetarian started eating meat again a couple weeks after split up. She is usually the most kind and caring and loving person I know and right now she is just cold hearted and acting like when she was 16. She did this when we were 18 and we split up for 6-8 months and she came running back. I have had no contact for a month now and I've written a nice letter explaining where I know I went wrong and how I'm seeing a psychologist to help me fix the issues she broke with me. Im sending the letter to her work with flowers because I know that the people she is working with all know the situation and I'm sure they will convince her that it is a kind gesture for me to do that. Plus she melts for flowers and surprises like that. It's a fairly standard letter like most I've seen on here but I also added this poem on a postcard. As the saying goes, there are many fishes in the sea. But out of them all, only one, caught my eye with glee. It is you, I cannot replace. It is you, that I want to embrace. I desire to share my life with you, I can't help not think our love was true. Yes, we've come across that treacherous road, that broke us apart and had us implode. It shattered our love, it pushed us away. Its something I regret, a price I've had to pay. But our love was true, was it not? I guess our frustration, had us forgot. I said before, that I was commited to you. I'd never thought, one day we'd be through. I am solemnly sorry for the hurt you felt, that suddenly made our happiness melt. I see you want to focus on your dreams and career, I was your biggest fan, supporting you when times were unclear You were a huge part of my world, my life, someone who'd I thought one day be my wife. Our love was real, it wasn't fake. Seeing us apart, just makes my heart ache. Our love was true, it wasn't a lie. I am commited to you, I don't want to say goodbye. I desire a future with you, the one I love. I mean all the things that I mentioned above. I will give you time, I will give you space, Lets take it slow, at a steady pace. When it's time, I want one more chance, to share with you our former romance. I love you with all my heart. Hopefully together we'll have a new beginning, a new start. I know she needs space and I have a good feeling that we could possibly get back together because when the split up happened she never once said "She hates me" or "I dont love you anymore" or anything along those lines she just said "She wasn't happy" and listed my faults which I am working on with her psychologist. I told her I will give her space and call her in a few months time and she never said Yes or she never said No it was always "I don't know whats going to happen" so I'm guessing she still has feelings for me but she just needs space to be happy on her own and focus on her new job for a while. Also I know she's not one to go out partying because she has anxiety but I'm just worried if I give her too much time she may find someone else What do you guys think?
big bear Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I have had no contact for a month now and I've written a nice letter explaining where I know I went wrong and how I'm seeing a psychologist to help me fix the issues she broke with me. Im sending the letter to her work with flowers because I know that the people she is working with all know the situation and I'm sure they will convince her that it is a kind gesture for me to do that. Plus she melts for flowers and surprises like that. It's a fairly standard letter like most I've seen on here but I also added this poem on a postcard. I know she needs space and I have a good feeling that we could possibly get back together because when the split up happened she never once said "She hates me" or "I dont love you anymore" or anything along those lines she just said "She wasn't happy" and listed my faults which I am working on with her psychologist. I told her I will give her space and call her in a few months time and she never said Yes or she never said No it was always "I don't know whats going to happen" so I'm guessing she still has feelings for me but she just needs space to be happy on her own and focus on her new job for a while. Also I know she's not one to go out partying because she has anxiety but I'm just worried if I give her too much time she may find someone else What do you guys think? If you know she needs space, give it to her. Don't do all this. And eff the co-workers. They are not a party in this. Involving people makes the mess even dirtier. I was always worried about the time and her finding someone else thing. But the fact is life is happens and it's irrespective of time. We have no control over it.
moneyneversleeps Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Well here it is. Her co-workers are their to support her and not you. If she isn't happy, they will surely convince her that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.. Seriously, eff the co-workers and their opinions. The loyalty does not lie with you.
na49 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 If she needs space. Give her space. Even if she does find someone else, they might not be what she thought they'd be and she'll see your value. Or she'll like them better and she'll move on. In which case, you should try to do the same.
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