Aicha Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 my bf makes fun of my accent. i grew up in a rough part of london so my accent is very street. he is on the other hand high class. sometimes he copies the way i talk as a joke to tease me. i laugh it off but i feel very self conscious now. is it normal for guys to do this? should i just have a sense of humour? feel abit embarrassed when I talk now.
Author Aicha Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 i dont know what to think about it, he does mock my accent, not sure if he is just trying to have a sense of humour.
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 i dont know what to think about it, he does mock my accent, not sure if he is just trying to have a sense of humour. This is not the way to behave as a 34 year-old. I live in London, I'm aware of the differences in terms of accents, upbringing, etc. Decent people don't make another feel bad about their background. Mocking you is not on. He is an idiot. 2
TigerCub Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 He has an immature sense of humor, but I doubt that he's doing it to hurt you. Have you told him that what he's doing is making you feel bad? I'm guessing when you laugh it off you're sending him the message that it is ok, and so it just encourages him to do it more to get a laugh out of you. Just tell him how much it bothers you. If he continues - then tell him off and drop him. 1
MidwestUSA Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 This is the guy you're trying to get to marry you and for whom you are looking to do "something special"? If you're at a point of wanting to marry him (bad idea, BTW) you should surely be able to determine if he's truly malicious or just thinks he is being funny. Are you afraid to speak up and defend yourself? 1
Author Aicha Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 yes he has a wide sense of humour. but this joke kind of annoyed me.. dont want to seem like i cnt take a joke. but if he carries on i'll tell him to stop! i did tell him to 'stop making fun of me' he just said he isnt
Maleficent Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 OP, I'm sure he thinks it's very cute and funny when he makes fun of your accent. I'm also pretty sure that if you tell him you don't like it and ask him to stop, he will. If he doesn't then I'll say he's an idiot... Edit: my ex had this little thing where he talked to me like I was 12. When I told him about it, he said he would stop but that if he ever said something that made me feel like he was doing it again, to just tell him. A relationship is all about communication. 2
Eclypse Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 The question is: is it malicious? Me and my gf make fun of each others in a playful way. Her with my Australian and me with her Canadian (and let's be honest, that's a little too easy!). If it bothers you tell him to knock it off.
MidwestUSA Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 yes he has a wide sense of humour. but this joke kind of annoyed me.. dont want to seem like i cnt take a joke. but if he carries on i'll tell him to stop! i did tell him to 'stop making fun of me' he just said he isnt Relationships require respect. Even if he's joking, and it bothers you, he needs to stop. Send him to us, WE'LL set him straight! Right up the side of his head!
Author Aicha Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 i felt he was being playful so i didnt want to seem boring and miserable. but i have become aware now of my accent when i never was before.
Maleficent Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 i felt he was being playful so i didnt want to seem boring and miserable. but i have become aware now of my accent when i never was before. So just tell him you don't like it when he makes fun of your accent. If he says, Oh I'm just teasing you cause I love you, tell him again that you don't like it and would like him to stop. If he cares about you he will. 1
Treasa Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Nothing about him is high class if he's mocking you. Since you already told him you don't like it, the next time he does it, get up in his face and calmly but pointedly tell him, "I've told you that I don't like that joke. Lay off, or find someone else to date." I'm tired of women having to act "cool" and not having any boundaries. Better to have boundaries and show that you're strong rather than "cool." 5
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I'm tired of women having to act "cool" and not having any boundaries. Better to have boundaries and show that you're strong rather than "cool." Same, this is why I get impatient with threads like this sometimes. Just tell him where to get off already 3
Tartarus Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Yes, but I think she should tell him in a nice way, without making an argument about it, because maybe he is just trying to impress her with his humour or something. He could be a dick or he also could be just insecure in the relationship, so feels that he constantly needs to make her laugh or entertain her. It's hard to tell where on the spectrum from teasing to banter to abusive this lies from the little information we have. 1
Maleficent Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Same, this is why I get impatient with threads like this sometimes. Just tell him where to get off already Gee maybe that's why we all fall in the same category as Pheonix... lol 1
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Gee maybe that's why we all fall in the same category as Pheonix... lol sorry I don't get the reference, I don't know who Phoenix is 1
Tartarus Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Maybe he is ecstatic at having found a beautiful young 24 year old lady, 10 years his junior, and feels that he always has to be "on" to keep her excited and laughing, so he doesn't appear old or boring. Also could be that he is a posh git, who is trying to somehow manipulate her into losing her accent, but I would say its more likely to be the first on the balance of probability.
Treasa Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 i did tell him to 'stop making fun of me' he just said he isnt She did tell him. He isn't "listening." She needs to make sure he "gets it." It's funny, but once I stopped trying to be "cool" around people, I never had to repeat myself a second time when it came to what I would and wouldn't tolerate. I have an awesome sense of humor, but when it comes to some things, it's best not to poke a tiger. 2
Treasa Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Yes, but I think she should tell him in a nice way, without making an argument about it, because maybe he is just trying to impress her with his humour or something. He could be a dick or he also could be just insecure in the relationship, so feels that he constantly needs to make her laugh or entertain her. It's hard to tell where on the spectrum from teasing to banter to abusive this lies from the little information we have. Saying, "Lay off it, already," while giving him a look IS nice. It's also to the point and concise, and if he's paying attention, it's very easily rectified. 1
Chief Wiggum Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Bloody hell. He is an idiot Lol, that cracked me up. Anyway, I doubt he's doing this with the intention of upsetting you. It's probably just a piss-poor attempt at teasing/playing with you. Some guys are like that. They have an abysmal talent for joking around with girls/partners, and end up creating a very off-putting vibe. I mean, taking the mick out of accents? How old is he, 12? It's ok to do it as a one-off, but to continuously repeat the gag proves he has a pretty crap, one-dimensional sense of humour. Especially if he fails to notice his jokes aren't having the desired effect. Because that's one thing I always keep an eye out for - the girl's reaction to my type of humour. You can easily tell when they do and don't find you funny. 1
Ami1uwant Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 yes he has a wide sense of humour. but this joke kind of annoyed me.. dont want to seem like i cnt take a joke. but if he carries on i'll tell him to stop! i did tell him to 'stop making fun of me' he just said he isnt If its very different than what he is used to then his micking your accent isnt likely meant as a negative. Have you talked to him about this? You need to communicate these things.
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