ekyd Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Ok so basically I’m gay and have had mental health problems in the past so therefore am on fluoxetine. My first relationship ended in January after 19 months. I was still very much in love with her but she said she didn’t love me as much as she used to and was confused about her sexuality. I went into complete emotional breakdown for two weeks understandably. We’re still ‘best friends’ and although I’m definitely not over her, having her in my life is what I need as I don’t have many other friends. However, since January I’ve been getting insane anxiety and general unease. My ex has proceeded to fancy 5 different guys within the 4 months we’ve been apart and every time I find out I spend hours crying with an upset stomach and develop severe anger towards her. When she doesn’t text me I get completely agitated, feeling like I’m nothing to anybody and I sit about worrying about what she might be doing. I know if I were to leave her behind (which is impossible anyway because we’re in the same friendship group) that the feeling would only be ten times worse. I just really need to know how to deal with this constant worrying and feeling insecure. My ex has the perfect figure etc. and I’ve struggled with body confidence my whole life, suffering from anorexia at the age or 13. I feel jealous that she can attract people while I’m left so lonely. I feel like I’m going to be worthless my whole life and never find the confidence to get another partner again. I know this all sounds very typical teenage or whatever but it’s just been constant for 4 months feeling sick whenever I don’t know what she’s doing or thinking about my future and it’s just holding me back.. Please can somebody give me some advice?
FailedFirstLove Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I felt the exact same... I still get it but not as often. Not hearing from Them sends me on a worrying fit, wondering what there doing and thinkin of every possible situation. I used to be so bad that I could not control myself. I would walk around like a crazy person crying my eyes out! hve you tried talking to someone? Just telling them everything that worries you. Getting it off your chest can really help. I found it helped but I had to talk to them for hours to gain myself back. Take deep breaths and try to think of positive thoughts. Whatever your thoughts are they could be wrong. Eg. You think she's with someone else. She could just be on the computer playing games? But if you can't do that then try to get yourself to accept that whatever you think is bad isn't that bad. eg. If you don't like her hanging wit others. Try to think of it as she's just trying to get her worries out and it's not as bad as her being alone upset. Sometimes I'm so anxious that I have to go take a vitamin stress pill and then I'm a little more calm. When your anxious about how she won't call. Try to think that she could tomorrow to keep yourself sane. And by tomorrow u may not be as bad anymore. It's really hard and almost impossible to control. your not alone but try your best to overcome it.
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