BluEyeL Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Text is too long and it doesn't induce attraction. He just wants you casually. Trust an old woman If you want to induce attraction (waste of time anyway, but just for kicks) send men a twister message. That is one in which you reject him and you flirt at the same time. Something like "you are such a good looking guy, too bad I'm not attracted to you". Works every time. But just for fun, temporarily.
salparadise Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I am absolutely amazed at how much motive can be attributed to a couple of texts. My default would be to assume virtually nothing. The fact that I don't see it must mean that there's something terribly wrong with my perceptual abilities. 2
Author Sweeetie Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 We single women just want a little love and attention from a man who we find interesting, hence even the slightest communication from him which indicates interest is something we spend time analysing. Oh well in this case it has become clear as day that this guy is not interested in anything other than my body, so I give up the case. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 It's always possible he's dating around a bit. Perhaps someone else was able to make it to his get-together and held his attention for a bit. Who knows? If you're looking for something more serious, I'd move on from this guy.
KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Yes, everyone's right. If he was truly interested in YOU, he'd be reaching out to you and just being a bit more interested in you and your life, and asking about you. Not just asking you to hang at his apartment, or to go clubbing. For example, I just met a guy in a bar this past Wednesday. We hit it off, had a great time dancing, talking, quick peck on the lips at the end, and I left. An hour later I got a text from him asking me out. So we made plans for next week. He's texted me every day since Wednesday. Asking about my day, about my job, etc etc. 2
Author Sweeetie Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Please don't. If a guy wants you, he will contact you. That's how they work. Don't chase him. It's not attractive. Wait until you hear back from him. This guy is smooth. He's confident. He doesn't need any urging from you. He didn't reply to the flirty text reply I sent to him today, which is quite degrading to be frank. It made me feel like an idiot. I don't want him to contact me anymore. Hell I had even deleted his number before getting the spontaneous text from him today (I knew it was him due to the text history on my phone). Wish there was a way to block his number for good.
Author Sweeetie Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Yes, everyone's right. If he was truly interested in YOU, he'd be reaching out to you and just being a bit more interested in you and your life, and asking about you. Not just asking you to hang at his apartment, or to go clubbing. For example, I just met a guy in a bar this past Wednesday. We hit it off, had a great time dancing, talking, quick peck on the lips at the end, and I left. An hour later I got a text from him asking me out. So we made plans for next week. He's texted me every day since Wednesday. Asking about my day, about my job, etc etc. I'm happy for you That never happens to me. I just don't think I'm that attractive to be frank
It's Just Me Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Agree with Tara and a bunch of others. A man who is actually interested in getting to know you: A) doesn't invite you to do something via text message (he calls, instead) and B) certainly doesn't do it at the last minute, almost like an afterthought. That's just rude, and implies that you are at his beck and call. Whenever you fall for this type of invite, you are perceived as needy and not worthy of respect - unless you know this person really, really well. I mean, I've been spontaneous with my BF and girlfriends every now and then. A stranger? Nope. Last-minute text? Here's your answer. "Sorry, I'm busy. Let's plan ahead next time! Have a great evening." 3
Author Sweeetie Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Agree with Tara and a bunch of others. A man who is actually interested in getting to know you: A) doesn't invite you to do something via text message (he calls, instead) and B) certainly doesn't do it at the last minute, almost like an afterthought. That's just rude, and implies that you are at his beck and call. Whenever you fall for this type of invite, you are perceived as needy and not worthy of respect - unless you know this person really, really well. I mean, I've been spontaneous with my BF and girlfriends every now and then. A stranger? Nope. Last-minute text? Here's your answer. "Sorry, I'm busy. Let's plan ahead next time! Have a great evening." Perfect post. I wish I'd replied to him after reading this. He has been literally last-minute both the times he invited me to something. Boy do I regret sending that flirty message to him today, what was I thinking. I hope he gives me another text just so I can throw it back in his face. 1
It's Just Me Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Perfect post. I wish I'd replied to him after reading this. He has been literally last-minute both the times he invited me to something. Boy do I regret sending that flirty message to him today, what was I thinking. I hope he gives me another text just so I can throw it back in his face. Don't beat yourself up. And please don't waste any energy throwing it back in his face. Not worth it. Just make that statement, and you'll likely never hear from him again, anyway. A great way to get rid of a douchebag is to hold him to a higher standard. He'll never be able to meet it. 3
clia Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I wanted to reply in a way that might induce his attraction a bit more, so I sent him a flirty text: "Ah still have me on your mind eh? You got me at the wrong time again...I'm down with the flu! Had to cancel a weekend trip to Poland for that too :,(. Have a great time, lets see if it's 3rd time lucky. :)" If he doesn't reply, to hell with it! Ugh. Like BluEyeL said, too long! Also, too much information. He asked you out at basically the last minute (you didn't say when the invite was for -- I'm assuming tonight or tomorrow night) to go clubbing with him and his friends. Who cares why you can't go -- you just can't go. You are otherwise occupied. You already have plans. You don't do last minute dates. You are busy, busy, busy with lots of other men! You don't tell him how you are sick, and how you had to cancel a trip, and blah, blah, blah. That's too much information. Who cares? You maintain your mystery and politely decline. For example: "Sorry, I already have plans -- maybe another time?" You've left the door open, but you've shown him you aren't a doormat. And he's left wondering -- what are your plans? What are you doing tonight? This gets his mind going -- is she out with another guy? Out with a bunch of her hot girlfriends dressed sexy and dancing at the club? Are other men hitting on her? What is that girl so busy doing that she declined to see me? Isn't that what you want him thinking? Instead, he knows you are sitting home on the couch in flannel pajamas with a box of Kleenex shivering with a fever and feeling miserable. () He doesn't have to worry that another man is impressing the heck out of you. And he's out at the club picking up chicks. Short and sweet next time, Sweeetie!!! 3
Author Sweeetie Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) Ugh. Like BluEyeL said, too long! Also, too much information. He asked you out at basically the last minute (you didn't say when the invite was for -- I'm assuming tonight or tomorrow night) to go clubbing with him and his friends. Who cares why you can't go -- you just can't go. You are otherwise occupied. You already have plans. You don't do last minute dates. You are busy, busy, busy with lots of other men! You don't tell him how you are sick, and how you had to cancel a trip, and blah, blah, blah. That's too much information. Who cares? You maintain your mystery and politely decline. For example: "Sorry, I already have plans -- maybe another time?" You've left the door open, but you've shown him you aren't a doormat. And he's left wondering -- what are your plans? What are you doing tonight? This gets his mind going -- is she out with another guy? Out with a bunch of her hot girlfriends dressed sexy and dancing at the club? Are other men hitting on her? What is that girl so busy doing that she declined to see me? Isn't that what you want him thinking? Instead, he knows you are sitting home on the couch in flannel pajamas with a box of Kleenex shivering with a fever and feeling miserable. () He doesn't have to worry that another man is impressing the heck out of you. And he's out at the club picking up chicks. Short and sweet next time, Sweeetie!!! I love your post, it has trained me for life. The reason I felt the need to explain to him why I couldn't go was because that was the second time I had to decline an invite from him, hence I wanted to clarify that I was interested but I genuinely couldn't make it again. But given how last-minute it was I really shouldn't have. He asked me to go clubbing the same morning of the day that he was going. Edited June 1, 2013 by Sweeetie
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