Ryanic Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 (edited) Alright im never much for these online dating forums... but ive exhausted everyone i can talk to in my life as theyre all sick of hearing about it... but anyways heres my breakup story... Me and my exgirlfriend started dating half way through our senior year of high school. She was my first relationship and i was her first real relationship. Everything was amazing for the first year of our relationship together. We both lost our virginities together over that first summer. Before we even started liking each other we both applied and got accepted into the same college so after the first 8 months of being together we both went to college at the same university. We both struggled finding friends but adventually we both found a mutual friend group that we both shared. At about a year and 2-3 months our relationship started to get a little bumpy.. we had pointless fights etc... we had a few bad fights but we both realized our mistakes and moved on. I feel at around this time her parents just first started to not care for me much (before the year and 2-3 month period they liked me a lot).. anyways we finished out our first year of college together and went into our second summer together. More fights started happening..little fights but they were frequent. (She never wanted.to talk about them and i always pushed.to talk because i felt like we never accomplished anything if we didnt talk but pushing only made her more angry). Over that second summer we made some great memories though. Her parents started to dislike me more and more. Towards the end of that second summer she wanted to break up with me but she decided against it after i promissed to change some (I was always very negative about everything and wanted to hang out with her 24/7 and such) Anyways we started out second year of college together... I lived in a on campus apartment with two of our mutual guy friends and she lived two apartment doors down the hall with three random girls. the first semester went well for us relationship wise... we still had stupid fights frequently and i pushed to talk and it made her more angry. Her parents really didnt like me at this point. Winter break came and we hung out quite a bit... i was kind of content with my relationship with her but i still really really loved her deep down i just didnt go out of my way to prove it as much anymore. We both got lazy with the relationship. So around mid march (By this time we have been dating for two years and two months) Things got rough... Same bunch of stupid small fights etc.. but in very early april we had an extremely dumb fight (Me scaring her to the point where she cried (i didnt intend for that to happen i was just trying to be funny) and that scare turned into a talk about me not giving her enough gas money when i used her car to drive 200 miles to take a drug test for a job..anyways it turned into a mega fight..) (Also i got very stingy with my money in second year college and that caused a few fights) But anyways she basically told me she needed time alone for that night and for the next few days... that weekend she went home and she talked to her mom (who disliked me a lot at this point, shes told my ex a few times before all this that i wasnt good for her and she should be out seeing new people) but anyways i was super sick to my stomach the three days she didnt talk to me and when she came back late saturday night she broke up with me. she said she was just content with me amd cared about me but didnt really love me anymore that much... she said she was sorry and would do what ever i needed to make this easier on me. I was heart broken because even though i was content. also i still really loved her. But im going tobasically summarize all the **** i did wrong after the breakup. I did the whole plead and bug her to come back, the write her a note and to tell her id changed etc... i did this all within.the first week it was bad i know... but also within the first week she started to miss cuding with me but i ****ed up.by ignoring her texts etc so she finally got pissed at me and told me she was over that feeling... later that night though i went over to her room and helped her study for an exam and when i left i hugged her and kissed her forehead... so the weekend after she broke up with me we both went home (not together but we both went home to our parents houses) When we got back she gave me back all the diamond jewelry ive bought her over our. relationship... i was devistated and thought id lose her forever so i talked with her then and basically said id change/i want to start a new relationship with you and not rekindle the old one.. i pleaded again etx.. she said ahe just cant amd that shes sorry but we were too different for each other (i agree my negativity brought her down a lot and she wasnt as happy as when we first started dating etc). I asked her if she saw a change in me if shed give me a second chance and she said idk. I also called her our on the her missing me that one night and she rrsponded back with i only miss the physical and i cam get that from any other guy. i then gave her the next week alone (an important thing to note is we shared a class together amd we ate lunch together m w f and on tu thur we ate with our mutual group of friends) during these first two weeks we still ate together and such... On the third weekend after the breakup i found out she want to go out amd drink to forget about me amd some drama that rose from the breakup (she was the anti christ when it came to drinking while i dated her btw) her mom and her very peer prrssurey roomate wanted her to drink amd have "fun". it was only like the third time she ever drank amd she threw up everywhere at a bowling alley they went to....i found out about it on my birthday (that sunday) and on monday i talked to her about it but didnt discurage it... We just talked calmy about her experience and my first drinking times. But anyways i left her alone again for the week minus seeing her in class and making casual convo on our walk to class... The fourth weekend after we broke up i started to notice she started hanging out with her bad infulence roommate at her roommates bfs apartment a lot... amd basically i found out on the following monday she was over at her roommates bfs apartment with her roommates bfs roommate alone... i found out that my exs roommate wanted and hoped she would have slept with the kid/did things with him... she didnt that night but basically.. i was devostated finding this out... more drama happened she stopped eating lunch with me and our mutual friends which she didnt consider friends anymore for reasons... she basically befriended her roommates. and her her roommates bfs roommates. they all drank and stuff and are bad influences. so for like week 5-6 i noticed she was always gone from her room and she was always over at that kids apartment (i believe she slept.over there a few nights idk though) she started texting a lot in class and i saw her and the guy and her her roomates etc all hanging out/walking around campus. She was wearing the kids hat etc. (she obviously started to like him...but hes like a major downgrade frome me and is a little **** (he apparently came to my apartment while i was at work to try amd start **** with me)) but anyways i was so emotionally screwed up from all this information that it was really hard for me to follow the no contact rule.. amd i sometimes spoke with her after our class but i didnt text her anymore...she got so fed.up with me that her dad told me to leave her the **** alone over a text.. but before that happened i told her i wanted to talk with her about what has happened the last month she blew me off etc.. but anyways school ended and she never made eye contact with me when she saw me in the halls/in our apartment hallway. If i waved at her she wouldnt wave back etc. but now schools been out for a week and a half and she removed me from her friends list today.. Edited May 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Ryanic Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 (edited) I assume she is still talking with the kid as he liked her profile picture change on fb... she is still texting her bad influence ex roommate now too... idk i still love her to death... i feel like she was the one i know its cliche but i still love her a lot. she was definitely out of my league and i guess im scared i wont find another girl as gorgeous as her. its been almost two months now. i have not texted her in three weeks and the last verbal contact i had was saying goodbye and hope you have a nice summer on move.out day. I have a feeling she did stuff with that kid already... amd that she likes him...... she wants to move on and forget about me and i dont think she even wants to give me a second chance. i want a second chance.still but im still iffy because if she did do stuff with that kid ill see her as tainted... idk... i love her and i still think about her all the time but it is subsiding. i was thinking about sending her a hows it going text next week but idk.... i feel like there is so much hatred towards me now that she will just.blow me off or tell me to leave her alone. i dont want her to be the one that got away from me. Do you think she removed.me from fb because shes completely done/over me or do you think.its cus she was sick of seeing my posts... after college got out i really didnt go on fb much amd only posted some pictures of my new used car i bought... but yesterday i posted a few more photos of my car and a picture of a northern i caught and like five hours later she removed be as a friend from fb... She removed my mom also but kept two of my brothers... idk i want to try and get her back but part of me doesnt... but the part that does is still very strong. she has made 0 attempts at talking to me besides the first week after the breakup. and everytime i tried to talk to her within the later half of the breakup she blew me off... i know this new "guy" was a rebound but idk.... i still love her a lot... i just wish shed at least let me talk to her on a casual every once and awhile thing to try and swoop in under the radar but... sigh one last thing... while we were datin her younger brother.got me a job where he works as a food runner/busser... at the same place her mom works in the HR department and my ex works in the HR department some days to help file paper work... ill be seeing her brother pretty often as he is going to be kind of my superior in a way at the job amd i may see my exs moms and even my ex at the work place.. maybe... jist.thought id throw that in there too. i know ur going to say move on and i know i should but im not going to be fully able to until i try to get her back...i cant just let her slip away i was always so.happy in the relationship evem.when we faught.i.was.never put off by pur fights.... I went to counseling while i was in college during the breakup amd ive learned a lot about myself in the process... i have changed quite a bit since the breakup for the better too. and also sorry my spelling is horrible i sent this all from my phone and it took like an hour to write. i was unable to go back and get all my spelling errors so im sorry about that. Edited May 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs, please use them
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