MeToo Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 The response to this scenario should be “real” interesting from the guys. What would you say or do when you discover your gf has been seeing and “being with” another guy behind your back for the last five (5) years. A few facts to consider……… (1). She never told you about him. (2). She goes shopping “every” Saturday but fails to buy anything of worth (perfume, personal fragrance sets). (3). Spend the weekend at her moms once a month (who lives forty (40) miles away). (4). Tells you she loves you. (5). She has asked you to go to “menial” affairs but never an affair, in which you would meet any of her friends. Tell me guys or girls. What would you do or say?
SoleMate Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Realize that I had been used, and pack up and move away. Resolve to be more suspicious next time. (I mean, c'mon, 5 years and you never met a single friend of hers????)
Jilly10340 Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Well, I would be devastated of course, but... I would dump him so fast it would make his head spin followed by a swift kick in the a$$. I think that would about cover it!
krbshappy71 Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Sorry, MeToo, I don't allow cheating or behavior that makes me feel like even if I am not being cheated on I'm being mistreated/disrespected. I'd be outta there. Very sorry for your situation, you are probably wondering if you could have known and honestly, no, not necessarily. Cheaters can be VERY sneaky
misha&makulu Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 What would you say or do when you discover your gf has been seeing and “being with” another guy behind your back for the last five (5) years. Answer: "I would only allow you to do that to me once." ..... and "Bye."
Author MeToo Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 To SoleMate, Jilly10340, Krbshappy71, and misha&makulu There seems to a “unanimous” answer of “[color=blue]Kicking him/her to the curve[/color]”. My sentiments exactly but………… I am not this poor soul (To get an idea of what I have, see the post on August24th in Long-Distance Relationship/The Distance Saddens Me…..). He is a very good friend of mine who confides in me on matters such as this. I did get his OK to post this new thread. I have tried to encourage him to join this forum but his answer was right out of the movie “Back To The Future Part 1, “I don’t think I could handle that kind of rejection”. Now, for a little more background……….. This other guy was in her life “before” my friend met her, as her “part-time” lover. This part-time lover is a married man who is having troubles in his own marriage. My friend tells me he sometimes calls her job (she has her own phone line) and her voice mail kicks in during the hours of [color=blue]11:00AM and 1:00PM[/color]. Her lunchtime is at [color=red]12:00PM to 1:00PM[/color]. The above are just “the tip of the iceberg” so to speak. The thing that makes this “situation” (and I do mean situation) hard for him to see is He Thinks With His Heart and not with his head. He says he love her. I can see she will “kick him to the curve” when “another” guy comes along. My responses are from a “friendship” point of view. Maybe you guys or girls can tell him something from an “outsider’s point of view. Lets call him “Tricked”. Incidentally, I will be emailing your responses to him as I get them.
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Damn....this must be really hurting you big time. I'm sorry that you have to be going through this pain (but I'm not the other guy, promise ) What a disgusting lying cheating no-good bitch. I recommend boots with steel toes.
Author MeToo Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 You remind me of a bumper sticker on the back of a truck I saw recently that read, "Trust No Bitch!" Although your response sounds crude, it does reflect the ending course of action ([color=red]but without the "steel toes"[/color]). I'll email this one right away.
Barby Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I'm sorry that your friend is going through this, yes it DOES sound like she is nothing but "keeping him around" ((5)) Five years and hasn't met her friends??! I must say that alone speaks volumes about her. Obviously he isn't "her companion" or else she would include him in important events in her life, would want to include him in events with her family and friends. I wonder what is so special about this woman that he plays second fiddle to her "MM" that she was with before him and clearly afterwards...why doesn't she take him along when she spends weekends at her "mom's" house...ha! If I was him there is NOOOOOOOOOO way I would put up with someone like that! Maybe you two should get together, you know they say best friends make great lovers (companions)
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