StephanieLynn1982 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 We've been separated since last April, but officially divorced since October. Is it normal for me to think about my ex-husband every day? Wondering where he is, what he's doing, etc? In short...3 years of marriage...we never cheated on each other, he wanted to separate, I filed for divorce. No children. I was kind of mean to him the last time I saw him over 60 days ago...but I was being protective and was still harboring resentment towards him. My ex was a great guy...sometimes I feel like reaching out to him...and I think he would be open to talking with me.... But back to my main question....is it normal to think about him every day when I wake up? Is this normal in the first year after divorce?
BustedUpInside Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 It is definitely normal. However, it is probably not going to be healthy in the long run. I would advise that you try to train your mind so that when thoughts of your ex start to pop up, you can quickly shift to something else to think about. Let me say again, it is completely normal for you to be thinking about your ex, but if you want to eventually get over him, you will need to start thinking more about yourself and what you want to do with your future. 3
robfos Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Waiting for the day when I am able to not think about her for a few hours...
WreckedDan Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I would give almost anything to be able to have 1 hour go by without my insides flipping over. I'm only two months past the day she left me, I sure hope a year after I will be able to wake up with something else on my mind... Hoping for us all, Dan
hayewils Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 It is painful, i have been two months in since my wife left. She stays on my mind and it feels like a wave running thru my head every morning when i open my eyes. I also will be happy when i can wake up with other things on my mind. So you are not alone.
ReelAhdvice Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 We've been separated since last April, but officially divorced since October. Is it normal for me to think about my ex-husband every day? Wondering where he is, what he's doing, etc? In short...3 years of marriage...we never cheated on each other, he wanted to separate, I filed for divorce. No children. I was kind of mean to him the last time I saw him over 60 days ago...but I was being protective and was still harboring resentment towards him. My ex was a great guy...sometimes I feel like reaching out to him...and I think he would be open to talking with me.... But back to my main question....is it normal to think about him every day when I wake up? Is this normal in the first year after divorce? Why did you guys divorce? What led up to the divorce?
Lost in NYC Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Hi. I asked people the same question all the time. It all started for me in October and my divorce papers have been filed. I think about her constantly. In the beginining it was as soon as my eyes popped open. It is frequently now but less. The days I have to see her when I go to court are huge setbacks for me, they set my mind running into cycles of hopefulness that I can somehow win her back or what if I had done things differently. I know over time we will think about them less and with good healthy distractions we will overcome all this pain, or otherwise I am in hell and just dont know it. Sometimes it is almost like a screaming in my mind where I picture her face and name, at that time I do have to directly take control over my thoughts and move them consciously away from her. I miss her every second of every minute, just think about it less sometimes.
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