Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Jenifer sounds like a funny and interesting enough women? I mean, you can't tell that much about a person based on their looks and demeanour in interviews can you? She doesn't do anything
Leigh 87 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Leaving you for someone else or them finding someone else early on sucks enough, but the women being very good looking just makes it a little more annoying to me, that's all. I find Jen to have good comedic timing lol she comes across as able to bring out laughter in people through just being herself and the way she walks about things. How do you know she is boring I still don't understand? I still felt so bad for her during that break up!
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 How do you know she is boring I still don't understand? I do feel slightly bad for analysing someone I only know publicly but this is what I make my assumptions on: - You never associate Aniston with anything that's not comedy/red carpet/expensive dresses related - As an actor picking your roles says a lot about you especially if you have a lot of money. She is unadventurous - Jolie flies planes, rides motorbikes, raises 6 kids, goodwill ambassador for the UN, flies around the world to get involved in causes she believes in - even when she is ridiculed - Aniston holidays in New Mexico... though with all fairness she donates money If the above isn't just PR and a true reflection, I know which one I would date
Leigh 87 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Your right. Angelina does all those amazing things. If I were stinking rich and could do whatever I wanted, I too would do much of the things Angelina does! Wow she really is more interesting than Jen! Jen holidays in New Mexico? As in the US state? She must just hav family, friends or her partners family and friends there? She is epically boring if she ..... holidays in New Mexico with no familial reason. Rather than you know.. EXCITING places that are exotic and far away?>@! To her credit, I have seen her photographed in Mexico a few times? Seriously though, if I had her pay check I would travel all over the world and try way more crazy things than she does. Jen is just downright boring.
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 To her credit, I have seen her photographed in Mexico a few times? Seriously though, if I had her pay check I would travel all over the world and try way more crazy things than she does. Jen is just downright boring. I'm sure she goes to the caribbean or whatever but you get my point Didn't take long to convince you 1
Author J_L_C Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 How did this get turned into a post about Angelina Jolie?! Lol. I just wanted to know if you'd rather know if your ex is seeing someone or not. 1
CelticGibson Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 The only things that should concern you is that it's over and it doesn't matter what they do or who with. It's over and you should move on. Whether you know the real reason or not is not going to change the outcome.
Author J_L_C Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 As I said earlier, part of me is just so curious. Someone else on here mentioned that it would help them to move on if they knew the ex was with someone because it instantly kills any false hope. On the other hand, that knowledge would create a whole new set of worries. Imagining him with her, constantly wondering if they will ever break up or not, will he ever, EVER think of me again?! Otherwise I sit here wondering and hoping he's free because maybe, just MAYBE he'll reach out? Even just to say hi. But if he's with someone else then it just won't happen. So here I am...in the dark.
tinker683 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I honestly wish I didn't know. Knowing that she's already with some guy very shortly after our breakup is really hard for me and something I wish I could just unknow.
GB25 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 you're train of thought is so detrimental to you're healing
iris219 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I don't care either way. It makes no difference to me. This is how you know you are completely over someone. I can imagine my ex having orgies with models and it doesn't bother me. Actually, I'd be happy for him.
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 you're train of thought is so detrimental to you're healing Agreed, and I'll tell you why. My ex was one year younger than me. (45) She was, WITHOUT A DOUBT, the most beautiful creature I have EVER seen in my entire life!! BUT, she was toxic as HELL for me. I allowed my lust for her to wrongfully guide me for EIGHT YEARS! Other men I know find her "do-able", or just "old". but that's about it (shallow, I know- but I wasn't much different, was I?) The difference was that I knew her (seldom) loving side, I REALLY loved her, thinking we would grow old together, and that was it for me. So what I did was to become the most in-shape, jacked IDIOT she EVER met! We went on a cruise, I won "best in show" simply because I worked out SO hard because I adored her SO MUCH! I didn't want to lose her. I did anyway. Where did it get me? RIGHT HERE ON LS! There are some things even intelligent people cannot change. So now? I'm two years out of shape. Wow, wonder what my "replacement" looks like?? Get it? @iris, I wish I were in your shoes. 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 As I said earlier, part of me is just so curious. Someone else on here mentioned that it would help them to move on if they knew the ex was with someone because it instantly kills any false hope. On the other hand, that knowledge would create a whole new set of worries. Imagining him with her, constantly wondering if they will ever break up or not, will he ever, EVER think of me again?! Otherwise I sit here wondering and hoping he's free because maybe, just MAYBE he'll reach out? Even just to say hi. But if he's with someone else then it just won't happen. So here I am...in the dark. Ok, I am not trying to hurt your feelings, but you have to get a few things straight so that it won't hurt your feelings in the future. Regardless if your ex has a new partner or doesn't, he is not coming back to you. Ever. Your relationship is completely over and he has moved on. Maybe he hasn't moved on to another person yet, but his head and heart have already left. There is nothing for you there anymore. He is not going to reach out. I know that my words seem mean and you are probably asking yourself why I would write about your ex as if I knew him. I don't know him specifically, but I am familiar with break ups (more so since coming on here) and it is pretty obvious that if he wanted to make contact, he would have. You have given him opportunities to change his mind and get back into your life but he hasn't pursued any of them. I think you may be using the excuse of him dating someone as a way to hold on. Like, if he doesn't have a new girlfriend, then there is still a chance. There is no chance. It is completely done. A new relationship doesn't do anything to the equation.
Zahara Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 As I said earlier, part of me is just so curious. Someone else on here mentioned that it would help them to move on if they knew the ex was with someone because it instantly kills any false hope. On the other hand, that knowledge would create a whole new set of worries. Imagining him with her, constantly wondering if they will ever break up or not, will he ever, EVER think of me again?! Otherwise I sit here wondering and hoping he's free because maybe, just MAYBE he'll reach out? Even just to say hi. But if he's with someone else then it just won't happen. So here I am...in the dark. Even if he said hi, it wouldn't be out of love or loss for you. A man that treats you so horribly, doesn't view you with loving or respectful eyes. And he may come back but it would be for self serving reasons. In any case, I hope he does because you getting involved with him again is possibly the only way you will learn to finally respect yourself because post after post from you is solely focused on him validating your value. The thing is, even if you entertained him, all you're showing him is that he can spit and stomp on you and you'll be there ever willing to be a doormat, and that's appealing to someone like him. Because he can take advantage of you and get what he wants. The man cheated on you. So, accept that he could be with someone else, is with someone else, may be interested in someone else, would like to have sex with someone else, is having sex with someone else, etc. Also accept, that he is not coming back and if he did, it would be for all the wrong reasons. Either way, I am sure the bigger picture in your head is the realization that you deserve better, or maybe you just don't have the capacity to love yourself to grasp that concept.
Author J_L_C Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 Ok, I am not trying to hurt your feelings, but you have to get a few things straight so that it won't hurt your feelings in the future. Regardless if your ex has a new partner or doesn't, he is not coming back to you. Ever. Your relationship is completely over and he has moved on. Maybe he hasn't moved on to another person yet, but his head and heart have already left. There is nothing for you there anymore. He is not going to reach out. I know that my words seem mean and you are probably asking yourself why I would write about your ex as if I knew him. I don't know him specifically, but I am familiar with break ups (more so since coming on here) and it is pretty obvious that if he wanted to make contact, he would have. You have given him opportunities to change his mind and get back into your life but he hasn't pursued any of them. I think you may be using the excuse of him dating someone as a way to hold on. Like, if he doesn't have a new girlfriend, then there is still a chance. There is no chance. It is completely done. A new relationship doesn't do anything to the equation. I hear what you're saying, but in all reality nobody knows what the future holds. He COULD come back, 3 months, 3 years or 3 decades from now. Do I think it's likely? No. But do we know for sure? Nobody does.
Zahara Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I hear what you're saying, but in all reality nobody knows what the future holds. He COULD come back, 3 months, 3 years or 3 decades from now. Do I think it's likely? No. But do we know for sure? Nobody does. The most important thing to think about is YOUR future, not a future as to when he willl/if/could/may be back. 3 months from now, you may meet a wonderful man. 3 years from now you may be married and pregnant. Yes, nobody knows, a point that you need to grasp because instead of focusing on what could possibly be his next steps or what is possibly happening in his life, the focus on what you plan for yourself going forward, needs to be your priority. 3
BC1980 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Finding a new hobby or goal is great advice. Something you can excel at without him, something for yourself. I have been in this sick spiral of holding out hope, wanting him to call, trying to get closure. It changes nothing in the end and holds you back. My counselor asked me who I was outside of my relationship. The best thing she could have said. I liked to hike before, but now I am really getting into it. I working out more, which is good anyway. I already have a trip planned to CO it's summer, and I'm planning some challenging hikes. I'm making this a new hobby. I'm telling you that it has saved me from the crying, depression, the wondering. It's about me.
BC1980 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 You have got to stop planning your life around him possibly coming back. I have been there, and it holds you back. It is so unfulfilling in the end, and you loose control. I am planning my new life based on myself, and he is the one who loses because he doesn't get to be a part of it. I don't lose because I am free from the emotional turmoil. I am lucky to have a job that allows me to move anywhere I want pretty much. We had talked about moving together, but I am seriously considering doing it myself now. See, I win in the end. Not him. 1
crederer Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Well it's likely I'm going to find out sooner or later.... But I guess in the end it doesn't matter. She will find someone and probably soon as she's very attractive and gets hit on all the time. Just something I'm going to have to deal with I guess.
crazy1234 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Remain in the dark.. until I dont feel a thing and is strong enough to see/hear things about them.
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