Mirandaxo Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 (edited) K this is gonna be kinda long, bear with me. I need help and advice from people. So me and my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years (next month would've been our 2 years) he was in the coast guard in california and i live in az. For a long distance relationship we spent alot of time together.. His family lives here so he was down here about every month every other month for a couple of weeks.. Just recently he went to a school for 3 months and for this last month he was stationed in New York. We planned from the moment he found out that I would be moving out there with him and we would start our lives finally.. We barely ever really had huge arguments just little ones here and there because he was very insecure.. He was controlling a little in a way but I didn't mind and I knew we would get the chance to finally work on our relationship when I moved with him.. For the last couple months we talked everyday and told eachother how much we loved eachother and how excited we were and la la la. He was my bestfriend we knew eachother inside out, he wasn't my first boyfriend but I was his first actual girlfriend. I bought my plane ticket and started feeling a little overwhelmed about having everything at home set in stone before I made such a big move and expressed this to him.. In return he broke up with me over texts and told me i deserved better and that he loves me but not enough for me to move an start my life with him. It was the biggest shock because the day before we were so lovey and everything was normal.. I begged him and told him we just haven't seen eachother in awhile lets just plan a trip where I see you first and talk about everything and he told me this is the best decision he is sticking to his guns and we will not be together.. He said he wants to find himself and be alone.. We haven't been broken up for a week and he still texts me here and there.. But he wont skype me or facetime me because he says it will be harder and he just wants to get over me. he said he wont love me like he use to. I'm so confused and so hurt. I just don't understand this at all. I love him so much plz help Edited May 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Mirandaxo Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Any advice?? It's been two weeks now and the first week I ignored him and did my own thing.. He texted me asking if I was okay and why he hasn't heard from me for a little.. Didn't text back. Finally the other day I texted him back and at the e d of the conversation he told me to get the best out of life and that he loves me.. And that he loved me once he saw me smile...?? Confusion
CTP Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Maybe the date was getting close and the fact that you really were going to move to be closer him really became reality in his head and he's just overwhelmed? I think this whole time your relo has been long distance and that's just what he's used to. And the moment you expressed doubt, he probably felt that was his last chance to get out of it.. I really wouldn't know what to do if I was you, but I think the smart option would be to just stop speaking to him. If he loved you enough he would be more than happy for you to move to be with him. But he's having doubts and it has been on going for over a week like you said, and he hasn't changed his mind. Don't let his sweet words fool you.. Look at his actions. 1
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