Easyguy14 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I cant help but wonder how often men have to put up with this. This young woman I'm seeing now has been late 3 times already and I finally told her to cut it out. She looked disturbed by that. Oh well because I put up with other women in the past doing the same thing 98% of the time. They're just never on time and I cant understand why. This has been a pet peeve for me and I think many other guys so ladies can you speed it up?!
todreaminblue Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I cant help but wonder how often men have to put up with this. This young woman I'm seeing now has been late 3 times already and I finally told her to cut it out. She looked disturbed by that. Oh well because I put up with other women in the past doing the same thing 98% of the time. They're just never on time and I cant understand why. This has been a pet peeve for me and I think many other guys so ladies can you speed it up?! I am a complete dag and arrive early....normally.....and funnily enough the guys i have dated are early too......must wanna see me even though i am deb the dag...;0).....deb 1
CarrieT Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Being a Marine Corps brat, I am compulsive punctual to the tune of being ten minutes early for everything. Being a trained chef, when I tell people I am serving dinner at 7:00 and they show up at 7:15, it is guaranteed that they have missed the first course... I think being late is rude and inconsiderate; I don't tolerate it... 5
pyramid Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Barring unforeseen circumstances... never. I'm usually early and driving around aimlessly. 3
FitChick Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I strive to be on time for a date. You never know, though, with traffic, weather, public transportation, depending on where you live. Call if you are going to be more than fifteen minutes late. It's just good manners.
Treasa Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Being a Marine Corps brat, I am compulsive punctual to the tune of being ten minutes early for everything. Not a Marine Corps brat, but I'm the same way. I was even two weeks early for my birth. 2
shexy Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I'm one of those people that's always early....I hate being late. 1
BluEyeL Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I'm never late, unless something really happens, like police stopping me or something. But I usually take enough time to be there 10 minutes early or so and wait in the car until the time.
Fondue Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 There's only one girl in my dating history that was been on time and punctual to our dates. No other woman has ever arrived on time. It really irks me. I once mentioned this to my female cousin. And all she said is, "you can't be a upset about that, it's just a 'girl thing.'" That kind of pissed me off even more.
BluEyeL Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 There's only one girl in my dating history that was been on time and punctual to our dates. No other woman has ever arrived on time. It really irks me. I once mentioned this to my female cousin. And all she said is, "you can't be a upset about that, it's just a 'girl thing.'" That kind of pissed me off even more. It's not "a girl thing". It's rude. 1
PogoStick Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 On 1st dates from OLD women seem to show up early. A few dates in they seem to get comfortable and often are 30 minutes late. At least they text a heads up but it does get annoying.
AMusing Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I'm ashamed to admit, I'm one of the frequently late women. I hate it--being late stresses me out--but I'm still late about 1/2 - 1/3 times I meet someone. Usually it's about 10-15 minutes late, but yesterday I was almost half an hour late to meet my boyfriend (extenuating circumstances, being that late is very rare). I always call to apologize when I realize I won't make it in time, but I still feel guilty, and I still manage to be late the next time, too. My excuse: the town I lived in until I was 25 was quite small. You could easily drive across town, park, & walk to the meeting spot within 15 minutes (and usually have time to check your makeup). Now I live in a big city, where 45 minute drive times aren't rare, getting lost is crazy easy, and finding a parking spot can be challenging. Adjusting to the extra travel time has proven strangely challenging for me. Google maps always underestimates how long it'll take. I swear, every time I leave thinking I have plenty of time, something happens. I miss my exit, there is unexpected road construction, I drive to the wrong place, I get hopelessly lost, or I happen across a road race that slows traffic. My boyfriend is a very patient man.
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 My boyfriend is a very patient man. If I were seeing someone who was new in town, I would be too
carhill Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I cant help but wonder how often men have to put up with this. I dated a lot and very rarely had to 'put up' with women being late, generally because I picked them up at home, a relatively old-fashioned practice. It was rare that they weren't 'ready to go'. As an interesting example of a dichotomy, my exW did suffer a bit from 'late-itis' but was totally punctual to all our MC sessions for over a year. I found that to be instructive. If 'being on time' is important to you, simply stop dating those who don't meet the standard. Just like ladies have standards, you, as a man, have standards too. No fan-fare, no big revelations. Just move on. If you must use a line, I got this one from a woman: 'Do I have to spell it out for you?' Love it. Good luck. 1
crederer Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 How late are we talking here? If it's only a few minutes, no big deal. Girls tend to underestimate how long it'll take them to get ready. But if you're talking 45 minutes late, yeah, that's a problem.
Emilia Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 When an ex of mine and I lived quite close to each other, it was easy because we kept in touch while we were getting ready and left the house roughly at the same time. Men are ok with being on time usually though.
Phoebe Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Not a Marine Corps brat, but I'm the same way. I was even two weeks early for my birth. I was two weeks late and I've been a procrastinator ever since. Most times it's only 5-10 minutes and I always call and apologise, but I understand how frustrating it can be. I had a friend who was so consistently late that I started giving her meet times that were 30 minutes earlier then what I actually planned, and sometimes even that 30 minutes wasn't enough!
Jane2011 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I don't think I've ever been late to a date within the first five dates. If I kept dating him and things got comfortable, sure there's lateness along the lines of (especially when just going to the guy's place): "8:15 instead of 8. Have to run an errand really quick." I do that with my current boyfriend all the time. In general, I'm probably 40% of the time about 5 to 10 minutes early for things, 40% right on time, maybe 20% five to ten minutes late but gave the person I'm meeting a heads-up that I was a little behind.
daisybuchanan55 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 If a girl is 5-10 minutes late every so often that's acceptable, I think. More than that and it's rude. 1
Philosopher Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 For me, I'm ok if women are up to five minutes late, any longer though and it does give off a fairly bad initial impression. How I see is that you wouldn't be late for a job interview as it would give off a bad impression and will probably cost you the job. For first dates it should be similar.
apple OR orange Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 i never aim to be late, but if the traffic is bad, then i am late, anyone who has a go at me gets my local MP email address and number, then hears how i pay tax like they do, so launch themselves at the MP and government who created the "road / tax / we dont give damn about traffic" system rather than at me.
Author Easyguy14 Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 There's only one girl in my dating history that was been on time and punctual to our dates. No other woman has ever arrived on time. It really irks me. I once mentioned this to my female cousin. And all she said is, "you can't be a upset about that, it's just a 'girl thing.'" That kind of pissed me off even more. I heard this excuse before too and it irritated me more than ever and no one gives me a better reason than such a ridiculous answer.
Adele0908 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I am always late for dates. The only thing that would make me come on time is if the man told me he would be leaving at a certain time. That's the only thing that would make me be on time. Teehee
KaterinaVon Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Maybe you have been dating more carefree women ? Some people have this totally laid back, not worried about anything, don't bend over backwards for anyone type of attitude. They show up when they get there, whenever that may be. If someone is interested in seeing you, they will show up on time or show up early, not make you wait. You can either date more responsible women, or you can give them the hand you're dealt and show up whenever it's convenient for you and make them wait on you.
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