Golden blonde Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) I met an awesome guy about 6 months ago. We hit it off in a great relationship. He is supportive, and I feel so incredibly comfortable when I am with him. A few months into our relationship, he started doing things that were well...irregular. He would show up sometimes 2 hours late, or say that he was stopping to fish for an hour before he would come over. By time he would get to my place it would be around 9 o'clock, and he knows that I have to be up for work at 6am. So I can't exactly get my night started at 9, or 10 on a weekday. Sometime he would go 2 days or so and not call. (He is a doctor and works 15 hours shifts overnight). I never really said it bothered me I just kind of moved on past it. Well shortly after that I noticed every time he would come over he would shove his face in his laptop, either to skype with family back home or watch a movie or show. After a while it started to bother me so I kindly approached him about it and he said that he works 15 hour shifts and all his free time he spends with me so he doesnt see what the big deal is. Ok....I learned to deal with it. About a month or so later his boss decided to take him out for beers and introduce him to a "collegue". This girls turns out to have the hots for my boyfriend....real bad! She was constantly texting/calling him trying to make plans. I stressed my concern about this and he said that they are just friends and he doesnt even reply. (I checked, he didn't) He swore up and down he was not interested and was totally into me. Anyways....few months later. (Last week) His boss decides to put together a paddle boarding trip. Of course I was invited to go but I was unable to because I was taking medication where I could not have exposure to the sun I put my game face on and did the best I could to suck it up because this "collegue" who has the crush on him was going to go. Anyways he tells me a few days later he is not going to go and he would rather spend time with me. That night we cooked went out had a fabulous evening together. The next morning (the day of the paddle boarding trip) He all of the sudden decided he wants to go, spur of the moment kind of thing I said ok call me when you get back and we will all meet up with you and your co-workers for drinks. He calls me again to make sure I didnt want to go. I called him back and asked what time they would be back on the paddle board. He says "you know what don't worry about it we will get together another time" and beings to hang up. I called him back to kindly ask him what time they would be back..he begins to yell at me and says there are 15 people waiting for him and "You need to leave me alone, you fu**ing tuing my day and hangs the phone up on me. I was so upset he I began to cry. He was so mean and calouss and had not regard for me feelings. This is one one many times he has completly disregarded my feelings. I sent him a text message saying it was over. I was so upset and I was tired of him making me feel the way he does. Later that afternoon he texts me telling me there is nothing going on with him and the other girl he loves me and he wished I would have been there with them. I told him so that there was not next time he hurt me and I was done. Never heard from him since. About a week later I was really missing him and a felt although he messed up I over reacted a bit. I decided to give him a call....no answer....I text him....no answer, later on I saw that he was logged into facebook so I sent him a a message that said "I see you are giving me the silent treatment" no reply..... I have many things at his apartment clothes, shoes etc. Finally, I called him again, letting him know if he didnt want to talk to me that was fine, but I would like to have my things back. I told him you dont need to see me or cross paths, just please leave my stuff outside your door when you are not home. Later that afternoon he resurfaces. No call, no text. Just a reply to my facebook message from three days earlier that says. "It's not the silent treatment, I just need time and space right now thats all". So here I am today. Wishing I could go back in time and make things right. I should have just picked up the phone and called him that day after he texts me telling me how much he loved me and missed me. Instead I threw the books at him. I am missing him like crazy!!!!!! All I want is a chance to make things right again. So now I am sitting here trying to interpret his "I need time and space" message. Does this mean that he is done!? Thats it!? Or is he turning the table on me!? Please help me understand what his head is at! and what my next steps should be! Edited May 27, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs, USE Them Please
TaraMaiden Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 His head is at controlling phukkwit, and your next steps should be to send a friend to pick your stuff up. As for you - go No Contact, stay No Contact and leave the guy to his sorry, messed-up frenetic life. (see my signature - NOW!!) He chose it, nobody's holding a gun to his head, this is what he wants to do. Note: (I have asked a Moderator to break your post up into easy-to-read paragraphs. It took me 3 attempts to get through that lot without my eyes going squiggly....)
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