jehcann Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) me and my ex had a wonderful relationship it lasted 10 1/2 months. he ended it out of the blue one day and went back to his ex. i have no idea why, we werent fighting or auguring or anything. we were happy, honestly. him and his ex have a very toxic relationship and they arent good for each other. i think that god put them back together to show each other "it's not meant to be" you need to move on with your lives. sometimes it takes losing someone completely to see how right they are for you. (me) i know my ex loved me and i loved him deeply. we were bestfriends, lovers, soulmates and just outta the blue he left. i feel he left because stress in his family, trying to find a job, losing his grandma, us having a pregnancy scare etc. anyways. do you think im crazy for thinking this? do you think im dumb for thinking god is doing this? i believe in this so much i cant even cry over him. it's been 15 days since we've broken up and he hasnt tried contacting me any. ive texted him twice. im doing the NC to heal myself. im completely over the whole situation. im 99.9% moving on and done with everything but that .1% keeps me holding on. idk why im holding on. i deserve so much better then this situation but i know i dont deserve better then him. he's made me into the person that i am, we click on levels i didnt know it was possible to click on. he showed me what love truly was. we truly had an amazing relationship. idk what i should do. everyone close to him has told me he's making a mistake and he'll realize it in time. but at the same time my heart tells me he shouldve already seen it before he did it. why does he completely have to lose me in order for him to see what he has in front of him? that kills me. ive completely let him go and there is no way for him to contact me unless he unblocks me on fb. he was suppose to get a new phone and number a few days ago idk if he did or not. but im not contacting him even if i could. im not sitting around waiting on him im moving on with my life. but every day he pops in my head and every day my gut tells me "just wait a little longer, he's learning" and the one thing i listen to is my gut. it has never failed me, it even told me he was talking to his ex. so when it tells me to hold on idk if i should. i want to but i think more of me doesnt because of how much hurt im in. ive been in relationships before where i have loved someone but i never seen it going anywhere. but with my ex i never seen it ending, honestly. i dont break down crying anymore ive gotten to a point where im like screw it and i dont even care. idk if im lying to myself or not. im just so sick of this. ive put it all in gods hands, but i want to know that im not crazy. ever heard of the quote "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldnt have fallen for the second." this applies to us. has this happened to anyone? have you ever been dumped by an bf so he could go back to his ex and he realized his mistake and came back? have you ever dumped someone and went back to your ex and realized the mistake? and you went back to the person you shouldve stayed with? Edited May 27, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
aisuru Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I'm sorry you are hurting. It must be hard to know he returned to his ex. I would have a hard time with that. I personally, as far as I'm aware, have never had an ex leave me for their ex. Nor have I reconciled with an ex more than a couple weeks after a breakup. I have however, had every ex, with the exception of one from high school, contact me later down the road (months or years later) and most of them expressed an interest in reconciling at some point after contact resumed. By the time those conversations happened, I was no longer interested. Funny how that works. 1
smorgenHeckengard Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 you're not crazy. I think you're doing whats best by NC. Give it some time and if it's meant to be he'll come back. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful. But best of luck 2
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