I really like him, but I dont think i Love him? And now Ex is Back in the picture.

[stopthemadness]

O-la everyone. i havent been on here in a while but here goes. I went through a really bad break up a few years ago. And in no way am I over my ex.I only say that because am just gona keep it real. So after my B/U i went on line to POF and met a really nice man. At first i thought that maybe he could be my boyfriend.( He really likes me) so i went into it fearless and gave it a chance. I like talking to him, were are very close. I like hanging out with him dinner movies all that. It dont bother me when he holds my hand, it dont bother me when he puts his hand on my waist. I dont mind sitting really close.....BUT no, I dont wanta kiss him, I dont feel the need to run my fingers through his hair..lol...

Heres where it gets juicy..after not talking to my ex for like 7 months. He came by my house. I had just lost my job and was feeling really down. We meet up a few times at the park just to talk. He told me that he wants me in his life. I really missed him!! And had he not pissed me off by saying smthing really dumb we'd still be talking. Any hoo, now am dealing with the both of them!! And its too much..No i dont wanta stop talking to my friend, Id miss him. And I really like hooking up with my ex (smile)...my daughter says"Mom your not with anyone" is that how I should look at it? My ex knows about my friend, but he also knows am not sleeping with him. In fact me and ex were together once when friend texed me. Ex didnt seem to mind at all..Ex says am the only one hes "seeing" and i believe him...What a mess huh? What to do ???

[subversive]

You said yourself that you are not over your ex. Does it honestly have any more potential than sex? Seems like a good way to get hurt.

 

As for the friend, are you just not attracted to him? How long have you been seeing him? Maybe it needs some more time for you to feel ready for more physical contact, or maybe you are leading him on.

 

Right now, you aren't with anybody, so you can do as you please. Your friend may not feel that way if he finds out you are sleeping with your ex, though. Even though you have the technical right to do so, it may kill any chances of a real relationship if you decide you want that with this friend.

 

Don't let your ex draw you in, and don't lead this other guy on if you can't be more than friends.

[honestyisbest]

You must not think much of your friend to play him like that. I'll bet he already knows and wishes you had been honest enough to tell him. I think we all look for honesty in a relationship or friendship. Ask yourself, is lying to your friend who you really are? Is that how you'd like your friend to treat you? Is the lie worth loosing your friend? Good luck stopthemadness, sounds like you created a big mess.